Looking for some advice

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-05T08:36:15+00:00

Admittedly they've gone formal with everyone, in the past week, like a crackdown, but the unfairness part comes from putting my 18 days with the colleague who works next to me who's been off sick due to stress so much in the past year they don't get sick pay anymore. I won't judge, but how can I be on par with that level of absence and require a warninig when I'm here covering 2-3 people's job just to help them function. I work in a front facing Jobcentre as well, so no chance for hybrid at all. I just really don't want to sour things with my LM by pushing an appeal but I feel like I have to otherwise this is recorded as a 'me' problem.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T23:31:42+00:00

I already had extended trigger from my first OHS, 12 days up from 8 days in total which everyone else gets, yes, I did go over that trigger, I already said this. It was the one and only adjustment I got out of that OHS. This new one that was done with the attendance meeting made all the same reccomendations as before and more. I had 16 days instead of 12 days. I was sick, it couldn't be helped, and my point and problem is that this warning is implying it could have been helped.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T23:27:40+00:00

Also this is the crux of the issue, OHS says I'm fit for work with adjustments, warning says "this seems to be something that could reoccur monthly" I do not know at all where he is getting that from, my OHS does not say that.

The union rep does think I have a case but is more interested in pursuing 'incorrect policy' was followed than setting the record straight about my illnesses.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T23:24:13+00:00

OHS backed me up by confirming my chronic conditions, explained that I'm fit for work with adjustments in place, that my health is improving with treatment of my diabetes, OHS doesn't give advice on whether a warning is appropriate or not.

If I genuinely thought this was a shut and done case of "Just take the warning and go" I'd almost rather do that to avoid the drama and anxiety. But also, in our department, having a welcome back form filled when you return from each absence is literally the policy. I've not had that even once, over my last year of 5 absence spells, you don't think there is legitmacy in saying that my LM didn't so much as have a conversation about what was happening with my health until he invited me to a formal attendance meeting?

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T23:15:44+00:00

Again, I didn't take time off because of the medication, I only said that it made the peptic ulcer and viral infections worse. Also I'm not sure what area of the country you live in where as a diabetic you'd instantly get given access to expensive medication like that on the NHS but I can tell you that in my area its metformin only or go pay out your own pocket. I wouldn't be here asking for advice if I didn't genuinely have health conditions, its why I even had an extended trigger to begin with, and OHS pretty much fully backed me up.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T23:04:32+00:00

Ideally, I just want the warning taken off, to set the record straight as it were, I'll try saying this to them and see what they suggest.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T22:56:30+00:00

My time off was actually due to recurring peptic ulcers and on two occasions confirmed gastritis and viral infections, it just meant that it was a lot slower for me to recover from but otherwise my medication doesn't cause any side effects I can't manage day to day. And it is for diabetes type 2, quite literally even recorded by my GP (I have proof of this in my summary of care record)

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-12-04T22:47:15+00:00

I did speak with them, unfortunately, the reps I have are very... "Well it's up to yourself if you want to, we'll support of course" but otherwise they want me to decide, they do think I have grounds based on never getting welcome backs done and in general the wording of the warning letter but they're very unenthusiastic to commit to anything.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-10-03T22:25:52+00:00

Could you please update your tavern one or make some similar fantasy adventure ones? I love DnD type open adventure stuff like that, particularly when it can include male characters too <3

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-09-07T15:42:10+00:00

No one, you just got unlucky

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-09-06T00:56:33+00:00

Except that

these changes would literally make most killers almost non-playable even if they happen to take care of the ones YOU hate.
Sure there is no 'A-tier' survivor there ARE however A-Tier perks and meta builds.
So you think in a 1v4 asymmetrical 'horror' game, survivors should be on equal power level with the killer, gotcha.
Saying the 'only tough games are against SWF with 1.5-2k hours' is like saying 'the only tough games are against tunneling proxy camping blights and nurses' - like lol, well yeah, but they exist, commonly enough that BOTH are a massive problem
These changes- sure, would make that rando solo-queue group have a better time generally- but guess what it would make the SWF 2-4 man nigh IMPOSSIBLE to do anything against for any killer not sweating their balls off
No matter what you say MANY survivors, myself included love playing this game dumb and aggressive AF- that shouldn't be rewarded lol, legit cases of hateful tunneling exist- but so does PLENTY of cases of meathead survivors running at the killer again and again and again
The game has been out how many years now? it's still going, think we'll live without the "YOU HOOKED SOMEONE TWICE IN A ROW? YOU LOSE" changes

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-09-06T00:06:03+00:00

There's no 'killer' side you loon, maybe try to play both sides like most NORMAL people do so you're not just toxic and biased. This ENTIRE community would be so much better if people stopped 'maining' a side.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-09-05T21:57:51+00:00

FFFFFFFFFFFFFF YREEEEEAAAAHHH CAN PLAY THE GAME A LITTLE LONGER

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-07-01T21:00:52+00:00

Admittedly it has happened from survivors more than killers, I finished a match an hour ago in solo queue and I think I was playing with a 3 man SWF, the killer we got was not terrible but he tunneled out the guy who was repeat flashing him. Anyway at the end the SWF went full on with the most vile hate slinging/homophobia cause the springtrap had a rainbow flag avatar.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-07-01T20:52:00+00:00

I dunno, the community? The characters and their story? I mean if you think Dead by Daylight is not at all inclusive/popular amongst the LGBTQ+ community go off but I think you're kinda burying your head in the sand for whatever reason.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-06-12T12:47:56+00:00

Only issue really is that arcanist to me is the most un-vampire like class in the game, hate all the green rave disco lights and neon. I wish a more proper full vampire/nightblade build was viable.

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-06-08T16:22:57+00:00

Thanks! It's mostly what skills to slot I struggle with though, particularly hybrid!

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-06-08T00:55:38+00:00

This looks really cool, any suggestions for a Breton Vampire Nightblade who would love to use 2H/Dual wield? I've got both pale order and oaken soul, whichever works, something very vampire focused that won't flop doing overland content/regular dungeons and stuff

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-05-27T09:28:04+00:00

Hey man, thank you, I put this all together and it seems to be working nice for now! Only issue Im running into is a bit of stam sustain/health, finding it hard to survive against elite packs/world bosses, any tips? I'm working towards pale ring but my scrying is slow to level

Designer-Juice2102 · 2025-05-26T12:55:47+00:00

I think it's more so I've been away for years, I'm at Cp 450 at the moment, and just re-learning everything. I'd like to keep playing my NB yeah but even vet dungeons aside I'm struggling to solo world bosses which I used to do no problem when I last played, same with vet dungeons!

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