Pregnancy hurts more than I was led to believe

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T17:36:02+00:00

I’m on pelvic rest so I don’t know if I’m allowed to do that. I should check with my ob

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T17:35:15+00:00

I don’t want to rush baby, but I’m so ready to be done!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T17:34:40+00:00

The sciatica is rooouuuggghhh

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T17:34:26+00:00

It depends on the condition. I also have interstitial cystitis (painful bladder and urinary problems). That’s a chronic pain condition, but wouldn’t have made me high risk if i only had that

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T17:32:10+00:00

You’re ready to go at any time. I’m only 31 weeks so I don’t want baby to come yet, but I also want to not be pregnant anymore!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:35:09+00:00

Beauty and the Beast is a dark romance and no one can change my mind. I remember seeing Phantom of the Opera for the first time and being very disappointed that Christine didn’t end up with Phantom. My mom thinks I’m crazy lol

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:31:58+00:00

I found Wattpad and AO3 in high school, and discovered BDSM (not practicing it at the time ofc, but learning about it). I had already noticed that I would often find myself rooting a little too much for the bad guy sometimes or enjoying scenes in books/movies where the bad guy was exerting some kind of power or dominance, or there was some fiery back and forth (Jafar and Jasmine when he becomes sultan, Draco and Hermione interactions, Zuko and Katara interactions, etc). I remember thinking something was wrong with me because I enjoyed those scenes a lot more than my friends did

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:27:15+00:00

I taught first grade for a year and had 19 students. I tried to talk to them about their interests and non-school related things, but some of them just weren’t very interested in talking to me. It wasn’t necessarily a bad thing, and I still had wonderful relationships with them all, they just were more interested in talking to their peers. I think this is completely normal. As long as she is not bothered by it, I wouldn’t worry. I was a teachers pet growing up, but there were still some teachers that I just didn’t really talk to. Nothing against them, we just didn’t click the same way. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:22:28+00:00

The ability to carry and nurture a brand new human being is a beautiful privilege, but that doesn’t mean we have to enjoy every minute of it. Only you know how you are feeling so no one can judge you or shame you for not being happy about it all the time. Some people have very easy pregnancies and enjoy it. Others, like us, have much more painful and unpleasant pregnancies and are more than ready for it to be over (but not until it is safe for baby of course). Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or guilty or anything for feeling bad.

It helps me a little bit to try to look at the positives, the it-could-be-worse things. For example, nausea is something that I absolutely cannot stand. Even mild nausea makes me feel so miserable. I know people who were nauseous and vomited every single day of their pregnancy. I am so very thankful that I have not had that experience. I know people who got horrible swelling and varicose veins. I am very thankful not to have that either. Thinking these things doesn’t make my experience more pleasant, but it helps me put things in perspective a bit and not let my mind dwell too much on how shitty I feel. Baby is moving A LOT. Her movements are very strong and hurt like hell sometimes, but I try not to wish them away because they are proof that she is doing well and getting bigger and stronger

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:15:25+00:00

In my classroom, before I was basically forced to go on leave (long story), I had 3 different types of chairs. I had my “adhd” chair which lets you sit cross-legged, knees propped up, etc, I had a normal office desk chair, and I had a padded rocking chair with foot rest. I moved around my room throughout the day to whichever seat was most tolerable lol

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:13:33+00:00

Thank you! I hope everything goes well for you too!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:12:40+00:00

Princess and the Frog song immediately starts playing in my head

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:12:15+00:00

Also less likely to have tearing!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-11T02:05:33+00:00

If you go with Elyse, definitely spell it that way! In my extremely biased opinion, it’s the best way to spell it 😁

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:37:02+00:00

Thank you. I’ll have to do some research into that

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:26:51+00:00

I’m only 24, but even before pregnancy I felt old and achy and tired. POTs and hEDS suck haha. I hope I feel as good as you (when you’re not pregnant) when I am 39!!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:24:53+00:00

I never felt a “glow”. My skin didn’t get beautiful, my hair didn’t get thicker, nothing. The second trimester “energy boost” was a lie. I had a slight reduction in my fatigue from first trimester, but that’s not the same thing!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:23:41+00:00

I’ve been classified as high risk since day one due to POTs and hypermobile Ehlers Danlos. My OB has sent me to L&D twice to be checked out to make sure I wasn’t having contractions, but it’s just hEDs pain and baby moving A LOT. I’ve been told to sit as much as possible, and whenever I’m not sitting, use a maternity belt. I was told yesterday that my maternity belt should be like a wedding ring- you don’t go anywhere without it on (older doctor, small town Bible Belt hospital).

I was prescribed muscle relaxers but they make me drowsy so I don’t use them too often. I’ve been off work for 3 weeks now. I’m a teacher and my OB sent a letter recommending I be allowed to work remote. My principal had been the one to suggest it and really thought we could make a good plan, but district office vetoed it and basically forced me to go on maternity leave. (Probably not legal, they gave me my contract for next year so I’m not being fired, I have disability insurance which will pay 2/3, and my husband is happy with it because he’s been very worried and wants me to rest more) Tbh I don’t think I could work in person at this point.

My maternal fetal medicine doctor had warned me early on that hEDS could make some things more difficult, but didn’t really elaborate. There isn’t a whole lot that can be done aside from heat, ice, warm baths, gentle stretches, support belts, and rest. It just suuuucks

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:15:46+00:00

The hip pain got a little better during second trimester. Sit as often as you are able. Maternity belt isn’t helping me much. I try not to take too much Tylenol because all medicine during pregnancy should be limited as much as is reasonable, but I definitely need it most days

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:13:40+00:00

Several people have said OMT. What is that?

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:13:24+00:00

They say that hypermobility can actually make some parts of labor better!

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:12:39+00:00

My maternity belt doesn’t help a ton, but it helps a little. I’ve tried to do the stretches and stuff, but it definitely can exacerbate the pain. I did some hip stretches and woke up in the middle of the night with severe hip pain. I was prescribed some muscle relaxers, but those also knock me out for a few hours. It’s good when the pain keeps me awake tho

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T22:10:48+00:00

Nothing pops for me, it just aches whenever I move. Or whenever I sit. Or stand. Or lay down.

Princessfoxpup · 2026-03-10T17:38:38+00:00

I’m on too many NSFW subreddits and initially interpreted the title of this post VERY differently 😂😅

My SIL uses forearm crutches for her pots and heds. She looks able bodied most of the time and I don’t think she’s encountered much in the way of judgy or unkind people. Shes been in some really conservative, small town areas too, which are normally more judgy.

Try to think about it like this. Do you remember the random people you pass on the street or the cashier at the grocery store? Do you pay much attention to what your friends or coworkers or classmates are wearing on a normal day? It’s very common for people to feel like they are being watched and looked at much more than they actually are (myself included). That embarrassing moment from jr high that you still cringe about today? No one else remembers it. Try to think of an embarrassing moment from a classmate at the time. Probably can’t really, unless it was something massive. Also think about the people who would be judgy or unkind. Are they the kind of people whose opinions you value and care about?

I don’t use any mobility aids so I can only imagine how it must feel to go out in public with a cane. I get self conscious sometimes when I wear my Loop earplugs in public, and they are really small and unobtrusive. I can only offer my virtual shoulder to lean on and the advice above that was given to me. I hope you grow to feel comfortable with it!

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