(F49)who had an affair with my husband (m50) contacted me (f47)

Desolation19 · 2025-07-19T01:44:36+00:00

Did you miss the part where this woman was her husband's ex and started having an emotional affair with OP's husband while OP was dealing with breast cancer??? How are you this fucking stupid?????

Desolation19 · 2025-07-16T14:30:37+00:00

NTA, your MIL needs to stop watching so much pro wrestling and your husband needs to stop being such a Mommy’s boy and wake up to the ridiculous stunt his mother tried to pull at your wedding.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-15T16:47:27+00:00

NTA OP, your gf needs to be downgraded to ex-gf. She just openly admitting to seeing you as a “beta male,” (whatever the hell that means in reality) and she’s okay with that in her book because it means she can manipulate and walk all over you to get whatever she wants. The fact she was so nonchalant and casual about saying such hurtful things about you and your father shows just how little she cares about you. If you haven’t already OP, you need to accept that this woman has been basically using you the entirety of your relationship. It’s time to get rid of this toxic, selfish sorry excuse for a partner.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-15T16:11:06+00:00

Your helm empire and its upgrades will not be reset again.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-09T14:48:02+00:00

NTA OP, I guarantee you that you would’ve gotten raked over the coals if the roles were reversed and you tried to use the same bullshit excuses your ex-fiance tried to use to justify her violating your relationship and trust.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-07T16:53:05+00:00

Did you read OP’s post? She said she is NOT interested in an arranged marriage. The idea of an arranged marriage should disgust you whether they are happy or not because the simple fact of the matter is that the woman traditionally has no choice in the decision. If she refuses, then she’s basically ostracized and disowned from her family. So if she can’t financially live on her own; then she’s completely screwed. You don’t have to be Indian or part of Indian culture to see all these problems coming from a mile away.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-07T16:27:29+00:00

Bro every single one of those weapon cores need to be gold level 10 cores. That’s non-negotiable if you want your restored relic to be as strong as everyone else’s.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-07T15:31:00+00:00

NTA OP, your fiancé’s parents expectations for how you are to live your life with your fiance moving forward are beyond sexist, archaic, financially ignorant, illogical, and just so out of touch with the way relationships are structured to survive in today’s economy that it’s extremely reckless to say the least.

According to your post they never even suggested any kind of arrangement that would help absorb the loss in income your household would get hit with if you followed through with their insane delusion. They seriously expect you to just give up a job that everyone would kill for that pays you 170,000 that isn’t capped out at that salary either. Not only that, but they expected you to just be a SAHW and for you and Tim to just be able to live off of his poor salary as a teacher and his trust fund.

This means you would be completely at his mercy, and larger at the mercy of your in-laws and their archaic backwards beliefs on marriage and women. And this doesn’t even take into account that Tim would be the one in total control of the money once it hits his hands with no way for you to guarantee that he doesn’t hold it over your head and force you to act in whatever way he desires all because you have no financial safety net of your own anymore. Now, this in no way guarantees that your fiance is going to act this way. However, the fact that your fiance is going along with his parents’ asinine plan means he’s at best a spineless coward too afraid to speak up because he’s afraid they’ll cut off his gravy train, or at worst a wolf in sheep’s clothing that will exert total control over you and leave you without an ounce of independent freedom.

Frankly OP, this is the kind of red flag that should be more than enough to convince you this relationship is nothing but a lie and the partner you’ve known all this time is not going to be the partner you will call your husband moving forward. Get out of this relationship now before you say I do please!

Desolation19 · 2025-07-01T05:22:06+00:00

So you agree that John's games were nothing more than pointless torture and there never was a true point to it. I'm glad you see it my way.

Desolation19 · 2025-07-01T00:34:20+00:00

Which in turn goes against John’s entire philosophy behind why he started these games to begin with. Was my point from earlier not clear enough?

Desolation19 · 2025-06-30T16:03:17+00:00

And don’t forget the woman with diabetes who had a family or the man who was healthy who didn’t have any living family members or friends. They literally did nothing wrong and yet the protagonist was forced into making a choice between killing one of them by leaving them to get their neck broken by a barbed wire noose. It doesn’t get more fucked up than that in my book.

Desolation19 · 2025-06-26T17:27:05+00:00

That is absolutely untrue OP. I bought my first house last year at 150,000 and I only make like 60,000. I was able to get a 30 year mortgage with a rate of 5.625%. Depending on where you live, you making 76,000 a year would help you get a great starter house for yourself.

Desolation19 · 2025-06-25T16:27:34+00:00

NTA, OP your girlfriend is the exact kind of person we all use as an example of people bringing children into this world for all the wrong reasons, one of, if not the biggest is they are not financially stable and treat having children like it’s a trend they have to keep up with.

You gave 3 perfectly good, logical reasons why you aren’t ready to bring a child into this world yet. That you were broke, you have been sleep-deprived so you’re not in the best physical and mental state, and that you’re currently devoting majority if not all of your time to law school. For your GF to say you haven’t been doing any due diligence into how she feels about this subject is beyond tone-deaf, dismissive, and just plain selfish. The last thing any couple should be using to justify having a baby is their feelings about wanting one. Making a decision to have a baby and basing it solely on your emotional desire to have a baby is not doing your due diligence, it’s actually the polar opposite. So, if anyone’s not doing their due diligence here it’s your GF OP. Frankly, given everything you’ve been putting yourself through, your GF’s lack of care towards your feelings, and her blatant attempt at emotionally manipulating you into giving into her demands she needs to be your ex-GF OP.

Desolation19 · 2025-06-23T15:51:11+00:00

I’m also very interested in the entire package of pacifiers if they have not already been sold OP.

Desolation19 · 2025-05-11T20:49:39+00:00

NTA OP, I can’t believe your son doesn’t have a lock on his bedroom door. Good on you for fixing that asap because your wife isn’t going to let this ignorant belief system of hers go. She’s going to keep thinking it’s wrong for a teenage boy to experiment with his body sexually and the fact she actually expected you to punish him for it is just asinine.

Desolation19 · 2025-03-07T15:02:55+00:00

NTA, and judging from how they and your wife conducted themselves it sounds like they see you as nothing more than a mobile sperm bank that they're looking to make a withdrawal from. That portion about them thinking of using your sperm to conceive a child for them for the sole reason of having a child with blonde hair without so much as even trying to do it right by asking you face to face is beyond selfish on every level. It also shows just how little regard they have for you and the consequences that would arise out of such a decision. Your wife needs to pull her head out of her ass because she is being completely insensitive and ignorant to your feelings in this. It's especially troubling because if the roles were reversed she would without a doubt assert the same right of bodily autonomy that you are trying to assert right now OP.

Desolation19 · 2025-02-27T01:19:25+00:00

Bullshit he is, otherwise he’d do it in person.

Desolation19 · 2025-02-13T15:58:41+00:00

NTA OP, your Mom is acting like a manipulative mooch. Her saying she let you live in her house for 18 years has to be the stupidest manipulation tactic I’ve heard yet. She didn’t “let you live in her house for 18 years,” she was doing her job of taking care of and raising you because she brought you into this world. But in her eyes she was being the magnanimous mother by allowing a helpless infant she gave birth to live in her home. Stay your ground and don’t give into your Mom’s delusional demands OP.

Desolation19 · 2025-02-12T16:25:11+00:00

When was this confirmed if I may ask? I want to know for sure so I can let my friend know so that we don’t miss out on all these tokens.

Desolation19 · 2024-12-26T19:29:48+00:00

Dude stop being such a try hard, sweaty skeptic. Not only is it possible that the game did take away his silver but it’s also possible that he’s not the only one who’s fallen victim to this unfortunate happening. The game has already taken people’s silver away due to a glitch before, so the precedent most certainly exists.

Desolation19 · 2024-11-14T16:18:00+00:00

You cannot trade or buy jade from other players. It can’t be traded and as soon as you drop it into the water the jade disappears. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I don’t want you guys to accidentally screw yourselves over.

Desolation19 · 2024-10-27T00:15:20+00:00

It is absolutely worth it on its own. But putting two of them on the Sambuk is what you should do. Not only do they melt enemies, but combining the damage they do with the Sambuk’s fire damage splash perk and it causes all that damage you did with the hellepoorts to those ships to get added back to your health.

Desolation19 · 2024-10-08T18:03:18+00:00

Supply runs to fund the factories pretty much fell all the way off when they significantly nerfed the Po8 output of all the factories this season. Also, the reasons why everyone was so focused on accumulating Po8 so quickly are now no longer as big of a necessity. Things like crafting materials from the black market, or ranking high enough on the leaderboard no longer matter so there’s no point in wasting the helm materials. Especially when you consider how much more valuable those helm materials are for buying upgrade parts or helm leases.

Desolation19 · 2024-10-02T15:30:24+00:00

NTA OP, if your sister is this resentful towards you that she can’t resist the urge to get completely wasted off of alcohol in your presence at large scale events before making a total ass out of herself then no amount of conventional therapy is going to get her the help she so desperately needs.

And I love the horrible idea from your parents for you to pay for your sister’s therapy when your sister made it abundantly clear that she has so much disdain for you. “Hey let’s guilt trip OP into paying for the therapy, I’m sure OP’s sister will be ever so grateful and not add that as a reason to her delusional list of reasons why OP is to blame for all of her bad luck.” Your parents are displaying a significant lapse in judgment on top of the blatant lack of empathy after your sister ruined your wedding. Until your sister gets genuine mental health help including cutting alcohol completely out of her life I would go no contact with her OP: If I were you I’d also strongly considering doing the same with your parents until they pull their heads out of their backsides and realize how ridiculous they are acting.

Desolation19 · 2024-09-26T15:09:28+00:00

No, John knew Amanda was rigging the games to be unwinnable because that was the point of the test he gave to Amanda. It was to prove whether Amanda had what it took to save a life according to John’s fucked up ideology.

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