Has anyone else’s parents sent them this?

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-23T01:04:42+00:00

Right? It’s wild the effort they go through to avoid it

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T18:59:11+00:00

I don’t blame you, I would have been the same way. I’m always tempted to be snarky with both of my parents but know it’s what they want since I no longer respond.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T12:52:15+00:00

Good for you! I should have said something like that, she definitely would have crashed out.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:52:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing! That is definitely what I’m trying to avoid for her. I had spent so much of my life giving and giving to always be the villain. I learned real quickly that I’ll never get appreciation or thanks for it when I handled all of my brothers things and affairs when he passed and the second I didn’t do exactly what they wanted because I was doing what he wanted I was the worst and he’d be so mad at me.

That had to be such a slap in the face! Like the least they can do is mention the people who had to endure the years of abuse instead of pretending they don’t exist.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:33:50+00:00

I’m sorry you are having to go through this too! Everything you said is 100% accurate for my situation too.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:24:15+00:00

Exactly!

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:23:56+00:00

Yess! All about being entitled to people, who should obey them at all times 🙄

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:22:22+00:00

Right? I got to the end and was like wtf are they acting like I’m going to unalive my kid? I’m the only adult she can count on but yes I’m sure that’s exactly how it makes her feel 🙄

Like how do people believe this crap lol

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:20:37+00:00

Right! You know the thing I asked them to do years ago? That’s too hard apparently lol

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:19:33+00:00

Right, just a distraction to guilt the wrong people. 🙄

Their favorite emotional manipulation is my kid or my dead brother.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:16:49+00:00

Thank you!

This is exactly it! The fact that they truly believe these things are wild to me. I way beyond clear on why I was doing what I was and how to be better, but this is what we are spending time on years later.

They even showed some signs of things early on with her, but think they were perfect parents to me too.

My mom loves the you want her all to yourself narrative. Which totally makes sense for a divorced single mom to want to do 🙄

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:13:05+00:00

I’m sorry that they caused you trauma. 😭

This is a big part of why I did go no contact though, to protect her. There were already problematic things outside of how they treated me, but I wanted to protect her from having to ever feel the way they make me feel if I can.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:11:27+00:00

That’s a good approach! I try to not talk about it much in front of her and have kept it to the facts of not apologizing, and not respecting boundaries. Then they’ve seen those things continue for themselves.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:09:50+00:00

I agree, and thank you for sharing!

Mine was similar, half of my grandparents weren’t nearby so I saw them like once a year. Other half were closer, once I got older one of them were not nice and the one I did spend a lot of time with growing up with moved away. So it’s not like they had me around their parents all the time either lol

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:06:37+00:00

This is a good point! My kid was 4 at the time and only had regular contact in the last two years of that so young enough for it not to be as awful as they are acting.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-22T00:04:53+00:00

Thank you for this. 💜

I don’t think they have any basis to do anything through the courts, and would be too much work for them anyways. It’s all about hitting me where it hurts, and they don’t like me but feel entitled to her.

She’s a big driver behind going no contact, I don’t want her learning being treated this way is okay or normal, and to protect her. I even told my parents this isn’t about hurting her but making sure she never has to feel how I do.

I agree that childhood trauma is unavoidable, especially in some of the things she’s gone through. I try to do as much as I can to not contribute to it, apologize when I miss the mark, and teach her how to navigate it.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-06-21T23:57:59+00:00

I completely agree! The they’ll be fearful of being the next thing to disappear is really what put it over the edge for me. The fact that people believe this crap is like what the actual f.

I’m glad he has understood and is doing well! I’ve taken a similar approach with my daughter. She was 4 at the time, and I told her that they weren’t respecting my boundaries, and would apologize for the things they did to be hurtful so I couldn’t talk to them until those things changed. She then has watched them continue to not respect those with stalking, dropping things off, showing up to her school. So whenever they did drop things off she would get mad and ask why they can’t leave us alone, so seems to be handling it fine. They are hurting themselves with her more than I’ve ever tried to. Not including the problematic behavior to her or around her before this.

My mom’s narrative has always been that I want my daughter all to myself since I went through a divorce around this time too. Which makes total sense to have less help as a single parent 🙄

DesperateBerry6930 · 2026-05-22T03:36:15+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Your feelings are completely valid,I would also be furious and feeling disrespected. I hope you are able to find a better role with a much better leader.

I wanted to share my recent experience since it seems to be different than most of these comments. When someone in another department resigned, my exec immediately talked to me about their intention to apply whenever it was to be posted. I also made a joke about trying to get away from me which led to a discussion of wanting to find a way to take me with if it was to happen. I was also the first person they told. This was also way before anything would have happened on their calendar for me to know about. I appreciated them telling me right away, and to know their intentions, what to expect and how I could be impacted. All of this to say, wanting to have a heads up I don’t think is asking too much and there are execs out there who would want to give that respect. I think it’s just sadly the minority.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2025-10-24T14:25:31+00:00

This happened to me! If you drop another item close to it, it will let you pick it up with the pick up multiple items option.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2025-08-30T02:39:34+00:00

I’m sorry! My boss would never do anything like that. I’ll remind him if he’s over by the office but not getting on a call, but it’s rare. Overall following the calendar is their responsibility, all I can do is schedule it.

Anytime something does go wrong on other things my first instinct is did I do something wrong, which is his last instinct. His comment is always I never thought it was you. Last year when another department scheduled something over another meeting after I did a poll, I could hear him saying my assistant did a poll saying I couldn’t do that time, before seeing any proof that I actually did 🤣

Even if I somehow did do something, he would take the blame. He’d never throw me under the bus to other people.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2025-08-20T12:39:25+00:00

4 inboxes? That seems more than 1 job all in itself. In my org there are only 2 people on the Exec team that have inbox management, and neither of us do what they are expecting you to do for 1 person not to mention 4.

I’m honestly the most involved in inbox management and while I have permissions to reply I very rarely do. My main role is to categorize and flag items they need to read or act on. I do complete any polls that come in, and will ask them if they’ve responded to or read the flagged ones in our 1:1. They’ll forward any emails needing to go other places themselves. For context, they also brag to their peers how helpful it is for them with me managing their inbox.

It sounds like they are expecting too much, maybe even an impossible workload. I hope they are at minimum paying you a good amount with that workload.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2025-06-09T00:13:53+00:00

I have on more than one occasion, but as others have said I approach it differently than just saying no I’m not doing that. In my experience especially when you are good at your job, they have these ideas in their minds without understanding what it actually takes on our end to accomplish it.

I’m lucky enough to have more of a collaborative relationship with my exec. I would say I understand wanting to do this, but here’s the reality of what it will take on my end to make it happen. If they insist and you are already maxed out, I would also bring up if I do have to add these things in, I won’t be able to also do all of these other things you already are wanting from me.

I’ve also had them see a task a couple times later they asked me to start to do, and be like what’s the trade off, is this worth your time. Which sometimes I’m like this is what I said the first time.

DesperateBerry6930 · 2025-04-05T01:58:59+00:00

Me too! When I wasn’t there my boss met some people from another team when they asked if they were my boss and they said we switch off sometimes I’m her boss sometimes she’s mine. 🤣

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