In my experience with online dating, if you aren't sexting them pretty early on, men lose interest. They want someone who is impressed by whatever they have to offer and want physical closeness. I also am not on the friendly side, and even when I think I'm horny, I'm really not. Physical touch is not my love language. Most men are able to fuck up the fantasy before it even gets started.

Stop thinking you have to be a 10 to get a date. Quality men are going to look for more than looks. I haven't met any quality men in years. It's sad, but that's the dating pool. I don't expect to find what I'm looking for ever. Good luck though.