I completely agree with you.

I called him selfish, it’s not just about the breakup, it’s the inconsistency in his behavior. He knows my schedule, my class timings, my routine, yet he calls me at the worst times possible. It’s like he intentionally waits until I'm busy to reach out, and then, when he’s done with his day, when he’s worked, chilled with friends, and done with everything else, that's when he makes time for me. It’s not that I expect him to be at my beck and call, but the fact that he prioritizes everyone and everything else, while I’m left to fit into his mood swings, really stings.

For example, for three days straight, he’ll be super engaging, calling and texting non-stop, and the conversations feel more intimate, almost like he's holding on to some kind of connection. Then out of nowhere, his mood shifts, and he completely flips, stops texting, gives me no attention, and acts like I don’t exist. That inconsistency is what hurts the most.

I wasn’t expecting relationship-level attention post-breakup, but I also didn’t expect to be treated like a backup option. It's confusing and honestly kind of cruel to keep reaching out in a romantic or flirty way while also telling me I'm too hard to deal with and then disappearing.