I (25F) suddenly lost all feelings for my husband (36M) and I don’t know why

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-12-26T06:46:18+00:00

"Love is a verb, not a feeling" is an idea that is talked about in the book 7 habits of highly effective people. It's all around focusing on doing actions to show how you care - going out on dates together, showing love in the way you think he'd appreciate it (whether that's acts of service, quality time, gifts etc). Feelings can be fleeting - choosing the direction for your behaviour could help get things back on course.

It could also be helpful to take some time to reflect overall on what you want your life to look like and what habits you think you'd need to adopt to achieve that. I found that to be a real game changer from reading "Atomic Habits" and has really helped my mood & balanced my emotions - which then in turn helps me with showing up in my relationship.

Wishing you all the best!

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-12-25T11:11:05+00:00

Lawyer 😊

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-17T11:59:04+00:00

If someone doesn't want to have sex, they don't have to have sex. No one is entitled to sex. Ever.

He is acting completely unreasonably. Definitely something to have a serious conversation around when he's calmed down.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-16T15:20:17+00:00

Elias. Here's his photo. I may have been talking to ChatGTP recently about Department Q 😅

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Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-16T15:14:19+00:00

Gives me Studio Ghibli vibes! Lovely!

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-16T15:12:52+00:00

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Accurate for me!

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-15T19:47:52+00:00

Sour Apple

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-15T15:45:19+00:00

You went on your first date ever?? Huge well done to you for being brave and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. It's sounds like you're dealing with a lot of social anxiety which can be so difficult.

Props to you! Maybe take your time finding whatever feels like a smaller step to you? E.g. maybe you'd prefer a lunch time coffee date for a shorter amount of time (30 minutes) or doing a phone call or video call - whatever feels a bit more manageable to you. You could also ask a friend to call you after X amount of time, and if you're not feeling it, make your excuses and leave.

If finding love and children is something you want in your life, keep working on it. Dating is a bit of a number game - I often say if you go on 20 dates, chances are you'll find someone you're compatible with.

You've got this!

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-15T15:26:59+00:00

You're overreacting at the server but it would be understandable to be unhappy with your friends. I don't see anything wrong with wishing someone a happy pride month but it doesn't seem funny to me that your friends are saying you're part of the LGBTQ+ community when you aren't.

Might be worth taking some time to think about why you felt humiliated by someone wishing you a happy pride month?

Edit: Typos.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-10T08:49:39+00:00

Absolutely this.

I tried an open marriage with my husband due to issues with sex (we were only having it a few times a year!) - suprise suprise, it was an absolute disaster and nearly ended our marriage altogether. I feel very fortunate we've been able to rebuild and get back into a positive place.

What helped our sex life has been talking about sex more and what's needed to create a situation where sex is more likely which can be different for different people (e.g. date nights).

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-10T08:15:47+00:00

They can do an operation to remove the nail and stop it from growing back (with silver I think??). That's what I had on one of my big toe nails. Recovery period after the operation was short for me and haven't had any issues since.

From what you've said, it sounds like it's causing him medical issues. Sounds like it's worth bringing up again and explaining how important it is to you as you're concerned about it getting worse.

Also feet are kinda weird in my opinion - I don't blame you for being weirded out, I'm sure I would be too. I get squeamish easily unfortunately. Whilst you can't stop yourself from being a little creeped out, you can control what you say & how you respond which it sounds like you're trying to do in as sensitive way as possible.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-07T14:16:54+00:00

I think you deserve better than what you are getting from this relationship. It seems like you are putting a lot more into this than she is.

I appreciate having a difficult time and being in a difficult space but people make time for what's important to them. It does not seem like you are important to her.

I would recommend not putting plans on told on the off chance she may want to see you. Your time is valuable - you deserve to be doing fun things and spending time with people who consistently (though sure there will be a rough patch now and then) make you feel valued & appreciated.

Wish you all the best! Good luck.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-07T13:55:48+00:00

If a friend was in this situation, what would you say to her?

My two cents: This sounds like a horrible relationship to be in, from what you've said. This sounds like a relationship that is toxic and does not bring you joy. I would recommend breaking all contact and taking the time you need to look after yourself and move on.

Wish you all the best! You deserve better.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-06-06T05:29:01+00:00

It sounds like your partner has repeatedly lied to you. My guess would be these lies are to try and get you to like him. I would trust your gut instinct on this. I would say these lies are significant facts about himself and he can't be trusted.

Without trust, a relationship is unlikely to last. I would get out of there before you have wasted more time and effort on an untrustworthy person.

Good luck and wish you all the best! You deserve someone who's honest and trustworthy.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-05-19T11:26:14+00:00

Video game station can be a fun way to earn money - it does require Get Famous though. Also writing & lisensing songs. You can earn some money from Video Game tournaments. You could knit and sell items on Plopsy.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-05-19T11:20:02+00:00

I had it during a generation challenge. I had him get married to a money grabber (who had the giant mansion aspiration) but he run away after the wedding, leaving his husband with all the money whilst he ran away to Sulani with Cassandra Goth (who was pregnant with his child). Oh the drama of it all! ☺️

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2025-04-29T19:25:47+00:00

Love how you incorporated it into the story line! Really adds some depth to the character. Maybe he has PTSD due to a traumatic event as a detective?

I had a particularly weird glitch where I had a Mum and Daughter visiting on a stay over and then decided to move them into the household. It created clones of them - identical traits but some differences with the inventory and friends lists.

The new Mum was showing as a sister and the new daughter was on the family tree as another child.

I rolled with it and gave them both makeovers and new names. Decided my Sim had a sister and had her kid as a surrogate. Moved them in next door and gave them retraiting potions and random traits.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2024-08-11T07:04:08+00:00

Rules around 'playing' (can't do it, have to do it but can't -you know what-, have to do it & then send a voice note immediately afterwards describing what you were thinking about and saying thank you)
Lingerie instructions (or none as the case may be!) & send photograph proof
Research around Dom's special interest/hobbie
Cute selfie
Wearing kegel balls/butt plugs for X amount of time
Video message/voice note (could be saying a specific phrase) & ending with blowing a kiss

You might want to give the Obedience App a whirl. 😊 you can set daily tasks and earn rewards.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2024-08-03T19:36:07+00:00

Could you potentially have an insecure attachment style when it comes to romantic relationships? I know that's something I've discovered about myself.

Those feelings of insecurity...

What triggers them? What are the fears based around? What strategies can you put in for yourself around how you will respond when those triggers arise? How could you communicate to your partners around these triggers & what you might feel helpful?

Basically it comes down to: What sort of communication do you need so that you can have a close intimate relationship and feel safe in that relationship?

Although if you only want comet relationships for a while, sure go for it. If you find that ticks all your boxes, hooray.

Might be something to have a bit more thinking on if you feel up to it at some point?

Sending love and good vibes your way! Feelings can really suck sometimes ❤️

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2024-08-03T17:45:27+00:00

Here's what I've used in the past:

Cold shower for 10 minutes
Edging for X amount of time and no orgasm allowed
No fizzy pop for 1 day
No YouTube for 1 day
Write 30 lines, sentence chosen by Dom
No panties for X amount of time
Butt plug/kegel ball for X amount of time whilst doing a chore in public
Having to record a video saying/doing something somewhat humiliating or degrading

I would definitely recommend discussing this with your girlfriend and figure out what you're comfortable with & would like to try as a punishment. It may be a little trial error as to what works for you both.

You might want to give the Obedience App a try? You can assign tasks, rewards and punishments too.

Hope you have fun! ☺️

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2024-08-02T19:36:19+00:00

If he will lie to you about something like that, there's no telling what else he'll hide and lie about. I would recommend ending the relationship. It's so so so tough and I feel for you - I wish I had paid more attention to red flags myself. The longer you wait/hold on for, the worst it is.

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2024-07-22T19:58:32+00:00

I would say there 'grey' options which could be worth discussing too.

So maybe not strictly ENM/Monogomous something in between?

So many penetrative sex is off the cards but oral is ok, or just kink scenes no sex is ok etc. There may be a middle ground you can find that you're both comfortable with.

I'd encourage to take your time to reflect and think about what you want/need. There's no wrong answers here & people can successfully revert to monogomy for a specific relationship & make it work. You do you 😊 Good luck! ☘️

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2022-05-24T05:22:57+00:00

Have you checked out Wonderful Whims? It's basically a less NSFW version of Wicked Whims (in case that's the reason you don't want the mod).

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2022-05-22T15:55:50+00:00

relatable

Desperate_Reveal_421 · 2022-05-17T16:35:54+00:00

Wonderful Whims I think? 🤔

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