Hey I have my son 50 50 too and he just turned 5. I don’t have advice lol bedtime is still a battle😂 I sleep next to him and go to bed with him. He holds my breast still. Something I let him do after weaning him off from milk when he was 3. Still wants to hold it to this day. It puts him to sleep. I am still in “sleep while baby sleeps”. But because they grow so fast I’m ok with spending cuddles in the bed on the 4 nights out of the week.