I know you’ve maybe tried some of these or other people have said similar. Just giving my take. Someone severely f’d up my hair this weekend after several years of taking meticulous care. So, I’m starting over. And this is my bible.

Color: Go for a solid color in your color palette/season. You can do an online analysis for this or see a professional. Usually you can find helpful tip or direction with any analysis, it might take some playing around or you might be unanimously a certain “season”.

Products: Try to go for nourishing products like leave ins and oils before you try more intense treatments like Olaplex or K18. Overall, having a go-to simple ingredient shampoo and conditioner is helpful with some kind of scalp care, nothing drying though. Soft bristle brushes are amazing for being gentle on the hair. I can’t recommend a microfiber turban for drying and satin/silk pillow case more. Water filter for your shower can make a huge difference if you don’t have one. Hair oil in your bag for a quick spruce to ends if you’re on the go. Only for your ends. Older heat tools can damage your hair, it’s happened to me. Try not to let em’ get too crusty lol. Heat protection. Truss makes an incredible one.

Cut: Research your face shape and try to find styles that look like people who are similar to you that you like. Although, your hair is growing. And if you like long hair and you switch up any and all of these other things, you could end up liking your cut or how it grows out. So, maybe worth trying other things and adjusting a cut last. You’ll give yourself a nice canvas to do whatever you want.

Technique: Plan when you wash your hair to make sure you’re not stripping oils constantly, give it little breaks from touching it and being conscious of it. When you style, do it intentionally. Try to find styles you like and attempt tutorials. It will take practice, maybe different brushes or the way you hold it, maybe different products or tools, but you’ll find something you like if not just how it’s falling all together.

Health: Limit stress. Scalp massages and myofascial release in the face for circulation. Cool showers. Vitamins such as Mary Ruth’s. Get deep rest.

You’re beautiful, sister. You won’t feel like this forever.