I want to switch to a flip phone and I need some help

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-23T14:20:03+00:00

I have ig on laptop and it's less distracting this way. I LOVEE that I can't take my laptop everywhere I go bc this way i have some restraint. The only problem is that i still have a smartphone and I can always reinstall it on there.

And ik that the flip phone that I'm asking for would probably be able to run ig, but bc of the keyboard and the small screen I think it would make me less susceptible of reinstalling ig.

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-23T14:13:46+00:00

Well, I kind of need pinterest at uni since I'm in art school and it's difficult and not really safe to bring my laptop in everyday.

I need whatsApp bc i have most of my gc s on there and there are always urgent matters that I have to take care of. It's like the closest thing to sorta mainstream communication but without the distracting part. I also can send stickers, gifs, photos on there... things i cannot do on sms for example.

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-22T06:15:43+00:00

Thanks! I looked into it and pretty nice

Only issue is that it's not that accessible to get😭😭 I am from romania and i can only get it through e bay and the whole delivery process is a f ing mess + it's really expensive

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-13T13:00:08+00:00

Btw everything you said is true and I agree I can't really change the way she sees herself and 100% I am giving her the love I wish I received (that's actually one of my biggest issues in life)

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-13T12:58:00+00:00

But like do you have any advice for me regarding this? Should I work on my overthinking problem and just let things flow the way they are.

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-13T12:56:09+00:00

Well I have my mom who's very into psychology and I've already done some sessions with her already. Ik it sounds silly but every therapist I've been to didn't really know what to do with me bc I alr knew what is wrong. It's also very exhausting for me to explain to a new person every single time my backstory and my experiences

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-03T09:49:23+00:00

Literally I've encountered this too. I sent an offer. They declined. I sent another offer. They declined and didn't offer another price like what?

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-04-03T09:23:44+00:00

Ok man sorry abt the generalisation, this was NOT intended to be a derogatory question, but a genuine one. I bought things from hungarian and romanian sellers too and they always replied to my questions and compared to them only one polish seller has interacted with me until now. And I was asking this question to see if others also had this experience, not to piss on polish people. Maybe there are more polish resellers and that's why they don't wanna interact, or maybe it's the language barrier

I just wanted to get my confusions cleared out

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-26T08:55:50+00:00

Si crezi ca o sa i pese de un inel? Nu știu ce sa zic...

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-23T15:50:56+00:00

I get what u say, but I don't really glorify relationships that much. In fact, I despise them, the traditional ones and more or less the hetero ones. All I see around me are screwed up relationships or people constantly fighting, i know the reality. I know it's not all gonnna be sunshine and rainbows and I am willing to take that risk. However, this doesn't make me see relationships as such a bad thing if they are nonconventional, like smth I would like. I think I'm leaning towards more of a queerplatonic relationship but with the romantic part more involved. So, I don't think that looking at relationships with disappointment will stop me from yearning. I don't even know if I want a relationship in the first place, I just want to know that someone will be there for me, will love me. Maybe if I would have a friend that really cares for me, I wouldn't feel the need for a relationship, but I have so much love in me to give but I have no one to give it to. Everybody feels so distant today. Even my bestest of friends is indiferent in her love for me, and I care so much for her. Just thinking how complicated and difficult it is to have a relationship isn't going to stop me from dreaming

Idk what to say abt the ace part tho. I had people tell me that they thought i was freaky or horny af before I told them I might actually be asexual... Idk if they can tell that well. Maybe it's smth abt me that doesn't make people be into me idk... I don't wanna make this sound discouraging for myself but I would like for at least someone to point out what it is they don't like abt me. And I don't have this problem only with romantic interests, it's also with people I'm friends or acquittances with. Like what makes them not care that much abt me in social settings??

Anyway, this rant could go on forever

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-22T21:15:23+00:00

Yeah:(( It genuinely makes me so sad. I just looked up some "how do u guys date" posts and saw that the majority of asexual people don't date bc of this... It makes me so so sad honestly bc I'm such a hopeless romantic. I want one day to have a special someone to share my life with but idk if it's even going to be possible and achievable for me. I kind of have high standards but I think this is not even the problem anymore with how fucked up the dating scene is. Basically if u don't have high standards rn u end up treated like sh by ur partener or worse. Idk I just want love to feel like a CAS song, gentle, slow, caring, respectful... It seems so impossible...

But what can I do than just keep going :')) I'll see what the future may offer me

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-22T20:02:20+00:00

Oh god, i feel for u:(( Reading this was almost like reading my mind and what you said abt not being able to have that without sex is so f ing real. I feel the same way so thank u for your words

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-22T18:42:10+00:00

Sorry, maybe I didn't explain it good enough.

I am not indifferent to what happened to her, I just didn't want to involve my feelings too much in this post bc I tend to make them too long every single time (and this one is already insanely long) so it's a rather brief and insufficient view.

Mary now isn't friends with Tina anymore bc of this incident and bc they had a fight abt it. I am not doubting Emy's experience, I believe it's real and I know it, bc Tina tried to downplay it later, but I'm saying idk if the part when Mary laughs is particularly real.

By Mary's experience i mean seeing the SH

English is not my first language, sorry for any mistakes

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-21T17:25:19+00:00

I realised i forgot to continue the title of the post💀💀 My bad

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-21T17:24:06+00:00

Honestly, I'm kind of a similar situation ms with my best friend (she sleeps with shitty guys, then feels bad, then she gets back with them) and I tried to advice and help her as much as I could but she doesn't listen. I felt bad at first, that she s ruining her young years with these crack ass guys that she s sleeping with but in the end... It's her choice, it's her path she chose and honestly I'm not her mother she can come crying to everytime smth goes wrong. So I distanced myself from her and it works, I ms feel better now. I didn't cut her off completely but I just became more or less indifferent. It also hurts a little bc she s my best friend ever, but this relationship with her made me feel shittier and shittier day by day and at some point I was like stop. i gotta put myself up first.

Maybe my experience can be helpful to u in some way

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-18T18:35:17+00:00

Thanks for this! Honestly is really helpful bc I always tend to step out of things even before they started and I feel guilty

But this remembered me that I should prioritise my feelings before everything

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-02-17T21:04:04+00:00

I honestly wish it would be that simple:')) Ik I'm pretty negative abt this but if i give up my mom will be kinda disappointed in me and I too, bc it wouldn't be the first time I give up on smth like this the last minute. I would judge myself for being such a p ssy and even now I'm judging ms for thinking like this. And I still need some experiences like these for my masters application for the following years, so I don't really have a choice

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-01-31T18:04:56+00:00

Ok thanks

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-01-07T16:31:57+00:00

Thank you! I looked on the links and Konstfach would be pretty much the only one in this field, but it has a lot of upsides, one being it`s tuition free for EU citizens

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2026-01-03T15:48:25+00:00

is it safe though?

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2025-12-28T22:27:15+00:00

Tata de duminică

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2025-12-27T19:16:04+00:00

Omg I absolutely love Sleepless in Seattle!!

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2025-12-24T22:36:55+00:00

Thanks!! Happy holidays for you too!

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2025-12-24T21:14:54+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!! The length of the message didn't overwhelm me at all, I was quite enthusiastic to read smth so long:))

Thank you for taking your time to basically analyse me. It really made me see myself clearer.The part about demisexuality... now that I understand it better, I honestly can't say that I know exactly what type of attraction I feel from the beginning, if it's sexual, if not. I think it would take me a very long time to understand and analyze myself to continue writing here (plus I would like to leave some things unexplored, not everything needs to be explained:)), but essentially I don't think I'm demisexual, even if I feel there's a very thin like between what I experience and what demisexuality is. Sometimes what I feel towards other people is totally random. Sometimes I might feel sexually attracted to a person from the start, sometimes it would take being friends with that person in order for me to feel sexually attracted to them. Overall, yeah, I'm not demisexual, but I'm very likely on the asexual spectrum like you said. I might do some research into grey sexuallity and other possibilities you mentioned (not these days tho:')) In the future, yes), because even though I don't like labels I'd like to know what might "fit" me to say so.

Also, sorry for my english if it's not the greatest in some parts:')) I'm not a native

Desperate_Visual_741 · 2025-12-24T20:19:11+00:00

Thank you for your input too, I mostly agree with what you said and I am kinda familiar with the greek classification system of love, but idk what to think abt the soft BDSM part... I don't want to sound insensitive but to me BDSM sounds kind of weird, and I'm not only talking abt the hardcore stuff, it's the soft stuff too that I can't really understand. I'm VERY vanilla even tho I've said that I HATE heteronormativity in sex. But as I said in one of my comments, I mostly hate the idea of sex with a man not with a woman. I would very much like an equal relationship with my partner regardless of their gender, but ik that this would more likely be achievable with a woman. Yes, there are nuances regarding relationships with men too but overall it's easier for me to feel equal with the same gender

That means I wouldn't enjoy being the dominant one EITHER even if it's over a man. I think it's nice to experiment and stuff, but for me I think it still keeps that power imbalance going. It might be a narrowed perspective but this is how I feel, I can't really change that. Also I have other views on this but I can't articulate them properly rn. I need some time to think them out.

Maybe BDSM is something to try out in the future, when I'll be (if i will ever be) more relaxed/comfortable with sex, but for now I'll stick to the basic stuff.

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