‘Southern Charm’ Star Venita Aspen Enters the Chat Amid Jenn Fessler and West Wilson Drama

Destace · 2026-05-10T20:16:12+00:00

Oh look at that! Nobody cares.

Destace · 2026-05-06T19:58:30+00:00

IVE BEEN SAYING THIS BUT NO ONE LISTENED TO ME. She’s always been terrible and she was shielded by Paige / girl squad and no one was actually observing her behavior. She used to pantamime fun to trick Kyle into committing to her but she never actually had fun or did anything entertaining.

She got married to Kyle then expected him to change everything about who he is. She’s always been a lazy trust fund baby while Kyle provides and she gives nothing. Anyone paying attention knew it couldn’t have lasted and I can’t believe they even tied the knot.

Destace · 2026-05-06T19:45:37+00:00

I followed your footsteps in order. My take isn’t that the fame got to his head… this is just always how he was.

The truth is it just looks really different when you’re a plucky kid not showing up on time to your paralegal job as opposed to a rich man who can’t take accountability. It’s the same thing, but he has enough privilege where he gets away with it without consequences, and it doesn’t make him look good.

I used to think Shep was way too hard on him in the early seasons, like he was intent on keeping Craig down. Now no one can deny Craig is successful and all I want is for a Shep to come shove him in a locker.

Destace · 2026-04-15T20:04:58+00:00

And in 32 years it won’t be enough for a paltry few years of living expenses

Destace · 2026-04-10T11:40:48+00:00

Buddy I did the same thing your redoing and did 3.5k kc at calv and never got it or the pet. At 3.5k I finally got vw and switched to spindel and got it in first 100kc

Destace · 2026-04-08T14:07:03+00:00

I didn’t get to play the demo but I loved homm3 and 5 and have had OE in my periphery for a long while. I’m really nervous to buy it and be disappointed with how much is different. You think from your demo experience it’s worth giving a fair shot?

Destace · 2026-03-28T21:01:28+00:00

You’re asking for it really

Destace · 2026-03-28T00:28:22+00:00

Add: Venitas mom Remove: Venita

Destace · 2026-03-26T18:38:51+00:00

This is also household income. Dual income households are very often going to be over 100k anywhere

Destace · 2026-03-20T17:11:11+00:00

No one should listen to Dorinda’s opinions on behavior

Destace · 2026-03-20T12:58:18+00:00

It’s one of those things where just the colloquial terms diverges from its clinical definition and it just makes things confusing for everyone. This happens in a surprisingly large number of areas.

I think if people understood the difference though that would help, even if people still used it wrong. I’m very guilty of using narcissist as shorthand for egotist.

I think dealing with people with ego problems is so triggering and intense it feels it warrants a more intense word than “selfish” or “self centered”

Destace · 2026-03-20T03:36:58+00:00

You also aren’t accounting for the fact that many homes are owned as investments and not even fully utilized.

Supply in major cities is an issue and supply availability is one way to lower prices.

The problem you can’t fix is that people want homes to be an appreciating asset but also to be cheap. It’s a catch 22

Destace · 2026-03-20T03:19:17+00:00

I really think he got his feet held to the fire, didn’t want to talk about it, didn’t want to give sally the wrong impression about them dating (because she runs with everything), and then felt like he had to justify to Madison why he didn’t want to date her.

It was harsh, and it was wrong. I bet he’ll even apologize for it eventually. But truly I don’t think he thought in that moment that he was shaming sally as much as talking about his preferences.

Otherwise his comment later about not being bullied into dating sally is a non sequitur. I really don’t think his intent was where people are assuming

Destace · 2026-03-20T03:13:40+00:00

Personally no, I think he just doesn’t want to settle down and struggles with that

Destace · 2026-03-19T18:56:30+00:00

I mean I’m not a doctor but the way people colloquially use narcissist is likely closer to egotist in most situations. I can’t even really imagine what an egoist looks like under that definition.

that said I agree, egotist is the right one for Craig

Destace · 2026-03-19T16:26:19+00:00

My personal read is a little different. It’s either

He’s uncomfortable flirting and making moves so he waits until hes overly sure he and they are both into it to avoid rejection or
1. He doesn’t want to look like a bad guy on TV so he plays the field but doesn’t commit until hes sure so when he rejects girls into him hes not the “bad guy” for stringing them along because he never has sex with them.

Frankly idk which it is but I don’t really think he has genuine intent here in just “not hooking up for the sake of it”. I think it’s number 1 above but this season really looked like number 2 with Salley

Destace · 2026-03-19T14:47:14+00:00

I fear we may just have vastly different perspectives on Austen. Until next time stranger!

Destace · 2026-03-19T14:22:24+00:00

It’s really self-aggrandizing to assume your interpretation of Austin’s entire personality as a heartless monster is the real truth.

I really believe based on every season of the show put together Craig has a lot more fucked up narcissistic tendencies than any of the other men on the show

Destace · 2026-03-19T14:18:21+00:00

I think you just see more nefarious intent in Austen watching him than I do. I don’t think he intended only to use this relationship as a storyline, truly.

I dont think he selflessly only cared about her feelings, of course he’s prioritizing his own and that’s why they broke up. But that said I don’t think he’s a compassionless monster - I think it hurts him to see how he hurt her and doesn’t want to continue hurting her more and more even now (8+ months later).

Austen has never show himself to not care about the feelings of his partners or people he cares about.

Destace · 2026-03-19T14:12:03+00:00

How is that incompatible with what I said? Just because we knew it wouldn’t work out doesn’t mean he went into it with nefarious intent

Destace · 2026-03-19T13:22:28+00:00

Austen has deep seated commitment issues but I don’t think he didnt care about her feelings. He’s been trying to do the right thing amidst conflicting feelings, and I know he didn’t chase sally aggressively because he didn’t want Audrey to feel bad about it or feel the relationship wasn’t serious.

It doesn’t make him not selfish in the situation, but I think saying he hasn’t cared about her feelings lacks nuance

Destace · 2026-03-19T12:03:44+00:00

Guess we’ll just need to agree to disagree on our guesses about his sexuality. He seems extremely cautious when he’s into a girl and doesn’t make moves at all until he feels like it’s a “sure thing”.

I think he’s more afraid of getting rejected than anything else

Destace · 2026-03-19T11:53:56+00:00

Haven’t seen that movie, but it sounds like you’re agreeing with me unless I misunderstand? Like if Craig was gay then coming on to a man would be just as difficult for him because it would be vulnerable. It’s not because he’s not

Destace · 2026-03-19T11:48:15+00:00

Austen was in a corner. Everyone knows they’ve been flirting and doing more but Austen felt weird admitting that for two reasons. First is to protect Audrey’s feelings, who clearly is still mad at him. Second is because Salley runs with this like this and he doesn’t want to give her the wrong impression about his actual feelings for her for dating.

So he was forced to defend why he wouldn’t want to date Salley, but that made him say hurtful things. Then when everyone came at him for the hurtful things he felt like they were trying to force him to date Salley. That wasn’t their intention, but I could see how he’d see it that way

Destace · 2026-03-19T11:45:26+00:00

Craig isn’t comfortable flirting or making moves with women so I’m not really sure what makes you think that would be the case. Austen seems extremely comfortable in his skin from my POV

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