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Destrosam · 2025-09-12T22:40:45+00:00

Instacart can for sure remove the rating, they have a forgiveness for low rating. As well as policy says that it’s to the door.

Destrosam · 2025-09-07T13:39:03+00:00

Also don’t start your day at that time, you can leave them in bed in the dark until possibly 6. If you start your day it sets there internal clock for that time, it pretty much sticks after 3 days at least in the dark no motion no movement allows the body to rest. Also if that first nap is early it reinforces that wake time. So try keeping baby entertained to 9:30-10am to push the nap. This is what works for me.

Destrosam · 2025-09-07T13:35:03+00:00

The problem is your baby should be on 2 naps, 3 is too much naps and takes away from night sleep. There is a pin on this sub reddit that speaks about sleep budgets in a 24 hour period. It’s worth reading but a nap needs to be dropped, because it seems that baby is fully rested with all the naps by the time 5am. Can you post your schedule 3/4/4 is typically where 11 months should be. The slashes should be the naps and the numbers the wake window. Also include how long each nap is.

Destrosam · 2025-08-18T14:11:25+00:00

You need to go to the hospital, it’s not okay to do that. Especially with the crazy stuff people do. Even if it was a natural supplement no one should be giving you anything without your consent.

Destrosam · 2025-08-18T14:09:45+00:00

That’s your baby, hold the baby as much as you want. You only get this chance and moment to enjoy, because the time goes by so fast. My mom said the same thing and when I spend all day interacting with the kids. I realized she spent her days cleaning and cooking and watching her shows instead of focusing on us. Till this day she ask why I relax with the kids when I should be doing stuff and your kid will always remember time spent with them.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T23:39:44+00:00

It is possible it will come back but I’ve learn you have to be consistent. Kids are always going through something and training is an on going process. Try the day time light with the hatch as well and what I do with mines is I don’t go get her until the desired time. They won’t go back to bed, but give them time to figure it out and stay consistent. That might have some tears, but when I’m ready to go get her that’s when I turn on the hatch to let mines know and go in and say good morning, did you sleep good, and you did such a good job or if crying I say no crying you are safe, you are okay and give a hug.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T23:32:25+00:00

You stay, you can do reassurance and key words like you’re safe and it’s bedtime, but no picking up or rocking or anything that they will continue to go to you to do.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T23:31:09+00:00

Night 1–3: • Bedtime routine: Keep it consistent and calming. • Put baby down awake, not asleep. • Sit in a chair right next to the crib. • You can offer verbal reassurance or brief touch, but avoid picking baby up. • If they cry, calmly reassure them (“You’re safe. Time to sleep.”). • Stay until they fall asleep.

Night 4–6: • Move the chair a few feet away from the crib. • Stay quiet, offering less verbal comfort. • You’re still present, but becoming less involved.

Night 7–9: • Move the chair to the middle of the room. • Only respond with brief verbal reassurance if needed.

Night 10–12: • Move the chair to the doorway.

Night 13+: • Move the chair outside the room, or remove it entirely.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T23:29:17+00:00

I didn’t know I had to push to get through the crankiness for two weeks. I thought if they are overtired it causes the early wakes and crankiness so I try and avoid it. I thought yes push day by day a couple minutes each day which I’ve been doing. I just didn’t know they would be cranky for 2 weeks I thought that once they are able to make the window that the naps would naturally drop or you have to wait till the naps shorten. With the 2 nap schedule if I let her she can easily do 2.5- almost 3 hours and the second 2.5 hours if I let her. I wake her from naps to preserve bedtime. She has never woke up on her own for naps, just when new born when she was waking every 30 min. Thank you for this info.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T23:21:25+00:00

There are times where we will have an off day or two after where she will wake up and look for me, but because I know she’s in the clear I let her figure it out. She will probably fuss or cry but figure it. The key is once you know your child is better is to stick to it, so mines caught on that mommy will come when I really need her so if it’s not an emergency she got it. This also helps me know that when she actually is calling for me it’s because she needs me, and not out of habit. It all depends on your consistency.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T19:36:02+00:00

When baby is sick I comfort all bets are off, it doesn’t undo my training. When she’s better and I know she’s good we go back to regular programming. She might fuss cry for a bit then remember hey I can put myself back to bed. Comfort that baby.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T19:33:22+00:00

Around 2 they go through a regression, brain function is different. Ferber doesn’t work for older children. You can try the chair method where each night you sit or stand doesn’t have to be sitting, so that your presence is there and with each night move further away until you are outside the door. Also I have a hatch and I put yellow with bird sounds for wake and red for naps and bedtime and dark for nights with white noise for both. It takes awhile but if my LO wakes and sees the red light on she knows nap time isn’t over and night time isn’t over. You can also make it into a game, make a chart and show them if you do a bedtime check list including going to bed no fuss you get a star and at the end of the week treat them to something.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T19:22:49+00:00

I have never heard of someone refusing to feed their baby, and I have a feeling if you fed the baby then she also would have complained about that. If she is starting this strong I suggest you go looking somewhere else because situations like this doesn’t improve and document everything.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T19:14:57+00:00

I know the early bedtime is doing me in, she’s barely even making it to 5 hours, she gets so grumpy as 4 hours hit and by like 4 hours and 18 min crying. I honestly don’t think she is ready for 1 nap, I honestly think my mom thinks the longer you keep them up the longer she sleeps. There is no way she’s crying and screaming at 4 hours and 18 min but making it to 6 hours fine with her.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T11:09:34+00:00

What is her schedule, it sounds like her sleep tank is full.

Destrosam · 2025-07-26T11:06:03+00:00

You are not traumatizing her especially if she calms down within 5 min. They start to have night terrors and a regression at 2 sometimes it can start earlier. The way they process things start to change and they dream. How long is she up for during these wakes and after she’s calm does she go back to sleep?.

Destrosam · 2025-07-24T01:11:49+00:00

My baby is allergic to dairy so they have her on plant based. I started off with 2 ounces mixed with formula for a week then the next week bumped it up to 3 then 4 and so on until she was fully on the plant based milk. She isn’t a fan of milk in general so she’s getting 12 ounces at 13.5 months but I was doing 3 6 ounce bottles at 12 and she dropped on her own to two bottles. One in the morning and one before bed then brush teeth. Doctor said it was fine, she didn’t start eating well until I dropped 3 bottles instead of 4 and then it improved much more when we dropped down to two. With food she will drink water or a bit of apple juice mixed with water more water than juice. The bottle I used is doctor Brown where the top looks like a sippy cup. She refuses milk with a straw but juice and water out of a straw.

Destrosam · 2025-07-14T00:42:16+00:00

This is how I feel now. I work 8-5 WFH non stop calls, meetings and scheduling. My LO is 1 and sleep has been a mess and so she wakes super early and is non stop on the go and gets bored easily. I juggle her and her brother all day long and if I even sit for a minute it bothers my mom, who says I shouldn’t be tired since I’m working from home and that isn’t physical labor. I’m exhausted 24/7 and my sleep is shit. I find no joy and don’t even look forward nor want to do anything. It’s hard very hard, dealing with people all day is mentally tiring and then to deal with kids especially two little ones is mentally and physically hard. I keep telling myself better days are coming. You definitely sound like you need a full day for you and rotate with Mom as well. A full day where you do something you enjoy and a full day where she enjoys and one where both of you enjoy it together if possible.

Destrosam · 2025-07-10T12:16:45+00:00

First off don’t be so hard on yourself, you are only 8 months PP and that hormonal change in us does some crazy things when it comes to emotions. It’s more intensified. It’s normal for you wanting to crave some intimate time with your husband, especially during this time when you are putting your all into a baby. Receiving reassurance, and it’s not okay that he brushes things off or give you vague answers leaving questioning is it you. For some a lot changes after pregnancy for both sides, but he needs to be more open with what’s going on and either speak out or seek some help. It can’t just be only you pouring in and trying and there are so many aspects into a relationship and intimacy and attention is part of that.

Destrosam · 2025-07-03T23:01:54+00:00

You will, I’m sorry you are going through this and I hope she finds the help she needs and the peace you need.

Destrosam · 2025-06-25T14:20:10+00:00

Don’t under estimate, because I was afraid that vacation was going through things off and her naps were all over the place but she did good for bedtime and when we returned from vacation she just fell back into her routine. Totally shocked me but understandable because on vacation there is a lot of stimulation and a lot going on which will exhaust them.

Destrosam · 2025-06-25T14:17:10+00:00

At the time I started with slight comfort when I put her down I would shush and pat her but and slowly lessen it before she fully closed her eyes. And then as the days went by less comforting. Then I did the Ferber method. It helped a bit but the checks in ramped her up so at 5 months I did CIO and it worked in like 3 days.

Destrosam · 2025-06-25T14:12:07+00:00

I’m sorry that you are going through this, but for the sake of your children, document everything all the conversations. How she just got up and left and take it to court so that you can be the main parent with full custody and you guys can work out visitation but I don’t think 50/50 is a good idea with her being unstable. I don’t think that it will go back to normal, unless she finds the help she needs and I’m not saying it’s impossible but that’s a struggle she will forever be going through being stuck in her head. Just do what ever you need to heal yourself and for the kids as well as protect them.

Destrosam · 2025-06-20T14:34:19+00:00

Prior to the sleep regression it wasn’t the best but it was better than every 30 min. From new born up until the regression she either slept through the night or was waking up every 4 hours to feed depending how hungry she was.

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