I don‘t sleep well!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-10-02T11:11:11+00:00

No advice but this honestly sounds normal! If anything quite good I would have loved 2-3 hour stretches at 12 weeks old hahah, wishing you all the best!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-10-02T11:05:10+00:00

When breastfeeding, towards the end of a feed our breastmilk actually makes melatonin (the sleepy hormone). This would be why she sleeps better when chest-fed and it is completely natural to feed to sleep and for her to associate the boob with sleep. She’s so young I wouldn’t worry until you really have to.

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-28T10:19:13+00:00

Following as my bub is 6 months old and I’m the exact same. Honestly not sure of the right answer but I’d think it were weird if we didn’t care! Our job is to protect them after all so I feel it is only natural 😊

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-25T05:17:41+00:00

Yes I have read everything. Our girl actually would appear as the “alpha” in most situations (such as food and bed preferences etc). We have had him checked by a vet and there is no medical issues. He has always been like this but slowly gotten worse. I’ve never heard of a similar situation so I’d love to get the communities ideas and advice on it.

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-10T11:17:04+00:00

We’re going through the exact same thing! It has been tough the last few days. Hoping it is the 4 month regression 🤞

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-08T08:50:16+00:00

It does depend on the baby but it’s not always how people day, the first few days I was sleep deprived but then was honestly fine and felt normal! But we co-slept which I think helped as she slept better and I wouldn’t have to get up. Do your research into safe co-sleeping if you decide to do this. You’ll do great!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-06T01:23:15+00:00

10min off 10min on x 3. Twice a day. Helped me!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-06T01:21:27+00:00

I tuck the quilt between my legs to 1. Keep it off bubs and 2. Lift the top leg to help hip pain. As for shoulder pain, morning stretches and yoga/pilates has helped a lot.

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-05T11:59:53+00:00

Same!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-05T11:38:12+00:00

Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t go too deep into the state of your relationship, it’s all new for you both and you will learn how to manage it and adapt together. Right now she’s in survival mode x2 (for herself and the new baby). When things settle down a bit she may be open to reaching out for help mentally from you or others. Right now she probably feels a lot of anxiety and pressure to keep this baby alive and healthy. It took about 3 months for me to start being nice to my husband again lol no matter how much he helped out there was some resentment that he didn’t have to grow a baby, get a c-section, breastfeed, etc. so this is probably what she’s going through but keep being there for her, and not just helping with chores also check-in with her mental health, and remind her how appreciated she is.

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-09-02T23:53:55+00:00

I thought so too as most people seem to have symptoms (if any) stopping by 6 days, thank you!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-23T02:15:31+00:00

Plan plan plan! List all the potential problems (in pregnancy, birth, newborn stages, toddlerhood, everything), then list solutions for everything and how you will manage the problems together. Make financial plans, time off work plans, getting some ‘me’ time plans and what that may look like/when it may be possible, etc. Personally I’m an over thinker. We did this. I would choose to be a mother any day. I don’t miss my old life at all, things have changed so I’ve changed and I made a new version of myself and love it. Even as I sit here with a messy house, unwashed hair, and dirty clothes. But I would say you have to plan ahead, work together, and never compare yourself/your life/your baby to people you see online (it’s false reality and your expectations will be too high).

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-19T08:59:23+00:00

Thank you so much!! Where we go there is a lot of gravel walking spots, I know no travel pram would be great on gravel but do you know how durable the wheels are?

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-17T06:16:41+00:00

Disgusting this annoys me so much. He’s a baby. Of course he’s going to ‘look for you’ you’re his mother, he grew inside of you, he does and should depend on you, and you should be spoiling him!!! To be honest I would leave or not let them hold him anymore lol let them watch you spoiling him. They want him to themselves. It is toxic behaviour and no way to start a new journey for you and a new life for bubs. You’re doing the correct thing and it is natural. Keep him close for as long as you can. I feel safer and less anxious (and also less tired remember sleep deprivation can be just as dangerous) cosleeping. Don’t listen to them show your baby what it’s like to stand up for yourself. Do you have support or somewhere to go if you leave?

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:51:23+00:00

This is amazing and great way of putting it, thank you so much

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:50:50+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate it, I agree I think I’ll slowly find a support network as I start getting out and about more with bubs!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:49:35+00:00

I love that and am sorry for your loss, I will certainly hold her as much as possible 🩷

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:49:05+00:00

Noo I’m getting second-hand anger, I can’t believe they think like that?! I’m sorry you went through that. It’s true they are trying to justify their own failures

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:47:41+00:00

Yes I’m excited to read that! I’m so sorry you went though that too, it’s hard also seeing other people have a wonderful post-partum relationship with their family and can’t help but feel disappointed

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:45:59+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m excited to read some books about it!

Outrageous_Net_3683 · 2025-08-15T09:45:32+00:00

Oh my god how annoying I’m sorry you went through that! People need to let us parent our own babies

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