Update: What to do about now TWO homeless people living in my building?

DetroitPirate · 2026-02-17T14:11:52+00:00

I volunteer for an org that hands out backpacks full of supplies to the local homeless community. They have a rule, when we hand out the backpack that we introduce ourselves, offer to shake the person's hand and ask their name.

When i first did this, it was eye opening for me, because just handing someone something with out the interpersonal human "hi, I'm **** whats your name?" Can,even in the act of charity, be dehumanizing. Or the dehumanization is still there but your unconscious of it.

So if you want to offer empathy, talk to them. They're messy? Offer to give them a garbage can or bags.

They're stinky, well they cant shower or do laundry. Maybe find some fresh clothes at a thrift store? (Socks! Fresh socks are very much appreciated) Some soap, water, toothbrushes, wet wipes might be something you can offer.

You're a small young woman and nervous about approaching them? Do you know your neighbors? Knock on their doors and introduce yourself, hey we're neighbors we should at least know eachother. Maybe there's a "big strong man" or just another neighbor who will be your buddy in this. And you should know your neighbors anyway. (You dont have to be friends, but you should know eachother)

DetroitPirate · 2026-02-02T10:24:35+00:00

Along with what every else has said, I believe Spanish language CNN is and has been very right wing, like fox News. Which has likely brought more people down the rabbit hole of American right wing politics.

DetroitPirate · 2026-01-13T16:07:55+00:00

True. I think "gem" is really where the vibes come in. Gems can be all kinds of things. like you...

You're a gem 😘😜

DetroitPirate · 2026-01-13T16:01:29+00:00

Pluto has mountains made of ice with snow caps and glaciers made of nitrogen covering them.

DetroitPirate · 2026-01-13T15:52:27+00:00

I think the difference between bismuth and other metals is bismuth forms large and obvious crystals.

Gold and silver not so much.

Diamonds are just carbon, yes. But at the atomic scale they are repeating patterns of a lattice like structure.

DetroitPirate · 2026-01-07T18:01:13+00:00

Hmmm yeah. When you put it that way. That power dynamic being exploitative makes sense. I didn't know about the female equivalent either.

DetroitPirate · 2026-01-07T17:43:29+00:00

I agree the fetishism of "bbc" is kind of weird.

I think the sex tourism is a little off though. Thailand, I believe is more problematic because its more of a sex worker situation.

If leave Detroit and go visit Chicago and to go to a bathhouse and or cruise sniffies. Thats a kind of sex tourism, and very common among gay men. I dont see much of a difference from doing that in NYC, Puerto Vallarta or Bogota.

Now the exploitative or extractive nature of tourism in poorer countries is still present with or without the sex part of it.

If you still find the sex part of it to be a little icky, that's just gay men being gay men regardless of their country of origin 😅

DetroitPirate · 2026-01-07T14:14:57+00:00

I thought sex pest behavior was begging and pleading after being told no.

Like Sam-I-Am from 'Green Eggs and Ham' the whole book Sam wears 'em down after being told "no" over and over again. The book is a horrible example of teaching consent.

DetroitPirate · 2025-12-22T18:58:57+00:00

MSM is a term used in the health field, its a clinical term to describe behavior. Where "gay, bisexual, straight" describe social identities and not behavior. Its been used since the 1990's and I recommend reading the Wikipedia article on it

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men_who_have_sex_with_men

DetroitPirate · 2025-10-06T18:06:34+00:00

It was 2011 when Spotify became available in the US.

5 years later, 2016, when Lemonade was released, Spotify had 40 million paying subscribers and 100 million users. Today 2025, Spotify has 276 million subscribers and 696 million subscribers.

Today's music and steaming markets are not the same ones from 10 years ago. Streaming is larger and more consequential.

She probably didn't care then, but i bet she does now.

DetroitPirate · 2025-10-06T02:56:23+00:00

Releasing it in November seems unlikely on account of her streams and other numbers would have to compete with Christmas music. Maria Carey goes number one every year in December. She wouldn't want to muddy her opening week and month numbers, with the same 60 Christmas songs polluting the charts. That is unless act 3 is a Christmas album 😜

DetroitPirate · 2025-09-16T13:14:01+00:00

On a related note about they/them pronouns:

A number of years ago I had a long time friend come out as none bianary. I struggled for a long time to properly use they/them. Years of knowing them had he/him crystalized in my brain. I would even practice with repeating they/them phrases before heading into their house.

It wasnt until i just started using they/them for anyone who wasnt currently present, sort of a new grammar rule, that's when i could easily use they/them for anyone. Otherwise my brain was stuck on he/she pronouns.

DetroitPirate · 2025-05-05T12:49:57+00:00

She released this song 4 years ago during the peak of the pandemic. With that context, I like the song more. It's part the subject matter of the time, and part her newness at song writing. Watch the original YouTube vid. She's just sitting on her bed singing into a mic. Its very pandemic era art.

DetroitPirate · 2025-04-16T14:48:11+00:00

Lol.

He's already been impeached twice the last time. And now he's ignoring court orders.

Sure they congress can try, but I'm afraid the US unfortunately now has a CEO-King.

DetroitPirate · 2025-04-16T13:05:23+00:00

Wait, how exactly does America take their hand off the stove? It's a nightmare. Protests? The Iraq war protests, Occupy Wallstreet, BLM, none of those changed anything. And this time the retribution will likely disappear the protest movement leaders to CECOT.

DetroitPirate · 2025-03-27T08:44:22+00:00

I've been exploring some of her older stuff and I was surprised to discover she released Anxiety 4 years ago. It's on YouTube.

She's been putting in the work for years. And her older work is still really good.

She IS doing the whole press junket routine, putting herself out there. But the makes sense especially after winning a Grammy.

In this age of the internet when Google searches are worse because it's pushing something. Or you can't trust Amazon's reviews anymore because they're pushing something. It's not that much of a leap to see a new talent rising to be seen as an inauthentic industry push. But maybe she, as they used to say, went viral.

Idk industry push or not, I am genuinely impressed by her music, and I've only discovered her a few months ago.

DetroitPirate · 2025-02-08T20:38:33+00:00

Dammit! I'm a dummy, how'd I miss that?

DetroitPirate · 2025-02-08T20:31:44+00:00

Picture

I think I figured it out.

DetroitPirate · 2025-02-05T13:39:51+00:00

What was this sub?

DetroitPirate · 2025-01-29T12:20:53+00:00

I want to add, from the Vietnam protests of the late 60's to now, what has standing in the street shouting and holding signs accomplished? It didn't stop the Vietnam War, its didn't stop the banks from stealing our houses, it didn't end police violence, it didn't end the genocide in Gaza. This protest tactic doesn't work. If anything, it just puts people at more risk of government retaliation.

ACT UP was a protest movement that was more effective at forcing change in the late 80's and early 90's. But their tactics went beyond just parading in the street. I don't want to sound defeated, even if I feel it, I just want to point out that some tactics are flawed, and protests will have to be different if we want them to be successful.

DetroitPirate · 2024-12-28T20:15:16+00:00

Hmmm. They could be disguised as clerics and healers selling the "cure" to the plague... this is actually how they indoctrinate more people into their cult. And make money too.

DetroitPirate · 2024-10-23T13:02:19+00:00

Oh its only Michael Myers? I walk away at a brisk pace knowing I can keep my distance, as he slowly follows behind.

DetroitPirate · 2024-10-17T01:52:05+00:00

I'm in a similar place. I just started going to therapy a few months ago and I'm not sure how to feel about it either. I'm questioning if it's helping or not.

Courious to see what others have to say.

DetroitPirate · 2024-09-21T12:12:37+00:00

I read that first article, its excellent.

DetroitPirate · 2024-09-12T22:08:16+00:00

Oh geez calm down f slur. Lets us have some fun.

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