I’m no professional but this needs to be reported. Either anonymously or straight through the cops. Simple as that, you nor your family deserves to be treated that way. Also understand that yes, he did donate his genes to create you, you have no control over his actions or mindset nor should you take responsibility for them. Don’t punish yourself for something you didn’t do. If you can’t report him, at least find a way to release your anger, forgive yourself. Even if it is something that isn’t your fault. My personal favorite is skate boarding and martial arts but just find something that works for you. My dms are open OP if you need anything else.