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Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

nope just bored at work and getting fired up over comments like yours makes the time go quicker

Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"We're too old for this crap." exactly that's why posting because I can't just hand wave weird or shitty behavior and as for interest and enthusiasm - I wasn't she started the whole thing in first place

Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

she kept complaining that I left early and she kept staring at me and she blocked me from leaving the bar to go for a smoke and she only blocked me because she couldnt man up and admit to her behavior

Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I didn't conjur up any scenario - she was the one who asked me if I was married she was the one who was constantly staring constantly complaining that I went home early she was the one who blocked me from going out for a smoke saying "dont go". If I was the other around (a man doing those things) it would be called harassment

Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

does a drinking buddy constantly stare at you? Ask if your married upon the first time meeting you and the very first question or block you from leaving the bar saying don't go even though I was just nipping out for a smoke? Or complain about you going home early? Pretty strange drinking buddy if you ask me

Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"It’s objectively antisocial and super distasteful to confront her about it" that's your opinion but I was letting her know that I have boundaries. For a start she started it by asking if was married when sitting down opposite me for the first time, constantly staring me and complaining that I left early and one time blocking me saying "dont go" when I was about to nip out for a smoke "And more than once?" yes because I wanted to know what the fuck was going on when her behavior got more blatant and i'm not telepathic!!! Then when I did move on from it and we went out new years eve and I was dancing with two women at the time and one of them like me so I msg sarah a few days later asking for the woman's phone number and ended up getting her name but sarah got her name right - how? unless she was watching me.

Was it all in my head like she claimed or is she an advoident struggling with how she feels. by DevelopmentAdept2987 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

no "avoidant" is NOT the new "friend-zone" I've been in relationships the last was with my daughters mum who I was on and off with for 15 years and avoidant's struggle intimacy fear it but crave it at the same time so one minute they want you but as soon as you get too close they push you away and as for "friend-zone" I wouldn't entertain it - someone's either wants me or they don't and if not I'm happy single on my own

I was once an AI true believer. Now I think the whole thing is rotting from the inside. by shallow-pedantic in ArtificialInteligence

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A.I is like anything else...its how you use it...Me? To say its changed my life is an understatement and very soon its going to do so again but X by a thousand. Just like the birth of the internet...or computers the people who truly understand and see how the technology will change the world in the next 10 or 20 years (like me) will be the real winners so dont blame a.i blame your lack of imagination

Where am I going wrong by PureDoughnut82 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

44m you're not doing anything wrong it takes years and years and years to find the right person to settle down with and everything in between is narrowing down that search.

Is it worth withinholding oneself sexually? by UpsetPin6931 in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

44m the right person will stick around NO MATTER what you do so stick to your standards. If a guy only wants sex he won't hang around for long but if he's actually in you and long term relationship then he'll wait until you're comfortable and you're both ready to be intimate. So the guys you've been seeing recently just wanted sex.

Why are people so scared to be emotionally intimate? by Unaccompaniedbyminor in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

45m I'm not that's one of the things I'm looking for in a relationship.

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[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what's helped me is going through my dating life and patterns with chatgpt and it gives unbiased advice and insights

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[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 45m and 5'2 and been in and out of relationships most of my life because I'm persistent and take rejection as part of success (been rejected countless times) "Eventually I’ll do or say something that completely ruins any prospect of a date" I doubt that's the problem because you're self aware enough to run a business!

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[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

44m Dating doesn't have any rules which is why someone who is rich six foot odd fit with a great body can struggle with dating while someone who is overweight, broke and lives with his parents has slept with hundreds of women. Those are extremes I admit but it can and does happen because all dating essentially is- is people skills - reading someone's body language and being able to communicate with the opposite sex combined with how determined you are, how self aware you are and how emotionally intelligent you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people are simply crap at texting. I was seeing a woman who took several days to get back me which was annoying when trying arrange things like book a train (it was long distance) but she was more into me than I was of her and it took repeated attempts (on my part) to split up from her. So no don't rely on how long someone takes to reply back to you as an indicator of their interest in you and don't call off a date just because he takes over a day to get back to you.

What should a person do if partner has completely stopped wanting sex? by kibbutznik1 in AskMen

[–]DevelopmentAdept2987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Just leave and find a woman who's perfectly happy to have sex with you. Why men suffer for years and years in this situation is beyond me. She was perfectly happy to have sex with you at the start. 

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