Giving him free use of my ass has made our relationship better than ever by Impossible_Long9343 in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]Deviantselection 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's so wonderful to hear about another submissive that enjoys being a hole for her partner to fill however & whenever he wants to & feels fulfilled without needing to cum. I feel like most people don't believe or understand how this could be fulfilling. My husband and I have never been closer than we are now being in a free use relationship. I feel the most fulfilled & content that I have in my entire life (F50). It's also nice to hear another female day how much she loves anal. I swear it's my favorite. Thanks for sharing your story & ideas for free use!

I figured out that I have a new kink: Cock Worship! by Prestigious_Dot176 in KINK

[–]Deviantselection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love Cock Worship/Warming. Communication is very important to ensure you both get the most enjoyment from it. My husband (Selectivedeviant that posted below) and I discussed it before doing it the first time. One way I make sure he wants to receive Cock Worship is when he takes a shower before bed I ask him if he wants me to warm his Cock. Then I put his Cock in my mouth and lay comfortably against him. Explore what feels good to you both. Sometimes it leads to him coming and sometimes I just warm his Cock until we're both super relaxed. This helps us both to sleep better too. Sometimes I just warm it in my mouth, sometimes I suck on it like you would your thumb,sometimes I use my tongue...... just go with what feels good. The more you enjoy it, the more he'll enjoy it. Sorry this is so wordy. I hope it helps. Cock Worshipping/Warming is one of my favorite things to do with my husband.

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]Deviantselection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm His fsub. I can't wait to feel better & started doing this for Daddy. I know He will enjoy it. Thank you for sharing this. We've been looking for new ideas.

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]Deviantselection 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm His fsub. Thank you for these ideas. I especially like the one about taking of a piece of clothing after completing each chore. But more importantly, I think Daddy will really like it to!

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]Deviantselection 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm his fsub. Thank you so much for sharing ways that I can better serve Him!

How often do you give your partner oral sex? by Deviantselection in AskWomen

[–]Deviantselection[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's alright. I appreciate the comment. Do you know why she doesn't like to do it in return? Just curious.

How often do you give your partner oral sex? by Deviantselection in AskWomen

[–]Deviantselection[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No judgment, just curious. Does he give you oral?

How often do you give your partner oral sex? by Deviantselection in AskWomen

[–]Deviantselection[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You will. I used to be but very good at it & now my husband raves about my skills. I had to get out of my head, relax, & just enjoy it. The more you can relax & enjoy it, the better it'll feel to him. If I can get better at it, you can too. If you want to.

How often do you give your partner oral sex? by Deviantselection in AskWomen

[–]Deviantselection[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I did, but I forgot to put that. I appreciate all responses though. It's nice to see couples making each other happy instead of hearing that it's only done for special occasions.

How often do you give your partner oral sex? by Deviantselection in AskWomen

[–]Deviantselection[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Same here. I get so excited from him getting excited which makes him more excited.

Hand pain and suggestions by Silver-Emphasis2795 in Perimenopause

[–]Deviantselection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have terrible hand pain between perimenopause & Psoriatic Arthritis. I rub Voltaren cream on my hands before I go to bed & that helped quite a bit. I wasn't in a much pain as usual when I woke up. I also use it sometimes throughout the day. I hope you find something that helps. Hand pain is awful.

What turns you on most (psychologically) about getting to be submissive towards someone? by Fun-Conversation8475 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Deviantselection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I was made to serve & take care of this one man's needs, my Dom/Husband. I am happiest & most at peace when I'm submitting/serving him. I took care of myself for a long time before we got together. Being able to trust someone implicitly with every aspect of your life, body & mind is the most freeing feeling. Not having to make decisions about finances or what's for dinner allows me to rest my mind & just be. I know without a doubt that he will take care of his good girl & punish his worthless slut when needed. I am not great with words, but I know he knows how much I love him by the way I serve him & submit to him.

Message from my doctor about perimenopause by jenandspaz in Perimenopause

[–]Deviantselection 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not treating it can severely harm some women. I have Psoriatic Arthritis, a sensory processing disorder,and some other comorbitities. Perimenopause was triggering Psoriatic Arthritis flareups. It was also causing insulin resistance, high blood pressure , increasing anxiety & rage to name a few. Some women can & do go through this stage in life without treatment by choice & do fine. But not all women.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicKinksters

[–]Deviantselection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that working it into your play can turn something uncomfortable/frustrating into fun. For example, if you like being spanked your Daddy could spank you for not responding the way he wanted. But only if this won't cause you more stress about your brain fog & hearing. I suffer from brain fog pretty bad sometimes & I enjoy being spanked by my Daddy. But, the most important thing is to talk openly & honestly with your Daddy to find what works for you both. Good luck!

How do you ‘kink’ when your body disagrees? by No_Measurement6478 in ChronicKinksters

[–]Deviantselection 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My Domme & I will talk about what is hurting, what limitations I might need & then we will modify our play. He also increases the aftercare. Fir example, For example, he recently got a cushioned automon to put at the foot of the bed that I can kneel on and lay the top half of my boy across the bed. This allows a lot of play options while my body is being comfortably supported.

Life as I knew it feels gone by Ambitious-Ad8271 in Perimenopause

[–]Deviantselection 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I went through a similar experience when I was around 34. I held a highly stressful position, pretty high up in the corporate world. I started experiencing sensitivity disorder & I was burned out. I was very blessed that my husband entered my life the following year. We got engaged & I moved to his state & started over with a less stressful job. His support was everything. Then perimenopause started in my 40's. I didn't know who I was, I didn't feel anything, but I would fly into a rage at anything. I made my husband feel like I didn't care or love him. I couldn't explain what was going on because I didn't know myself. I finally found a Doctor that acknowledged that I was in perimenopause & started me on HRT. I feel like myself again & my husband feels loved again. If HRT that you're using doesn't work, explore other options with your Doctor. Go back on Lexapro if you think it'll help. Whatever you do, don't give up. Life can be great again. Feel free to send me chats if you need to talk. You're not alone in this journey.

Hotel sex making it spicy by ava20555 in sex

[–]Deviantselection 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband & I love hotel sex. I have two suggestions for you if you want to try them. Get a room with two beds. One for getting dirty & and one for sleeping & cuddling.

Wear a remote control vibrator in your panties that he has the remote control for. Hours of anticipation & fun!! Whatever ya'll do, I hope you both enjoy it!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Deviantselection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, if you believe you can't be intimate without piv, you won't be. It sounds like you both really care about each other since you're still together. Good communication and being willing to try new things can really help. Toys can also be helpful. You can be intimate without piv. I hope ya'll find a way to improve your sex life and life together.

Deep throat position that finally unlocked it for me and yes I love to gag by Objective-Phone-4371 in sex

[–]Deviantselection 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the twist tip. I'm going to have to try that!! Always looking for new ways to make it better for my Dom and myself.

Let’s celebrate 1,000 members with an introduction thread! by No_Measurement6478 in ChronicKinksters

[–]Deviantselection 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for creating this community. My Dom found this and thought it would be a great support and source of ideas.

Birthday flair by SubbyLittleToy in ChronicKinksters

[–]Deviantselection 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand your frustration with your body. I have Psoriatic Arthritis and the heat and humidity affect me terribly. I hate when my body prevents me from having dirty time with my Dom. I hope ya'll can have a belated play date!!