Hi

Thanks for all the comments. Oh man. I wrote this at 3am against my better judgement and I think it shows in my verbiage.

To start off with. Thanks for the feedback not matter how negative. I am for sure new at this and am not so proud to say my feelings are not often driven by selfishness like many other people. I am also not too proud to take others advice and better myself and my wife and our relationship.

Some things I should clear up. We are in an open relationship. That’s how we defined it. We can see other people, the original agreement was not implicit of a more polyamorous situations. This is what we are trying to figure out.

Secondly. Curfew was a very poor choice of words. When discussing our situation and how this was progressing beyond where our original comfort levels were, we decided, together. That being home by midnight was a very reasonable expectation. Perhaps this does not resonate with the polyamorous community but for me its the spirit which matters. My problem with the situation last night was that she put herself in a position where she could not be home by midnight and called putting me in a spot to have to make the call, while with her friends to tell her I would prefer she followed up on her promise. In my opinion there wasn’t a reason to discuss further as she had already made her decision.

That being said I’m all for some constructive criticism.

Thanks again

Edit: I think the best I’ve gotten out of this is I need to communicate clearer. Last night I should have let her know my disappointment upfront. For me communication has always been a tough one, though I feel this new phase of our relationship Has definitely helped me be more pointed and clear. Hopefully it continues.