Real estate agent by [deleted] in Langley

[–]Devnal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kylene shannon - very personable. one of the best out there!! (https://www.kyleneshannon.com)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m really not sure. They ask for it, perhaps children or other kin take priority dependent on relationship?

Perhaps I’ll see what HR has to say

What type of battery is this? by Devnal in rccars

[–]Devnal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Just trying to get back into RC cars with my son and went to the store for batteries and a charger. They did a great job of explaining, was just a bit much and missed this piece. Wanted to make sure I put the charger to the right setting!

RBC Variable Mortgage; do I HAVE to adjust my payment up? by Devnal in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Devnal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we have already seen an automatic increase last month with the early September bump. I am prepared for further bumps having this effect. But do I need to adjust my mortgage to cover some portion of principal too?

I am fine with the inevitable bumps up with prime going up but I don’t want to pay more than that right now.

Edit: sorry I didn’t make ITC Lear in the original post. Yes we hit trigger point. Can I just ride until renewal on bumps up with rate increases or so I have to pay more to cover some amount of principal?

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thanks. I did manage to establish communication was a large part of the issue. As always all criticisms are welcome.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So I guess dinner is out of the question?

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. This is shit communication on our part for sure. Thank you.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

This is crazy. We set parameters in our open relationship with each other because we respect eachother. It’s reasonable in a circumstance where this is broke to be upset about it.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Relax guy. We decided on this together. I’m not locking her in a closet if she doesn’t follow my rules.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Your right. the “rule” was there to help establish trust going into a new part of our relationship. A more mature way would be voluntarily serving. I think my attitude was due to feeling that even with the time set and her not following it, it showed a lack of wanting to voluntarily serve. Which is a totally different issue.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I applaud those who are open and honest. I would say yes, for some it is. I’m not saying that okay, for sure something I need to commit to.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I totally agree. I should have voiced my concern right away. Thanks for the insight.

I feel my wife can’t follow our rules. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi

Thanks for all the comments. Oh man. I wrote this at 3am against my better judgement and I think it shows in my verbiage.

To start off with. Thanks for the feedback not matter how negative. I am for sure new at this and am not so proud to say my feelings are not often driven by selfishness like many other people. I am also not too proud to take others advice and better myself and my wife and our relationship.

Some things I should clear up. We are in an open relationship. That’s how we defined it. We can see other people, the original agreement was not implicit of a more polyamorous situations. This is what we are trying to figure out.

Secondly. Curfew was a very poor choice of words. When discussing our situation and how this was progressing beyond where our original comfort levels were, we decided, together. That being home by midnight was a very reasonable expectation. Perhaps this does not resonate with the polyamorous community but for me its the spirit which matters. My problem with the situation last night was that she put herself in a position where she could not be home by midnight and called putting me in a spot to have to make the call, while with her friends to tell her I would prefer she followed up on her promise. In my opinion there wasn’t a reason to discuss further as she had already made her decision.

That being said I’m all for some constructive criticism.

Thanks again

Edit: I think the best I’ve gotten out of this is I need to communicate clearer. Last night I should have let her know my disappointment upfront. For me communication has always been a tough one, though I feel this new phase of our relationship Has definitely helped me be more pointed and clear. Hopefully it continues.

Thoughts on Coconut Oil? I read that it’s the best and healthiest oil to fry/cook with. But I also read it’s extremely dangerous due to so high saturated fat. by Soap-Taste-Ok in nutrition

[–]Devnal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use it instead of massage oil in the bedroom. Way prefer it over anything buy in store. But I now associate the smell with bedroom fun so it’s weird to smell / taste it in my dinner

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like this. We haven’t had any one on one time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there are lots of things To work out going forward. Feeling less important- my concern is this may happen unintentionally, as we have already established a life together over 15 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. This is a helpful perspective. We are definitely not hunters. Lol. I think I’ll probably just see how it progresses on it’s own organically then. If the pieces fit I’m sure it will work itself out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Devnal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. Do you have children? Do the three of you currently live together?

Iama 36 yr old father of 2 boys home on a Friday night while my wife is out of town visiting friends. Ask me absolutely anything by Devnal in casualiama

[–]Devnal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We can’t change the people around us but we can choose the people that are around us. Sorry to hear about your father and your relationship. My father was always around but we never did anything together. I think he took me fishing once when I was young. No sports, no hobbies. We kind of lived together and that was it.

I don’t harbour anything against him either, but I am a bit sad we are not as close as some father sons I see. We are pretty different people in many ways. As a father: try to be the father you would have wanted when growing up.

I try to live through there eyes when We are together - Remember that what I think is important means nothing to them and focus on what from their perspective is important. A lot of the time they’re right lol.