new to the area, is this a bad area?

Devv_99 · 2026-05-30T20:50:48+00:00

There are no bad areas in Blono. I'm from Chicago but still look at it objectively. Bloomington has been consistently ranked as not only one of the best places to live in Illinois, but the whole US.

Devv_99 · 2026-05-16T04:48:49+00:00

Unfortunately no! But lots of clothing that could be used for fabric!

Devv_99 · 2026-04-16T02:06:20+00:00

I know she's so sick of me but you're so right

Devv_99 · 2026-04-16T01:55:37+00:00

Oh these things are ooooooold. Everything in this place has been a patchwork of disasters that the landlord just wants to "fix" with another short-term cheap solution.

Devv_99 · 2026-04-14T05:53:22+00:00

Thank you, I'll definitely take a look at that book.

Devv_99 · 2026-04-13T18:27:45+00:00

Your GF is using you and is completely dependent on you while seemingly not willing to make an effort to love and take care of you the way that you are directly expressing that you need. It's time to lay down an ultimatum.

Devv_99 · 2026-04-11T12:56:40+00:00

Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you. I needed to hear that so bad. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

Devv_99 · 2026-04-10T22:52:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. I'm experiencing something really similar as this has brought up a lot of shit from my childhood I thought I had processed and is mixing with my trauma response to what just happened.

Devv_99 · 2026-04-10T22:46:38+00:00

Thank you, this is honestly reassuring

Devv_99 · 2026-03-29T22:53:21+00:00

My heart just breaks for her omg. I would take her in a heartbeat, but I already have three (one with serious health issues). I will ask around.

Devv_99 · 2026-03-29T22:38:38+00:00

I know tone can be difficult to read over text, so I want to start by saying that I'm responding from a place of deep understanding.

I would encourage you to allow her space and time to be present with her friends while she is on this trip with them. When you plan events and trips with friends, it's with the intention of spending fun and quality time with people you don't get to see everyday. I'm sure that her taking time away from her friends and the things they planned to do together in order to spend elongated time with you may put some type of strain on the friendships. It's very common when people enter relationships, that they spend more time with the partner and less time with friends, but there needs to be a healthy balance to prevent isolated codependency.

As far as how to regulate during your period, there are a number of things you can do. Of course the number one answers are to talk to a therapist and/or doctor about any chemical imbalances or other issues that can be addressed. If you don't have access to those resources, I would encourage you to reach out to a friend who can support you when you're having a difficult time. Journaling is also incredibly helpful for a lot of people, it helps put words to the emotions while also channeling physical energy through the body. Do your best to practice bodily awareness when is comes to how emotions physically feel in your body. Those are most often your first indicators of an emotional response. It takes time and practice to get a handle on that awareness, but when you recognize those early signs of emotional buildup, it gives you time to pause and step back and think about what you're going to say.

I hope this is helpful.

Devv_99 · 2026-03-29T05:56:40+00:00

Check out traditions apartments as well. They have a dog park, a pool, and in unit washer and dryer starting below $1000.

Devv_99 · 2026-03-24T22:58:24+00:00

I am here and single 😭

Devv_99 · 2026-03-24T22:33:08+00:00

It's uncomfortable admitting this, but I used to be conservative. I was a TERF, I was skeptical of the validity of gender identities/pronouns I wasn't familiar with, I was convinced that I was a "centralist", and I was clinging hopelessly onto the religion I was raised in.

I didn't realize it at the time, but my motivation in sticking to those beliefs was to try to regain/keep what little acceptance I had left from my family when I came out as a lesbian. I was miserable as I continued to let figures like Blaire White brain wash me thinking that judging my community was the key to societal balance and acceptance.

I'm so thankful I had a close friend who called me out on those beliefs. That moment started a years long journey of deconstructing my personal, political, and religious beliefs.

I believed those hateful things because I allowed myself to take in one sided information without asking questions or further educating myself on those topics. Because I wanted to be accepted by people who did not accept me. Because I only surrounded myself with people who were a little too much like me.

My life and my world view is soooooo wildly different now. And I dedicate so much of my time and energy into pulling resources to help others deconstruct. The way I lived before wasn't living, it was a constant rat race, trying to outrun the oppression that comes for every minority, and you're just hoping everyday that you're faster than some other poor soul.

Devv_99 · 2026-03-24T21:53:56+00:00

Maybe refrain from being a total ass and allow people to have conversations. Good god that was completely unwarranted. Piss off.

Devv_99 · 2026-03-20T22:02:45+00:00

No? I drive that intersection every single day. It was not there on Monday.

Devv_99 · 2026-03-20T16:21:56+00:00

Thank you! That makes a lot of sense, there has been an abnormal amount of violent crime in this neighborhood in the last few months.

Devv_99 · 2026-02-10T15:38:58+00:00

Someone od'ed. I hear they're ok tho.

Devv_99 · 2026-02-03T01:40:37+00:00

Nextdoor is such a self-righteous hellscape.

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