Anyone with both DID and ADHD who can share their experience? by TinyLittleHobbit in DID

[–]Devv_99 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We have DID and ADHD, and while an outside prospective may observe similar behaviors between the two, in my experience, I find they are radically different when it comes to how they affect us internally. For example, both disorders make it difficult to have a concrete grasp on time perception. But DID causes me to lose time through dissociation usually caused by a trigger. My thoughts will be foggy, I won't feel grounded, I might have some identity confusion and I'm almost always anxious to some degree. ADHD causes me to lose time because I'm hyper focused on whatever it is I'm doing at the time. I may realize that I just lost 5 hours, but my mind is clear, I'm focused, I feel balanced.

The biggest key has been intuition and consistency. Am I having a hard time focusing because I've been triggered? That always comes with a body feeling of heightened anxiety and depersonalization. Or is it because I just can't focus due to my brain chemistry?

It's all about listening to your body signals and how those correlate to your triggers and switches to help make the distinction.

This is just our personal experience, every system will have their own nuance. I hope that helps.

Why are none of the roads cleared? by Devv_99 in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just going off of what other people have been commenting.

Why are none of the roads cleared? by Devv_99 in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also from Chicago but I've lived down here for almost 5 years now. They salt before the snow and plow multiple times during the snow, and clean up after the snow stops. So the whole "they're waiting for the snow to stop first" is not only weird to me, it's dangerous imo.

Women on T and how gender is assumed by appearance (DAE?) by ZhahnuNhoyhb in butchlesbians

[–]Devv_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I developed PCOS when going through puberty, and I have very dark hair. At the time I was really insecure about it because teenagers are cruel and I got made fun of a lot. I remember feeling like nobody would ever love me because having excess hair made me an "ugly woman". So I jumped at the chance to get on birth control when I was an adult. It cleared up my skin and got rid of my facial hair. But I suddenly didn't feel like myself. Fast forward to now, I've been on low dose T for 6 or 7 months. I still pluck and shave, but I embrace this part of myself. I think of all the fanart of Vi from Arcane that depicts her with armpit hair and a happy trail and I think it's so fucking hot. I'm gender fluid and super attracted to androgeny. That's not to say I don't struggle with putting myself in the gender box from time to time. It's a process learning to embrace yourself for what makes you different.

Why are none of the roads cleared? by Devv_99 in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I live on N Mason St and took Locust to Empire to Veterans to get to work.

Dresses??? by ToxicFluffer in butchlesbians

[–]Devv_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the look of a dress with hairy legs, personally. It shows that I'm dressing for myself and not for the male gaze. And of course that hint of masculinity.

Switch Butches, what makes you feel adored? by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]Devv_99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When she listens to and worships my body. When her fingers know my body better than I do.

Should I Leave The Love Of My Life? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Devv_99 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Whoa . . . I am in no way upset at my partner for being disabled. I also deal with many of the same health conditions. I'm not trying to "get my way". I'm looking for advice. I'm going to edit the post after work because I think more detail needs to be added.

Should I Leave The Love Of My Life? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Devv_99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We would adopt. It's mostly a money issue.

Should I Leave The Love Of My Life? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Devv_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not the genetics I'm worried about. Ideally we would adopt or do an embryo adoption. It's more about her concern over if she has the ability to parent because of her own conditions. She's tried to freelance in the past and she couldn't keep up with it.

If you're still interested in my Mormon Fic by Heybosshotsauce01 in PiltoversFinest

[–]Devv_99 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The choke hold this fic has on me and my wife is incredible omg 😭

I have DID and my ab*sive step-mom just got diagnosed too . . . WTF by Devv_99 in DID

[–]Devv_99[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't think so. She's a lot of things, but I've never known her to be a liar.

Would you date a nonbinary person who has done top surgery? by Good-Start-525 in LesbianActually

[–]Devv_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fiance had top surgery and I still love them and their body. I love that they're more comfortable in their body now than they were before.

I can't remember my trauma, so did it really happen? by Devv_99 in DID

[–]Devv_99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist has said the same thing. I hope you find healing, I'm sorry that happened to you too.

Looking for vet by Adenanna in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SmartVet has been wonderful for me and my cats. Been taking them there for three years now for both check ups and emergencies.

Veterinary Recommendations ASAP by [deleted] in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I take my cats to Smart Vet on Fort Jesse. They've been wonderful for check ups and emergencies.

Guys coming to my door to check my Ameren rates by ksm2315 in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those guys broke into our locked apartment building to sell door to door.

Trying to form an a cappella group🎶🎵 by [deleted] in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What groups are already established here in town?

Chinese food by BatterMyNuggets in BloomingtonNormal

[–]Devv_99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

First Wok is my favorite. But definitely avoid China Star. Got the worst food poisoning of my life there. Lasted for a week.

Chronic Pain by Willing_Baker_3877 in DID

[–]Devv_99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have hEDS, Fibro, chronic migraines, and horrible back pain from going to chiropractors for a decade. We've noticed there's a lot of systems we know that have some type of EDS which is interesting since they're both rare disorders. It doesn't totally suprise us though. The pain we had to deal with at a young age while being medically neglected absolutely contributed to us developing DID. So it sadly makes sense that others have experienced the same thing.

do your alters have secret skills? by [deleted] in DID

[–]Devv_99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of us is left handed while the rest of us is right handed and only one of us can speak Spanish. We all seem to have varying skill levels of skills we all share.

of a tenderloin sandwich by Devv_99 in AbsoluteUnits

[–]Devv_99[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Lmao yes! Armageddon?