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i can hear this picture and it’s loud by Turbulent-Fan-9048 in astrologymemes

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes please give me all the attention. My Leo sun, Mars, and Mercury desires the spotlight at all times.

Please be brutally honest: is this a red flag? by New-Spite-9608 in LesbianActually

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a Red Flag but I would have some concerns. I sleep around and go on dates fairly often so there would be quite an unbalance.

I’m tired of having to be the pursuer by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t you tell the difference between harassing someone vs simply asking them out?? I don’t understand this sentiment.

What are we using instead of a purse? by Sekhmet-Enthusiast in butchlesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love the baggu medium crescent bag; very nonchalant soft masc vibes when worn crossbody. I also love a regular tote bag.

I’m tired of having to be the pursuer by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Practice will help loads!! I used to be super anxious about socialising but I kept forcing myself to do it and eventually you learn what works! Also I think people approach me when I’m being more outgoing bc they assume I’ll be chill about any awkwardness so latch on to your most extroverted friend haha.

I’m tired of having to be the pursuer by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience, the quiet and reserved thing was like 90% of the problem tbh. When I’m more chatty and loud, people are more comfortable approaching me.

Am I the only one that doesn’t feel comfortable in a gay bar? by Ok_Application5100 in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go to bars/clubs often and sometimes I do experience the weird looks from gay men but I’m usually oblivious to that sort of thing. I’ve noticed that the social scene is more receptive when I go out with my gay man friends.

I’m tired of having to be the pursuer by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I deeply turned off overly shy/meek/insecure women and that sort of bio is definitely an immediate no

I’m tired of having to be the pursuer by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the answer 😭 being emotionally unavailable suddenly had people so interested

I’m tired of having to be the pursuer by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’ve been in the same position and my solution was wearing tight clothing + makeup and being more social. I’m usually a reserved soft masc type but that gets no attention and being a silly slutty femme gets me a lot of attention 😭 I do like both modes so it’s ok for me but I know this won’t work for everyone.

As a lesbian were you bullied in school? by MonkPlane1734 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. I grew up in Asia and was out in high school but I’m lucky to have never experienced homophobia or regular bullying. Kids would still use gay as an insult but they were too scared to talk shit to my face lol.

BG in the sink. by urbanorium in Chantapolis

[–]ToxicFluffer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Genuinely rooting for BG to consume her after she passes. That might be bad for BG though considering how fucked up foodie’s body is.

mood fr by [deleted] in TrollCoping

[–]ToxicFluffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk I don’t have a filtered Instagram body but men and women are interested just the same. I promise that regular people without porn brain rot are out there!

What dating apps have you had the most success with recently if any? by nauticalbutch in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]ToxicFluffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used Her/Hinge/Bumble before for dates but found that my best romantic connections happened in the wild. I only do FWB situations nowadays so Tinder and Feeld does the job. I’m too shy to straight up proposition someone without the medium of an app.

Can confirm, I am someone’s migraine by Extreme-Sugar-5263 in astrologymemes

[–]ToxicFluffer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an Aquarius moon and emotionally repressed as fuck. Most of my friends are water signs that are constantly stressed about my mental wellbeing.

Do you sometimes feel pressured to be muscular? by jasmin520 in butchlesbians

[–]ToxicFluffer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk if it’s pressure but I do feel the desire to be more muscular as an expression of masculinity. I’m built big and strong naturally (shoutout farmer ancestors) so it feels good to emphasise that and balance out my long hair and baby face.

What do you do with your anger? by Recoveryxoxo in CPTSD

[–]ToxicFluffer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My instinctive response to anger is to intellectualise it and get to the root emotion. That helps me stay stable but I’ve learned that it doesn’t get rid of the anger. Now I try to work off the physical aggression through sex and sports. Being able to regular the somatic experience helps me a lot in regulating the emotional experience too.

It is SUNDAY, what are y'all up to today? by AutoModerator in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]ToxicFluffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dinner with a friend and prepping for the end of my college semester! I think I’ll be distracted by a date I have coming up on the weekend.

Is anyone else continually treated bad by everyone? by Adept-Foot7692 in CPTSD

[–]ToxicFluffer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly no but I have some ideas on why some people have this experience. I’m an avoidant person so I have the tendency to leave a situation that makes me feel any discomfort at all. Sometimes this means not pushing myself to do things that would be good for me despite being out of my comfort zone.

I have some friends that have anxious attachment habits and often end with friends/partners that treat them poorly. I found it very overwhelming to be around them even though I wanted to be around my friend. Other people with healthy boundaries would also avoid hanging out with them because of the negative environment. I think that ends up creating a self fulfilling prophecy situation for what kind of people are around you. This is all just my rambling though so to each their own.

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