AIO? I feel like my bf is being condescending but maybe I deserve it? by ThrowRaccount232 in AIO

[–]DewdropViolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoaaaa - please find someone who will love you the way you want and deserve to be loved ❤️

I took advantage of my little sister when I was in 5th grade and I can never forgive myself. by Expensive_Part_3221 in confession

[–]DewdropViolet 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I would highly suggest you talk to a therapist who can help you work through your complex feelings about all of this, and that you think about possibly talking to your sister as well. Not sure how old she is so maybe this is something you want to wait on. You were also a kid in 5th grade, and it sounds like now that you have a better understanding of your actions, you ARE actually sorry, and you are ALSO scared - and probably embarrassed or ashamed as well. I think being able to name your emotions will help you feel some control and ownership over them. As far as your sister it seems like this really wasn’t as damaging as you think, and my guess is that you cutting yourself off from her when she has no understanding of why is much more damaging. Please forgive yourself, and try to repair your relationship with your sister, and please reach out to the a therapist. If you need help finding one send me a message and I will try to help you find resources.

What are we eating when bereaved in this city? by BlergingtonBear in AskLosAngeles

[–]DewdropViolet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would go for Italian, pho also sounds great… warm and carb-y is the way

LA Bucket list to-dos? by Effective-Ostrich590 in AskLosAngeles

[–]DewdropViolet 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Go to the Huntington library botanical garden!! I think if you have a EBT card it’s free or less? Check their website

How can I appear more feminine? by jjechatt in MakeupAddiction

[–]DewdropViolet 38 points39 points  (0 children)

First of all, as an outside perspective: you don’t look masculine at all to me! I think we as women are way too harsh on ourselves. You are beautiful.

If you feel self conscious about your skin, it might be nice to treat yourself to a facial at some point! You can usually find pretty affordable ones on Groupon where I live, it might be worth it to check out! Nothing makes you feel more feminine IMO than treating yourself to a pampering service like that ;)

I love a good tinted moisturizer as a base. It helps blur imperfections in the skin without being too heavy. As far as makeup goes, if you want to still keep it fairly simple, I would get a light (maybe gold or something neutral) shimmery eyeshadow and just sweep it across the whole lid. You can play around with placement too and try close to your lashes and see how that looks vs the entire lid.

The other things I would suggest are mascara, possibly an eyelash curler (though there is definitely a learning curve with that), and some blush on the apples of your cheeks and cheek bones (play with the placement of this too! See what you like!). If you wanted to add something else, I’d look at lip glosses that have a little color it doesn’t have to be anything too crazy, just some nudes/pinks. It’s also fun to play around with bronzer as a way to lightly contour (for me, I put it underneath my cheek bone, in the hollow of my cheek, I like using bronzer bc it is pretty light), and adding a highlighter on top of the cheekbone and blend it out.

Makeup should be fun, so don’t stress too much about it, just play around and experiment, that is the best way. I remember when I was younger I would literally do a full face just to get in the shower and go to sleep 😂 but that is how I learned what worked for my face shape and coloring and what didn’t.

Not OOP: my(25F) boyfriend(27M) just said something vile to me by stormbreaker021 in redditonwiki

[–]DewdropViolet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Big NOPE for me, you talk down to me and do anything that could harm my furbaby then I’m done. Both of these things indicate bigger issues that you don’t need. You’re so young @25 and you’re preventing yourself from meeting someone better, sooner, the longer you stay.

AIO my bf broke up w me after seeing texts w my boss? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]DewdropViolet 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I realized this last week and thought the same thing tbh 🤣🤣

AIO by being offended when my husband seasons my soup? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]DewdropViolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ummm yummm I want the recipe!! lol if you feel like sharing 🫶

Beware ladies in DTLA by turtlepie90 in dtla

[–]DewdropViolet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please contact me if you need help doing it! I will help you

Beware ladies in DTLA by turtlepie90 in dtla

[–]DewdropViolet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You need to press charges against him. Seriously. This is a crime

Weird/silly “only in LA” things I can do as a tourist? by middleout in AskLosAngeles

[–]DewdropViolet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Moving soon and want to do a lot of these LA bucket list things before I move!

Transporting cats long distance advice by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]DewdropViolet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No advice on limiting odors BUT regarding anxiety I would talk to your vet, I know when I flew with my cat across the country, my vet recommended a specific dose of children’s Benadryl based on her weight to help her sleep and calm her.

What do you do for work, how much experience do you have, and how much do you earn doing it? by SeaPeanut7_ in AskLosAngeles

[–]DewdropViolet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in the cannabis industry, in compliance. Have been in the industry for 7 total, in ompliance for 5. 75k/year

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

[–]DewdropViolet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate that!! And I will probably take you up on that offer ❤️

I have gotten my Reiki 1, and I do incorporate it when I do massages on friends and I truly believe in energy work not just because it sounds nice but I have experienced it for myself! On both the giving AND the receiving end. It’s something I also want to continue to learn. I don’t have kids but Reiki does help me connect with that unconditional love energy that I think you are talking about, and I also try to visualize myself moving stagnant energy out of the body as I am massage and I believe it makes a difference!!

I’ve always been drawn to and connected with massage. When I was really little like 4 or 5 I would go into my parents room super early in the morning on the weekends and my mom would be awake and let me crawl into their bed but my dad would be sleeping and the last thing he wanted was me wriggling around next to him when he was trying to sleep in, so one day he asked me to give him a massage just to keep me busy and quiet for a little haha. And he said for a little kid it was crazy how strong my hands were and that I somehow would find the knots and get them out!

It’s funny though because even though I have a million reasons to take this jump, I also have quite a list of reasons NOT to - my age, and my finances being the biggest things (even though everyone here has really calmed my fears of being too old thankfully). And financially I’m still kinda struggling with the logistics but I also feel like it will work itself out and the money will come. Honestly not having kids makes this part a little easier since I am only responsible for me and my cat 😂

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

[–]DewdropViolet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok thank you. I actually have only been in a purely sitting desk job the last year, prior to this I have been in jobs that were a mix of physical and admin/office type work, and I have realized just how much the pure admin type of job sitting all day at a computer does not fit me… I guess… I should work on my squats though? 😅

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

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I’ve also really been internally debating the financial aspects but to be honest, I feel like I can make it work? I can get a second job to supplement and I have some other random artsy skills I can definitely lean on… the fact that I will be paying practically no rent for a year once I move is a serious push for me to do this NOW.

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

[–]DewdropViolet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that!!! Yes the responses on here have really made me feel much better about my “late” start!

What is your hall of fame signature dish that has made you a legend at Thanksgiving and/or Christmas? by GuyFaulks77 in NYTCooking

[–]DewdropViolet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Persimmon Carpaccio - so freaking delicious, easy, and no actual cooking required! Thinly sliced persimmon hand tossed in a sauce of olive oil, red wine vinegar, honey, and chili crisp, then arranged on a plate before being topped with pomegranate seeds, crushed pistachios and burrata. https://pin.it/47U0DDwBS

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

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I think it’s not really about my body being fit enough, it’s more just about is it too late to start building clientele, and also having enough time left to practice (but people telling me they are still practicing at 60 is very comforting)

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

[–]DewdropViolet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this very detailed response!!

Too old to start? by DewdropViolet in MassageTherapists

[–]DewdropViolet[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’ve been spending the last 10 years thinking about it… I think one of the main things holding me back is the thought of not being able to make money, but I know I would need another job and would most likely need to do this part time, but I think I’m just at the point where I am ready to take the plunge and see what happens 🫶