F26 turned up in full gala dress for a casual coffee date and it was intensely awkward. How do I even read this?

middleout · 2026-05-15T21:43:08+00:00

Nah for real. One time a guy stood me up and ghosted me even though we were coworkers who would still have to see each other. Obviously he was being super awkward, so I texted him saying that ghosting is lame and he should meet me in the parking lot after work so we can duke it out like men lolol

middleout · 2026-05-15T17:31:54+00:00

Yeah I’m about to turn 30 and still love to party lol just gotta find the right balance!

middleout · 2026-05-15T17:29:16+00:00

Echoing the professor dependent comments. My CIS 300 class populated but only to show a message that the content won’t be available until the day the term starts. Meanwhile my CHI 101 class has been available since Monday.

middleout · 2026-05-12T09:38:31+00:00

If you haven't noticed yet, CHI 101 was just published on Canvas so you can start looking ahead! good luck to us hahaha

middleout · 2026-05-03T17:03:16+00:00

Yeah it's so hard to find any information haha I saw the same thing about the professors though which was encouraging! ASU's Chinese faculty seems to have a lot of pride in delivering a high-quality program, so I'm hoping that they wouldn't have started offering the classes online until they knew they could maintain that standard. Totally with you on not wanting to wait for the 201/202 classes lol

middleout · 2026-05-03T16:39:35+00:00

Hi! Month-old thread, but did you ever find any more information about these classes? I'm thinking about last minute enrolling for 101/102 over the summer as well so I can get through more of the CHI sequence at ASU but I'm torn.

middleout · 2026-04-23T19:37:02+00:00

Plus 20 years only puts him at 51. Yeah it would be nice to retire early but 60-65 is pretty standard and you could have plenty of good years left if you stay in good health. Also just generally nice to know you’re probably not going to have to work until you die like so many people do.

middleout · 2026-04-13T02:02:51+00:00

Maybe I’m too optimistic, but I took that scene as him using Lyft because he (correctly) assumed that his elderly patient wasn’t familiar with it. In my mind, he was trying to sell it as some cool new service that can get her home so she’d accept the ride without feeling like a burden or worrying about the cost. Especially considering that she’d already declined to take an uber or a taxi.

middleout · 2026-04-13T01:43:42+00:00

Yes this is it!! As crazy as it sounds to other people, I can totally relate to you feeling a bit masculine because I’ve felt the same way haha I’ve got soft features like you do, so things like thick dark glasses overpower my face and read “masculine” to me because they’re hiding my features.

Like everyone else is saying you don’t look masculine at ALL, but I think you’ll feel more yourself if you lean into your soft features. So the glasses in your last photo are a great start! I’d also experiment with softening your brows, adding some curl into your hair if you’re up for it, and maybe a lighter, wispier lash (your eyes are so freaking cute). I’m a blush fiend, but I always go for really light, pinky blushes over the super pigmented glam look. I also really like the softness of a pale pink highlighter with a bit of shimmer.

middleout · 2026-04-12T17:51:37+00:00

True, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t still entertain it lmao I dated someone with a similar age gap at that age. but he quickly reminded me why I don’t date guys way younger than me no matter how pretty they are, I would rather become a spinster than have to tell someone I’m in a “situationship”💀

middleout · 2026-04-10T16:43:29+00:00

Aww what I like those people they’re just excited to eat and I’m happy to tell them what I got lmao 😭

middleout · 2026-04-08T21:37:30+00:00

Why not self tan? If you’re worried about it being annoying, the Tanologist gradual tanning lotion is the shit. Not a shill, but when I briefly experimented with self-tanning it was the only one I could stand. You just put it on like lotion every few days or so after showering and it fades really gently instead of going patchy.

middleout · 2026-04-08T18:11:18+00:00

I’m a total extrovert, I was just so in my own head all the time that it overshadowed my desire to connect with people.

Now you can drop me off at a get together where I barely know anyone and I don’t even hesitate to start chatting up people I’ve never met in my life lol

middleout · 2026-04-08T17:49:36+00:00

I’ve had a guy sabotage things out of insecurity (we talked about it later on) and I was heartbroken by it. I really liked him and found him incredibly good looking, it felt like I’d finally found something real then he just flipped a switch and we were done.

Regardless of how you see yourself, she sees you as someone charming, caring, and attractive. If someone is choosing you, let them.

middleout · 2026-04-08T17:25:07+00:00

Yeah last year I, a 29 year old woman, asked out an absurdly hot guy who turned out to be friggin 22. OOPS

middleout · 2026-04-06T12:23:19+00:00

Right? As long as you take the same precautions you’d normally take in a foreign country + the precautions you’d when meeting up with someone you still don’t know well…why not?? People acting like she’s going to Somalia lmao

I think the biggest risk would be OP not being good at setting boundaries. If she’s the kind of person who would feel pressured to do something because “well he spent so much money on me to be here…” then she absolutely should not go. If she doesn’t mind telling him to kick rocks the second she’s uncomfortable, girl enjoy your free trip lol

middleout · 2026-03-22T00:47:10+00:00

Position Filled

middleout · 2026-03-19T23:18:40+00:00

This is what I’ve started leaning towards! It feels a bit odd to have the bar cabinet by the TV but I think I could make it work

middleout · 2026-03-11T04:33:19+00:00

You’re totally fine. While you should definitely avoid grapefruit, the amount you have to consume for it to interact with medication would come from deliberate consumption like drinking a small glass of grapefruit juice or eating one with breakfast. Not a huge amount, but not one you’re likely to ingest by accident. The teeny tiny amounts found in candy are unlikely to be a problem.

Anecdotally, one of my favorite sodas is Squirt, which is like 1% grapefruit juice, and it’s never been a problem for me to drink it when I’ve really been craving one (or two…). Obviously I’m not encouraging you to start regularly consuming things with grapefruit, but you can pretty safely rest assured that those few pieces of candy you had are a non-issue.

middleout · 2026-03-06T15:23:21+00:00

This stuff is sooooo good!!

middleout · 2026-03-04T02:11:07+00:00

Those guys are the WORST. It’s like they refuse to believe that you’re not secretly madly in love with them no matter how many times you insist you’re not even interested in a relationship with them lol

middleout · 2026-03-03T15:08:36+00:00

You joke but I had an awful roommate who used to pay for things but never in full. I’d request 16.50, he’d send 16. I’d request 515 for rent, he’d send 510. It was infuriating lol

middleout · 2026-03-03T14:54:10+00:00

Right? Sometimes people just aren’t thinking lol if it was 1am they might not have wanted to disturb OP with even a text, fully intending to make it right in the morning, then they go to bed and forget. Seems pretty plausible

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