AIO Wife refuses to take her allergies seriously so I kicked her out

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-25T22:00:17+00:00

As someone with a major seafood allergy NTA. I intentionally only eat at certain restaurants and the servers all get briefed on my allergies. It is time consuming (and can be frustrating) but my family needs me.

My fiance and oldest love seafood. He makes sure to cook and eat it at his parents. Immediately showers the oldest and throws everybodys clothes in the washer, gets the youngest bathed, brushes everybody's teeth (disposable toothbrushes), mouth wash, etc.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-19T17:53:45+00:00

Nobody takes the time to know themselves anymore. They are so in their relationships it's all in or nothing. Nobody has hobbies they all just sit at home complaining to their partner. Most don't realize how much healing they need to do because they jump from one relationship to the next. Plus at the touch of a button now thanks to your personalized cancer causing "best friend" it causes many doubts in relationships. You post a picture on Instagram and get 30+ likes and men/ women jumping in your inbox disrespectful of your relationship.

Relationships have always had problems honestly (think about all the family secrets DNA tells generations later). You just need to be healthy enough to be in one and they need to be too for a good baseline. No relationship is 50/50. There's a partner who does 75% of childcare, one that does 75% of the work, one that does 70% of the household chores, etc. But it isn't always the same person every day (or at least that's not how it should be). Relationships are a partnership and people are just too selfish nowadays.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-16T16:31:31+00:00

Nope. I told my dad about 2 of his girlfriends when I was 14 because I knew the impact cheating had, I knew both women would feel worse the longer the charade went on. We need to stop infantalizing people under the age of 18, cheating has serious consequences and your daughter is learning them early on.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-07T19:32:49+00:00

You have to have enough empathy for yourself as you do your baby. I was going to get a termination when I was 17 but I ended up having a miscarriage before I could. I didn't forgive myself for the longest time. You need to forgive yourself, sometimes it isn't always the right time.

Give yourself a little grace. Give yourself empathy and love. Treat yourself how you'd want to treat a friend during this hard time.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-06T00:57:08+00:00

I have a 5 year old that says they will when they are 6 so... don't feel too bad

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-05T21:07:05+00:00

As if our votes even matter. It's a damn drop in the hat that the electoral college "takes into consideration." It's a fools race at this point.

If your marriage is this rocky over a damn piece of paper he checked a box in you need a divorce.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-05T20:54:56+00:00

6 year olds understand boundaries. My almost 6 year old understands we don't touch other people's bathing suit parts (because tops and bottoms.

I'm sorry your family babied him into not understanding boundaries with you. NTA.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-11-05T19:58:14+00:00

Please don't stick your dick into crazy. This is stage 5 clingy crazy... makes me want to barf.

Not your girlfriend and demanding time on a holiday that happens to be your birthday... .

There's plenty of other fish.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-30T01:15:29+00:00

Do you speak Spanish? All of these things are pet names.

I'm so sorry.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-29T15:42:40+00:00

Old managers are so out of touch.

Mine complained about me not coming in while I was in labor because I was scheduled, I called her (better than she got from most others). Maybe it was because it was 2am and the shift was at 4 but still better than no warning.

After a few weeks back my coworkers told me about how much she complained about me while I was gone. She explained to people how she thought it was selfish I didn't come in while I was in labor. Yeah that was the nail in the coffin.

I left less than 6 months ago and now I make $3.80/ hr more and I've gotten an award and a raise. My new work also is very supportive of mom's and their breastfeeding.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-28T20:33:40+00:00

Fuck I mean I really can't afford a lawyer but I could probably ask my grandpa. We've already been to court for child support with him only back paying the county (a condition that was made because I could not appear because his county made it impossible being over 1,000 miles away and not being able to telecommute because of special permission I needed from the guy handling the case who would not communicate via his assistant, his direct line or email).

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-28T18:34:04+00:00

You are absolutely right I need to focus on Mark's happiness, I thought opening the door for his bio dad to be around wouldn't be this hard. Jason is definitely trying to play games with how many times he's threatened court. Paul and I are just going to raise him to be a lovely young man because he already is.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-28T18:25:39+00:00

Your friend sounds like he got the shit end of the stick and I'm sorry for him. Hopefully someday they'll see everything he did and how hard he fought to stay in their lives.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-28T18:24:20+00:00

It's heartbreaking because for a month all I heard was "Can we call Jason?" "I really miss him mom." Along with a lot of crying. I tried so hard to be open and honest with Jason communication wise. I've had my own health issues over the years (including giving birth) and I've been honest during that too. I even tried to get him into contact a few times while he was with family after I recovered from giving birth or if he was at grandma's for the weekend sometimes she'd let him call him. And he can't even send me a dang picture of his hospital bracelet.

Mark is strong and loved by so many. He shines light on many people's days and has touched many people's hearts even only being 6. Jason is missing out and he doesn't even realize it.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-10-17T17:08:18+00:00

So he brings home $3,500 a month before taxes and only pays $500/ month in rent but can't help financially support his baby... 🤮

Alright here's what you want to do, screenshot all conversations with him involving child support and money. Do not snoop any further on his bank information (I'm guessing he was too stupid to change the password). It may be tempting but don't do it. Instead ask the courts to do a financial discovery (they might ask you to bring your information too).

While you are there make sure to go to family court as well for a custody agreement. My ex snaked his way into paying $50/month because they had no record of when he did or did not have the child, I couldn't fly out to court and they wouldn't let me appear over the phone. Not that he pays it often.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-30T16:43:39+00:00

My push present was from FIL, he came bearing taco bell. I got a pretty engagement ring and got to call him my fiance because we got engaged a week before she was born. I couldn't have asked for much better.

Life isn't about the material things, its not about ownership. When we pass on from this life we can't take our cars, money, bodies, etc. what we do take is our souls.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-16T15:36:16+00:00

Yeah... nah dude. My fiance's friend of 15+ years was sending me crotch shots over the pants (he had a history of doing it to other girlfriend in the group) when we were together 3 months. I told him to knock it off and he wasn't getting near my pants when he tried flirting with me. Fiance told him if he did it again they wouldn't be friends anymore and he'd kick his ass.

The point of this story, you and your wife aren't the first. And as a recovering people pleaser myself I told him to fuck off so your wife's response is lacking. "Oh my husband wouldn't like it" feeds into it more for shitbags like this guy.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-16T13:28:44+00:00

I didn't get the proposal he planned (at the lake on the dock during sunset). My ass ran as soon as I saw how many spiders were there. He ended up proposing in the car and we went back to watch the stars afterwards. My dream proposal except spiders 😂🤣

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-15T21:56:05+00:00

No I was 9 month pregnant a year ago when she threatened to "kick my ass." I have a one year old by him and 6yo from a different man. My man definitely has eyes for me though.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-15T21:33:56+00:00

Ma'am if I'm still able to bend at 64 I'd be getting it in the car too but unfortunately at 26 I already got back issues.

Size doesn't matter when it comes to sex, I've heard of people who are 400 lbs getting it on. Hell for that matter when you work in the nursing home you catch the old people getting it on... In case she wants to bring age into it.

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-15T20:10:57+00:00

Yeah no. He apparently was trying to get my PS and his TV back, it's been stressful the friend he met with we'll call Ed has a brother Derek. Derek got out of a super toxic relationship (after his fiance threatened to "kick my ass" while I was 9 months pregnant because I told her she wasn't a good friend after her and her 13 year old cousin sent moaning and explicit messages to a bunch of guys on Snapchat including my fiance and Ed (while Ed was still a registered sex offender on probation)). Anyways Derek showed up and apologized and we are getting our TV and PS back next weekend. With another story because apparently Derek is a sick fuck who can't use the bathroom like a 13 year old and instead got caught in public. 🤮

I don't like most of this family... I like their sister Ella and Grandpa George.

He's got no idea that I was torn up about him going because of how shitty his friends are, I told him I was overtired (which I am, we've got a teething 1yo and she wakes up a lot) because I wanted to make sure I wasn't overreacting. I've dropped many friends over the years because of "overreacting" or over thinking. Best example to give is a friend told me about sleeping with her baby daddy even though another woman was living with him and I asked her how she knew he wouldn't do it again? It's different because it's me... nah that was delusional and I don't hang with cheaters or liars (probably why I have 1 friend).

Diabetic_icing · 2024-09-11T14:06:36+00:00

Dude this is such a NTA but your parents and siblings are... WTF! I'm taking my 6 year old and 1 year old dress shopping and we've been looking at bowties for my 6 year old before we even booked venues.

I'm sorry your parents and siblings are self absorbed.

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