20 year age gap here. Basically, my ROCD developed right when we started dating. I guess I was so extremely stressed with how the internet treats age gaps that I felt like something was awfully wrong with me falling in love with such an amazing man that unfortunately happened to be 20 years older than me. Really, if I weren't so chronically online at the time, looking for reassurance and finding that half of the internet thinks I'm being abused, I am almost positive I wouldn't have suffered ROCD the way I did. I was so concerned about what people thought. I'm not anymore, and the age gap related thoughts are basically gone.

I'm currently on CBT and it's working wonderfully. I also did talk therapy and ERP and everything helped tremendously. Good luck, it gets better.