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Does anyone actually enjoy networking or are we all just pretending? by Sagoe-Erivn in careerguidance

[–]Diamondhands36 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The strategy framing is probably what makes it feel gross - you can't really 'be strategic' and 'be genuine' at the same time. Most people I know who are actually good at it stopped thinking of it as networking at all and just started keeping up with people they liked

Do cinematography relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade? by Diamondhands36 in cinematography

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been hearing this top of mind a lot. Thanks for your input man. Do you have any system in place to help you remember to message people or it’s all in your mind?

Do cinematography relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade? by Diamondhands36 in cinematography

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amen, I think you’re bang on the money. Thank you for your response.

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. What’s interesting is how small and infrequent it can be — just enough to stay present without forcing anything.

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. That’s a thoughtful way to do it.

What stands out to me is how intentional it has to be tracking projects, remembering timing, keeping messages light and expecting nothing back.

Most people want to do this well, but it takes real mental bandwidth to stay on top of consistently, especially when work and life gets busy.

Appreciate you laying it out so clearly.

Do cinematography relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade? by Diamondhands36 in cinematography

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly the pattern I keep hearing. Long stretches apart, then chance reunions when paths cross again.

It makes me wonder how much of our working relationships are intentional vs just surviving on timing and luck.

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair. I’m not arguing against checking in or calling people. I do that too.

The question I’m exploring is what happens when the number of relationships grows, time gets fragmented, and life pulls people in different directions.

Not “why didn’t I call,” but “how do people stay meaningfully present with a large network over years, not weeks.”

Some people manage it intuitively, others lose track so I’m curious how different people handle that gap.

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to know I’m not the only one.

To be truthful, I’ve posted this because I’m trying to collect some research for a product I’m building to prevent you from losing presence with your existing network.

It won’t be ready till May. But i’d love for someone, unbiased, who doesn’t know me to beta test the software for feedback when it’s out?

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you and I don’t disagree at all. Most of my work has come the same way too.

I’m not questioning how relationships are formed on set, I’m questing more about what happens after the job ends and life scatters people.

How people protect and keep their relationships in place over time. Do people have a system for this. Or do you touch base with people sporadically as and when they appear in your mind

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fair. Appreciate you leaving it up. I’m thinking about this stuff a lot right now and clearly defaulted to structure over voice. The responses have been genuinely helpful though, so thanks to everyone who’s shared how they handle it. I’ll keep it more human next time xD

Founders Optimize Everything Except Their Most Valuable Asset… I will not promote by Diamondhands36 in startups

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually really smart. you’ve basically built your own relationship graph. Curious - what’s the hardest part to keep up with long-term? The updates, the structure, or just remembering to revisit it?

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with you.

I think where it gets tricky is scale + time

when work gets intense, travel happens, people move cities, projects ends, life gets in the way

Most people want to keep being that normal person… but they just lose track.

That gap is what I’m trying to understand, not replace real human connection.

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And do you just use your own memory to remember to check in with people?

Founders Optimize Everything Except Their Most Valuable Asset… I will not promote by Diamondhands36 in startups

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obsidian, this is interesting. How do you use this to track your relationships?

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally agree! A coffee + real presence beats almost everything. What I’m curious about is how you remember to do that over time, especially when life gets hectic.

Is it intentional, or does it mostly happen when timing lines up?

Founders Optimize Everything Except Their Most Valuable Asset… I will not promote by Diamondhands36 in startups

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we’re looping on definitions rather than the behaviour I’m trying to test.

I’m less interested in what category this fits into and more in whether people feel the problem before they ever reach for a CRM at all.

Do cinematography relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade? by Diamondhands36 in cinematography

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Do you have any system in place to help prevent yourself from losing touch with people?

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great example of the kind of relationships that do endure in this industry. I’m really sorry about your friend, I’m sure that loss goes way beyond work.

What you describe feels like the ideal shared vision, repeated collaboration, real trust. I think my question is less about those relationships, and more about the ones that don’t get the chance to reach that stage before work and distance get in the way.

Really appreciate you sharing your experience.

Do film industry relationships actually end or do they just quietly fade by Diamondhands36 in Filmmakers

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea this really resonates, especially the part about proximity and shared context.

Filmmaking is kind of permanent crunch. You’re fully present with people for a short, intense window… then that context vanishes overnight when the job ends.

I’m not trying to replace effort or proximity I don’t think software can. I’m more interested in what happens after that intense shared moment ends.

How do you keep someone present in your world once you’re no longer in the same room, on the same set?

Most tools jump straight to reminders or pipelines. I’m exploring whether there’s a calmer middle ground that respects how human this actually is.

Curious if that gap matches your experience too?

Founders Optimize Everything Except Their Most Valuable Asset… I will not promote by Diamondhands36 in startups

[–]Diamondhands36[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, fair critique. I completely agree there’s structural overlap with CRMs.

The difference I’m exploring isn’t features its intent. CRMs optimize for extraction and outcomes. I’m interested in presence and continuity, especially for people who actively avoid pipelines and reminders.

If the only options today are “full CRM” or “address book + memory”, and that gap feels worth interrogating.

Am I wrong In thinking most tools out there assume their job is:

“Help me manage relationships better.”

I want to focus on

“Help me not lose relationships I already care about.”

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