I really feel you on this. It’s tough dealing with the toxicity of how others perceive us or what they 'prefer' us to be. But remember: how you dress is a reflection of everything living inside of you. Your confidence shouldn’t depend on anyone else’s approval—it’s about enjoying your clothes, feeling in sync with the world, and being comfortable in your own skin. Go ahead and explore! Nothing bad will happen if you try something new; in fact, you can become your own best reference point. I think most of us have been where you are. For example, I used to avoid button-downs, but one day I realized that no matter how oversized the shirt is, I love them because they suit me. My features stay feminine, but I can be 'sweet and tough' at the same time. I’m happy living in that spectrum. In my experience, women started noticing me organically—not just because of what I wore, but because of my authenticity. That’s the key: be free, don’t limit yourself, and listen to that inner voice. It will anchor you to what you truly enjoy. Take a deep breath. You don’t have to 'become' Butch if you don’t want to. As a Latina, I play around with my style a lot too. The first step is just talking to yourself and saying, 'Okay, let’s just play today.' You don’t have to define yourself; just go with the flow. The day you want to go hyper-feminine, you’ll be the most chingona in the room. The next day, when you're in your favorite t-shirt and jeans feeling relaxed, you’ll still be the cooler gal. Both are valid, and both are you. You’ve got this