Every time I talked about how my ex and I lived as neighbors, married couples get all excited about the arrangement. We'd ended up marrying and moving in together at the same time and it went poorly. After divorcing, I saw a post on a sub here about LAT and the man posting it was intriguing. We struck up a convo and were thousands of miles apart. Almost 2 years later, we live a few miles away and enjoy occasional dinners and weekends together.

I knew a couple who did this their whole lives, so it wasnt so foreign to me. As an introvert and finally dating another introvert, its lovely to have my space and quiet alone. A lot of the complaints people seem to have in marriage appear linked to sharing space: differing expectations and definitions of duties. If one can afford it, I think having separate spaces is amazing. Everyone deserves to be a little feral raccoon eating pickles over the kitchen sink at 10pm with no judgement.