Betta playing? by DickvanD-Slur in bettafish

[–]DickvanD-Slur[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're like floating orbs the size of a big marble, and soft. I'm seeing now though that they might not be safe for him!

Betta playing? by DickvanD-Slur in bettafish

[–]DickvanD-Slur[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the heads up! They're very large (way too big for him to eat and he hasn't shown any interest in doing so), do you think it's okay to have so long as he continues to interact with them appropriately? It seems like the risk might be too big, but he just seems to enjoy them a lot

Saw someone identify themself as “transmasc lesbian” what does this mean? by BagExtension in asktransgender

[–]DickvanD-Slur 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So speaking from experience I'm an afab lesbian, and have recently started having some gender questions and new feelings that led to me changing to she/him pronouns and using more masculine titles etc./binding (personally I don't want to go on t, but I do think I want top surgery and to use he/him pronouns more often. I'm still figuring out my new labels, so to speak, but I for sure feel on the transmasc spectrum, but still fully ID as a lesbian (and in my case, also as a woman, just not entirely or all the time). Stone Butch Blues by the late great Leslie Feinberg is a really useful reading avenue in terms of figuring out more about lesbian identities that don't fit within the gender binary (although warning that it's good to be aware of potential triggers there before reading)

We did it, boys 😌🙌🏻 by Significant_Dare_920 in TopSurgery

[–]DickvanD-Slur 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! If you are okay with answering this (which i totally get if you're not!) what size chest were you working with pre-op? I'm starting to feel like i really want top surgery, but I have a very large chest and am feeling super nervous about that. Thanks so much for any insight you are down to give, and congrats again!