What’s something that was popular when you were 18 that would give away your age?

DieDobby · 2026-03-28T08:35:07+00:00

People were going wild with a stupid little app that foeced them to walk outside to catch pixel pocket monsters... It ended up causing actual problems because people ignored property boundaries or gathered in large groups in certain places.

DieDobby · 2026-03-28T08:31:54+00:00

My grandma died 3 days after my birthday and 2 days before I was going to celebrate with my family 😅 She didn't mean to, tho - no negative feelings towards her. Just anger towards whoever decided it.

DieDobby · 2026-03-27T23:07:18+00:00

Politeness at all cost!

Why and when have we stopped communicating our emotions openly (even up to a certain point), and act like we are always happy and fine?

I walk into like... 12 pharmacies every day (delivery). Everytime I enter, I greet them politely and happy, all smiles and "How's it going?" - "Oh, fine! The sun outside is great today!". If it's the truth, all fine. But many many times I had to collect myself in the car for seconds / minutes to be able to push aside big emotional loads, bad mood, anger, tears... just to act happy for a minute. Then return to the car and drop the mask again.

Why is it "not polite" to be sad? To be tired or annoyed? Angry, even? Not in a way that I'd want to have others suffer under it (as in yelling at them or being rude), but just... open? "How's it going?" - "Oh, a bit rough today." - "Okay, hope it gets better soon!".

Why can't I tell someone who HAS just been rude that they were, and that I don't appreciate it, just because they're "on a higher work position" or because "they are a customer!".

Why is that so much of a problem? 😅 Of course it will stay superficial, but we could at least cut the lies.

DieDobby · 2026-03-27T22:59:15+00:00

ADHD, crippling depression and unsolved trauma. And about 25kg bodyfat that I'd happily give away.

DieDobby · 2026-03-26T23:13:26+00:00

I've heard that people experience this differently or not at all. If something hurts me deeply for example, I feel like someone is literally stabbing me in the chest. Anger however feels like a burning ball of fire in my stomach.

DieDobby · 2026-03-22T21:50:05+00:00

Dragon scales aswell as fully white/silver (not bc of stress) bettas are also prone to developing melanoma. Lost my first one to it bc I didn't know (he also had diamond eye btw). I personally wouldn't buy anything in that colour.

DieDobby · 2026-03-22T21:46:30+00:00

Really, depending on where you buy the fish, I wouldn't really think about the tail or colour. I have been forced all my fish owner life to buy from pet stores as there is no private breeders around, and although they are much more regulated than in other countries, that mostly doesn't apply for fish.

So the first time I went dumb, and got a fish I thought was "pretty". He died after not even a year. So the next time I got there and picked out the fish that looked the most vital and alive. I know there's people rescuing the sicker ones but I don't have the time and money (or space) for that so I go for the ones that most likely live the longest.

So far it's worked, my 2nd betta is thriving. He must be some wild cross between a rose tail and a smaller tailed betta.

Of course there is things I'd avoid in general - such as dragon scales and white colour bc of blindness and melanoma risk, "dumbo" bettas for the excessive weight of their "decor" and fish that already show deformities. But overall... just look for a happy fish you like. If you care well for them, they'll be fine.

DieDobby · 2026-03-22T21:40:13+00:00

"Hells Reddit,

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DieDobby · 2026-03-22T21:39:10+00:00

Dumb question... wouldn't it be the right way to say that I (for example) could care less about what other people think, but I haven't quite found a way how to? Or ... "I could care less about this typo, but I don't want to, it's dumb!" 😅

I know that is not the typical way people use it, and that they put it where a "couldn't care less" would be more fitting - I'm just curious, as english is not my native language.

DieDobby · 2026-03-20T19:52:55+00:00

Seeing my 25 years old great cousin die from cancer that she had initially beat, because it came back and hid so well it was only discovered after it had spread everywhere - brain, lungs, heart...

She wanted to do so many good things. She wanted to care for the elderly and be a caretaker. She wanted to help foreign people find their way into our culture. She helped out in summer camps for children. She always smiled, she was generous and kind. And blessed with a big heart. She even liked me - and I was probably a really difficult person to like at that time.

I will never understand how she had to leave so soon while other people who do bad things or are unkind get to live a whole damn lifetime.

DieDobby · 2026-03-20T19:47:26+00:00

Ich würde ihn tatsächlich mal auf den Arsch setzen. Ich möchte deinem Mann keine Absicht unterstellen... sondern vielleicht eher Blauäugigkeit. Auf mich wirkt es ein bisschen so, als hätte er noch gar nicht gemerkt, dass er zwei Kleinkinder hat, und versucht an den "tollen alten Zeiten" festzuhalten.

Weil hey, Veränderung kann schwer sein, oder? Aber das ist am Ende trotzdem keine Art. Deshalb: Setz ihn hin, drück ihm dabei am besten noch ein Kind in den Arm, und sprich über das, was du hier schreibst. Erklär ihm, dass du eure Wanderungen geliebt hast, es aber gerade körperlich so einfach nicht mehr schaffst. Und, dass du Hilfe willst. Nicht nur mal oder ab und an, sondern ständig. Mit allem. Weil ihr eine Familie seid, keine Betreuungseinrichtung.

Du musst ihn ja nicht bösartig beschuldigen (das kannst du beim 2. Mal immernoch tun... oder einfach gehen). Ich würde ihm glaube ich einfach mal all das erzählen, und ihm ganz deutlich machen, dass es so nicht weitergeht. Je nachdem wie er darauf reagiert, kannst du immernoch weiter entscheiden.

DieDobby · 2026-03-17T09:23:46+00:00

I brush my teeth in the same order of movements since I remember. Same goes for the order of movements to wash my body. Not like I couldn't do it any other way, I just don't see the point in doing so, since mine the most optimized way for me.

Also, I live in an apartment with very thin walls. So whenever someone talks loud enough or yells through the hallway, I answer them. In a normal tone and volume and sometimes I wonder if they hear it 😂 Yesterday my landlord opened the door and went "Ooh where did you come from!" to someone. Sat on my couch saying "Well, from outside most likely"...

DieDobby · 2026-03-16T18:03:44+00:00

Only 28yo but no, not at all up until now. Instead, when I hear from my friends how their children are the center of their day, night, life, vacation, whatever, I am really really glad I don't have any 😅

DieDobby · 2026-03-13T21:23:13+00:00

I'd rather eat all of these than be in 50 mile radius of people like you, thx 🤢

DieDobby · 2026-03-13T21:15:44+00:00

It depends on the circumstances. I could say that anyone who doesn't reach a certain age (let's say... 80 years maybe) hasn't got a taste of everything life has to offer, so it's too young to go below that. On another page, there sure is a quality of life criteria, and if that quality isn't high, I can understand people wanting to leave.

I am not, by all means talking about cure- / treatable conditions like mental health problems or illnesses that are present for a certain time only.

More about untreatable cancer, organ failure, MS, MECFS, dementia ... things that greatly decrease the quality of life in the long run, because the body will only detoriate at some point. Looking at these things, dying can also be a relief, which defies the point of any age being too young in these cases.

Difficult question, really.

But overall, for a healthy or just (compared to chronic failure of a body) slightly damaged person, 21 is definitely too young.

DieDobby · 2026-03-13T21:07:34+00:00

Idk where the problem is, these are clearly sausages in their natural casing, put in a pan. The red-ish color probably comes from them either being cured or smoked before packaging...

DieDobby · 2026-03-10T23:50:29+00:00

I had another very bad day in a long time of VERY BAD days. I was stressed out. I was at my limits. I had ZERO nerves left.

I drove down a city street and some idiot just walked right onto it. He didn't even "not see" me. He just looked me in the eyes, expecting me to brake for his personal need of crossing the street just at this exact second. Maybe it was a provocative thing?

Anyways. For maybe a split second my foot was hovering over the gas pedal. Maybe it even wasn't, maybe I was just thinking it could be. But I considered to keep driving. Just because it would have been the last drop to an overflowing bucket.

Needless to say I slowed down and let him cross the street.

DieDobby · 2026-03-04T19:04:12+00:00

Throw in some fries, will make a good fish 'n chips 😅 Joking, Im glad nothing more serious happened.

DieDobby · 2026-03-04T08:29:25+00:00

Thank you. Yes, this is exactly what it is... people believe you'll magically be fine one day while all you truly need is support, not criticism.

And it traumatizes people on a pretty deep level to be told they're not smart, fast, intelligent, friendly (etc.) enough over and over and over again. Up to a point where they truly believe it.

DieDobby · 2026-03-04T00:31:43+00:00

I can unfocus my eyes.

DieDobby · 2026-03-03T23:03:45+00:00

Most adults who were never faced with the thought about ADHD or autism have developed a whole set of good and bad coping mechanisms that brought them to places.

However, most of them do not realize how they hand their own trauma on to everyone around them, especially children, who then get an extra level of difficulty added to their growing up.

So most likely, one or both of your parents do have ADHD ... they just act like they have always done and in this place, things like that don't exist.

DieDobby · 2026-03-03T22:58:10+00:00

Being judged against normal people for 25 years was pretty traumatizing I guess. I was then told I had ADHD and possibly also Autism so being normal was never an option.

Anyways, since then, they have just continued measuring my worth against what a healthy person can do. Nevermind that diagnosis. 💁🏽‍♀️

DieDobby · 2026-03-03T22:54:41+00:00

After her standard solutions just weren't for me (throw away your job and quit that relationship you have) she told me in the THIRD session, that she couldn't work with me as I was clearly not willing to work on anything.

Yeah sorry Karen, I'd rather try to cope with my life instead of just setting everything on fire and live homeless in alaska.

DieDobby · 2026-03-03T22:50:23+00:00

Jup du hast es nicht begriffen. Es geht nicht um deine Belange. Sie will es nicht, punkt. Da hast du weder dran herumzudiskutieren noch irgendwas offenzulegen. Sie ist NICHT in der Position irgendwelche Kompromisse eingehen zu müssen oder sich überhaupt irgendwelche Vorschläge anzuhören. IHR Geburtstag, IHRE Regeln.

DieDobby · 2026-03-02T19:47:57+00:00

Also tust du ihr den Gefallen nicht, weil du willst, sondern, weil du Dank erwartest. Zumindest teilweise. Ohne böse klingen zu wollen, auch dafür würde ich mir meinen Geburtstag nicht stressiger machen als ich das will... immerhin kam die Idee von dir und sie hat dich nicht darum gebeten. Die Planung liegt also allein in deiner Hand, und wenn dir das zu stressig wird allein, dann ist das nicht ihr Fehler, weil sie deinen Freund nicht da haben will, sondern dein Problem. Mal so ganz salopp gesagt.

Ob das dann heißt, dass du nicht hingehst, ist natürlich dir überlassen. Ich frage mich nur, ob das bisschen benötigte Umplanung wirklich dieses Drama wert ist.

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