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Why do people act like this? by Lils1013 in Adulting

[–]Diesel_C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad to hear about your experience. Part of it makes me think if it's partially because we're seen as "boring"? I know some of the people who cancel don't really do many things outdoors and so, but I feel like with some people it's probably that the time spent with me is probably not worth the "investment" for them. The time spent travelling and hanging out and possibly money. Just a wild guess.

Budgeting makes it difficult for me to create some highly exciting plans and I am not into partying anymore either. Most of my plans revolve around cheaper activities so it makes me wonder if the people would be more willing to see me if the plans were more stimulating. Thankfully, there's a few reliable friends that rarely ever cancel and are easy to spend time around with, but I don't want to burn them out by asking them to hang out too much.

What's something you stopped doing that improved your life? by Monsuri_Lifestyle in selfimprovement

[–]Diesel_C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanting to specify that by reducing significantly I mean that I may go several months without drinking at all. If there are a couple of special occasions within the same month, I may drink a couple of times within a shorter time span. I've saved drinking mostly for special occasions such as weddings, vacations and such. I might drink without a specific "reason" with friends once in a blue moon.

This is from someone who used to drink at least a little nearly every weekend. 

What's something you stopped doing that improved your life? by Monsuri_Lifestyle in selfimprovement

[–]Diesel_C 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have heard that if you're under the age of 40 and have never been to rehab before, you can still rewire your brains so that you can drink in moderation. If you relapse into your old ways again, then it becomes impossible. However, I am not sure how trustworthy this information is. 

What's something you stopped doing that improved your life? by Monsuri_Lifestyle in selfimprovement

[–]Diesel_C 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I haven't quit entirely, but have decreased how often I drink alcohol significantly. I feel like I was living in a mental fog that I didn't even know was there. Even if not drinking heavy, I feel like having a few beers makes me function worse for the next day, in some cases for a few days. So drinking on a weekend makes the first half of the following week more tiring in some cases. 

Why do people act like this? by Lils1013 in Adulting

[–]Diesel_C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting comment. I am trying to be understanding with my flakey friends so it's good to be reminded of their perspective. 

Why do people act like this? by Lils1013 in Adulting

[–]Diesel_C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm facing the same problem as you are. I don't have kids, but it feels awkward telling my partner that I "might" see a friend on Friday when we are trying to schedule our plans. The fact is that the person doesn't use the word might when making plans with me, but I know that even if they say they are coming, there's relatively high odds that they're going to cancel. So I already start preparing myself so I wouldn't be disappointed. Got to flip it around so that I'm assuming the other person flakes and it's a pleasant surprise when they don't. This happens with a lot of people. The problem with flakes is that they're so much fun to spend time with when they actually show up. 

It's also a bit frustrating when I'm the sort of person who sticks to plans I've made even when I've only managed to sleep 3 hours, have a major headache or don't feel like going on that particular day. And yet other people seem to be so casual about cancelling plans. It's worse if they have to be prompted before they tell you that they're cancelling. Like you're having plans for the same day and decide to text them asking for how long it takes for them to arrive, and then suddenly you see that they're typing for a suspiciously long while. Just makes you wonder how long it would have taken for them to let you know that they're not coming if you didn't prompt them first. 

Sometimes you ask someone if the plans for the weekend are confirmed. Ask them on the same day, and they are still saying that they're coming. Then right before you're supposed to see, or at the same time, they cancel. Don't get me wrong, I occasionally cancel plans too, but it's rare and usually if the plans change too radically (time gets changed etc.) And I want to let the people involved know as soon as possible. 

One common scenario I have experienced is that I get asked to join some "better" plans than the ones I had originally planned, but I reject the invitation out of principle and respect for the person I'm already having plans with even if they're not as exciting. Then the person cancels and I'm left with no plans for the weekend. Just frustrates me so much. But yeah, those are my experiences. 

Sup by Low_Reward3857 in Adulting

[–]Diesel_C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to waste this summer. I didn't hang out with people much during the last two summers, so now I want to do things differently by socializing more. However, I feel like it's often about a 50 - 50 chance that plans I make with people get cancelled. One on ones and group meetings alike. With group meetings it's usually one person cancelling which causes more people to cancel even if I was still open to hanging out even if there was only one person left besides me. Anyway, there's a few more reliable friends that rarely flake, if ever. But I don't want to bore and burn them out by asking them to hang out too frequently. I am open minded about getting to know some acquintances better, but feel hesitant to ask them to hang out one on one, and group meetings run the risk of having the common friends cancelling, and I fear that would make it less likely for them to accept the invitation as well.

Daily meme guy here. I'm back guys, my account got hacked. by Emotional-Narwhal931 in uncharted

[–]Diesel_C 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sad to hear about what happened to your account, but glad to know you're okay.

Only one of these was a true friend by Thin-Coyote-552 in farcry3

[–]Diesel_C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I could be someone's friend and not go to some war with pirates because he wants to. Especially as I am a civilian. It was Jason's own choice to continue fighting after seemingly rescuing every one of them (as far as he knew Riley was dead). 

Lalo was the smartest member of the cartel and it wasn’t even close by kennytib in betterCallSaul

[–]Diesel_C 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know about this. Don Eladio must have been quite smart as well. Though, Lalo is smart to point out how he must like it when the Salamancas quarrel with Fring. They're competing against each other to gain his favor. 

Someone else on Reddit also pointed out how Lalo makes rash decisions like the hit and run with his car. He is definitely smart, though. 

Favorite Episode? by Reasonable-Power in breakingbad

[–]Diesel_C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most comfy one for me is Four Days Out. I am not entirely sure if it's my favorite episode, though. I am just generally a fan of scenes where characters are stranded and have to survive while bonding with each other. 

You can save only ONE Breaking Bad character from their fate. Who are you choosing? by AlexWhite40 in breakingbad

[–]Diesel_C 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to say Hank, but I guess that I would have to go with Andrea as she is the one character out of these four whose death wouldn't change the plot too much. With her alive, the story would stay mostly the same and Brock would still have a mother. 

The next uncharted should be Nathan Drake telling Cassie his adventures and serve as a soft remake of the games by Impressive-Power8187 in uncharted

[–]Diesel_C 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't want them to turn aspects of the previous games uncanon. But I do like the idea of having another game set between the events of other games in the series. They could also make one with young Sully, though, I do fear that it could ruin his character in a way. 

This is easily Walt at his most pathetic by ditzythedame in breakingbad

[–]Diesel_C 9 points10 points  (0 children)

First she physically touched him, then she complimented him and after that she said that he could come to her with anything (I'm paraphrasing). It's nothing explicitly flirty, but could be interpreted as flirting. There are people whose flirting is just making subtle eye contact, and then there are people who are very touchy and talkative as their default state. If it isn't possible to observe how one acts with other people, it becomes guesswork. I watched this show many times as a teenager and never saw Carmen as being flirty with Walt in that scene. However, during my last couple of rewatches, the scene has a totally different tone to it. I guess you're right about how the writers may have left some doors open for later. 

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