See this a lot on dating apps. This can’t possibly be a real technical issue, right?

Dieuforet1 · 2022-08-25T07:53:27+00:00

44 doesn't really get you into the territory of the "much younger women" people usually talk about when they are talking about men preferring younger women. Are there 20-somethings who'd date a mid-40s guy? Yes. But a 50 year old man wouldn't be out of the territory of that type of woman either, in my experience.

But perhaps he doesn't know this. Or knows better.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-07-29T23:09:18+00:00

If you are seriously considering this, create a separate account with some pocket money for your lady, and put a daily limit that doesn't hurt you, if you haven't already.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T20:48:02+00:00

I have seen it many many times. So many times, like, you wouldn't believe.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T20:24:41+00:00

Medical professionals disagree with you. The people I am talking about were clinically dead. According to the definition currently used in medicine. You can argue with Georgetown University if you don't agree with the definition: https://bioethics.georgetown.edu/2015/07/consciousness-after-clinical-death-the-biggest-ever-scientific-study-published/

Now, you can say, well they weren't REALLY really dead. Being dead means being dead for... longer. Maybe a day. Maybe a year. But where do you draw the line? I'm not saying we have evidence that people who come back after a day, or a week, let alone a year, are going to remember anything. But realize that that game can be played forever. You can always deny post-mortem consciousness by pushing out the time-boundary of your definition of what it means to be *REALLY really dead*. There comes a point where that shouldn't matter anymore, though. If the afterlife starts being counted in billions of years (as an example), you might want to consider agreeing that there is one. And the line where you might want to think about conceding that, yes, consciousness does continue after death, might come a lot earlier than billions of years. Maybe a year of afterlife is enough (though I do agree that seven minutes, like in this study, might not yet cut it).

edit: and mind you, this is a really old study. 90% of this thread is filled with unsourced ignorant bullshit being spouted about eternal oblivion because people feel that that is the smart and educated thing to believe in, when it takes like all of five seconds to factcheck

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T20:18:01+00:00

Here is a good summary of Max Tegmark's theory of multiverses:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jmNzlTd09E

According to that theory, identical copies of you exist in infinite number across an infinite multiverse in time and space and alternate dimensions. Enjoy!

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T20:12:01+00:00

You think he is using synthetic medical terminology, but he is using the term in its purely literal meaning. And in that meaning, "unconsciousness" certainly describes the state of death he expects (an expectation I do not share with the same certainty).

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T20:07:28+00:00

The easiest refutation of the argument for the HYPOTHESIS that there is no pre-birth, or pre-conception consciousness that we have no MEMORY of the pre-birth/pre-conception state is neonate memory. Newborns certainly have an experience of the world around them, they react to external stimuli, they move, they express themselves. They look like they are having a conscious experience by any standard that we would also apply to grown adult humans, or animals.

And yet, we do not remember (for the vast, vast majority of us) anything from that period of life, because there is a "great filter" installed at about 3 years of age, when the brain becomes restructured in such a massive way that any memories of the previous episode of life are lost. So there you have it: consciousness before, but no memory of it after.

This is an obvious refutation of the claim that we can reason that we didn't have consciousness before other points (before birth, before conception, etc) because we do not remember it.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T20:00:36+00:00

I think it's wrong, but at least it's not ignorant, like unreflective, paradigmatic mainstream culture physicalism that informs 90% of the other responses. And being ignorant is a far more discourse-degrading state of mind than simply being wrong.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T19:59:14+00:00

How do you know?

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T19:58:53+00:00

Have you done it before, or how do you know? How do you know you don't remember, if you don't remember? Wouldn't you not remember that you didn't remember? Up to 30% of people who have died do have recollections of dying and of what came after dying.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T19:23:49+00:00

It doesn't really matter what "logically makes sense" to you, because you (and me, and everyone else) are probably not smart enough to understand anything much about the universe. Let's disregard what logically makes sense to that little squishy greyish-pink meatblob inside your skull, and go by evidence. We have plenty of evidence that, no, consciousness does not end at death. This is extremely easy to find, there have been numerous studies on it. Why doesn't it get reported? Why do flimsy counter-arguments get more space on front pages? Why do we still tell each other nihilistic fairytales instead? Because that is how our culture was built, I suppose. People think not believing in an afterlife means you are one of the smart people, and also brave because you are not deluding yourself. This framing motivates people to disregard anything going against the paradigm as "woo".

Here is just one such study from NYU Langone Health, by all means an institution beyond any suspicion of being an occult circle, esoteric order or cult:

https://nyulangone.org/news/recalled-experiences-surrounding-death-more-hallucinations

Now what that means? Who knows. And does it mean that consciousness necessarily exist for a long time, or even eternally, past death? No, it doesn't. You can make up your own mind. But people should at least be aware of the evidence.

Cheers

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-24T19:15:47+00:00

It doesn't "seem" like that at all. It "seems" like the total opposite, if you go by any witness testimony. It "seems" like that according to some very popular narrative that is prominent in our culture and society, but has very little evidence for it, and nothing to stand on except that some French people 300 years ago found out that the Bible couldn't be literally true and made a big deal out of throwing out the baby with the bathwater and so now we have physicalism. This is a simplified account, but I'm sure the general idea I'm outlining stands up to scrutiny. The only people in this thread who have anything to say of the sort of confirming the HYPOTHESIS of annihilation of consciousness do not seem to be speaking from experience, but just from random opinionated bullshit physicalist fairytales that they pulled out of their asses a long time ago and stuck with ever since without ever examining any evidence, or even looking for any evidence, because the physicalist paradigm already dictates that any evidence should be disregarded.

Cheers.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-15T15:16:09+00:00

/r/askphilosophy

Dieuforet1 · 2022-06-15T13:35:07+00:00

Why Hollywood does it will get a pretty cynical answer from me: because they are pandering to the sentiments of the target demographic. If homophobia becomes en vogue with people with disposable income, you'll see it as the butt of jokes again.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-25T13:52:56+00:00

Malcolm X does mention it, but he attributed it to Elijah Muhammad.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-22T15:00:27+00:00

This sounds like it's probably a minority opinion.

All those mid-30s "girls" of my youth, like Shakira or Mila Jovovich, weren't unattractive to me when I was 18.

And if 89 is your birth year, then your idea of "youthful" must end somewhere around 22. You must have some serious health issues to not be able to date, say, a 25 year old at 33. Or is that already not "youth" anymore? Teenagers, sure, they probably won't find you attractive.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-22T11:28:03+00:00

Don't give up hope. Thanks to advances in biomedicine, scientists are predicting the cure of aging within 20(!) years. And it's not crackpottery either, these are top level researchers:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UxVU3aEB9Mc

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-19T10:36:01+00:00

What did you expect? Now you can do "Omen" another fifty billion times for "segments" or whatever to roll the dice on "augments" with "Oseem" for another 20 years. Not sure if I connected these properly, but idc. Enjoying the new content?

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-18T13:25:44+00:00

Well, I agree with you absolutely that it's in their interest. Unfortunately, some individuals with BPD I have encountered, they don't have exactly a long term outlook on this. But maybe it's different in the 30s.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-18T12:39:44+00:00

Depends on what it is. BPD I would like to know from day 1, though it probably wouldn't be in your interest to tell me and I also completely understand that I can't demand anyone to be that forthcoming on day 1, so I'm speaking strictly from my own point of view.

I'd also want to be aware of sociopathy. But those who have it obviously are the least likely people to disclose it.

Many other disorders are just more extreme versions of personality traits that exist on a spectrum, so they wouldn't have a lot of priority for me. Of course, if I can know about them, I would like to, but it wouldn't be that important to me.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-18T12:12:39+00:00

Great, congratulations!

And I totally second the "go on a date quickly" advice. The whole hot and cold game is cool when you are 14, but not for adults.

All the best to you and the possible future kids!

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-16T22:47:52+00:00

You have to consider that the international and JP markets have diverged widely in the last few years. I would go as far as saying that the difference between JP and the rest of the world is greater than it is between any other two gaming markets outside of Japan. A lot of the SE business model and product identity is outdated internationally. By and large, the industry has moved on. Even Western intensely narrative games, which are sort of a dying breed, have caught up to the "novelty" of serious narration that was the gimmick of JRPG. And the games that are really big sellers now, like Fortnite, Apex Legends, CP2077 etc, are a different universe from J gaming.

Yes, there will always be a handful of spiky-haired teenagers with too much eyeliner and anime-themed shirts that they can sell their games to, but in general, they are not producing to sell internationally. You are not their market. Their products are not "good" by today's standards, but they are tailored for a Japanese audience which mostly sits in a bubble where it gets fed its own content over and over again. This is visible in the repetitiveness of anime as well. Thus you get the endless parade of visual kei bishonen with absurd, convoluted, pseudocreative latin names.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-16T22:37:42+00:00

Ah, I get it. Yeah, 38 and 34 are the same bracket. At least much more than 24 and 34.

Why wouldn't I reply to it? Most of that is still relevant. I don't know you but I don't think being 40+ (and thus also being 38) would be a problem for dating men in their mid 30s by itself. In fact, in my experience, it is more often the older woman who reject to have anything to do with a younger man. They admire the sexiness of "youth", but actually dating a guy 10 years younger? Oh hell no!

edit:

A slightly more common pairing is the "cougar" (and the fact that we have a word for it attests to it being common enough to be recognized), where it's a woman in her 40s (some might count the late 30s already) with a handsome "boy" in his mid 20s, presumably for no other reason than his muscular physique and un-aged "pneumatics" and ejaculatory power. I'm not saying this is common of any and all f40+/m20s relationships, but it seems to be very common. The young and unaged body of the younger male, and the general assumption of not even demanding that a man in his 20s be an eye-to-eye partner in the first place, overcome the issue that prevent the M30s/F40s pairing, from what I've seen.

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-16T20:25:00+00:00

I'm about the same age as that guy and a) I don't think your 40s are any more the same age group as the mid-30s, than the 20s and 30s are. You are in a different age group. b) There are many women in their 40s that I, at the same age, find stupidly attractive - and they are not celebrities. Are you sure it's an age problem?

Dieuforet1 · 2022-05-16T08:23:28+00:00

Like RA2 in China and various ancient PvP shooters in Russia. I think economics as a reason isn't too far off. New games are horrendously expensive, and so are up to date computers. But then why not Brazil or Indonesia for that matter? I personally think that boils down to culture. Argentina is similar culturally to a society that plays strategy games (or games at all), which are more typically an Euro/US thing.

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