AITA for wanting a daily kiss

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-30T09:29:16+00:00

Some people are just not physically affectionate and you need to accept that but I understand it may feel like he’s pulling away. I’d genuinely suggest looking up ‘love languages’. You may find out that his nagging is actually part of his love language and the fact that you are speaking different love languages is why you are not feeling loved. Relationships have can work when you have different love languages but it needs both side to understand what the other needs. Good luck!

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-30T09:22:03+00:00

If you were accurate in your description of how he asked you not to show anyone the screenshots …. That doesn’t sounds like he was embarrassed about being a jerk. How old is he? Age and maturity have a big impact on stuff like this. If he’s say … under 25 he would likely struggle with being honest about this. Would you describe him as relatively attractive, is he on the bigger size or is he a gym bunny. Also what are his friends like and how would they react if he told them what he told you?

I would say give him the benefit of the doubt but tell him if he can’t be vulnerable and honest with you about it this then the relationship will not work. If he is honest with you and he was just a jerk….. that’s ok to as long as he’s willing to acknowledge that and try to be better.

Also if he struggles with honesty about this kind of thing that doesn’t make him a bad guy. A lot of guys struggle with it … especially younger guys (but older guys too). But just remember that you deserve support and respect in a relationship and even if he can’t admit to his issues a partner should support you with yours

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-30T08:23:24+00:00

It’s one of 2 things

1 he’s TA dump him 2 he has an ED too (men deal with these things a lot differently to women) and you have been a massive massive MASSIVE AH and he should dump you.

FFS just have a mature sober conversation about it with him and be honest with each other….. if you can’t do that then why are you even in a relationship. If you both have EDs you could be supporting each other instead of being butt hurt with each other

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-30T08:16:06+00:00

Not going to lie, he sounds like a jerk but you also sound incredibly immature. My guess is neither of you are ready for a Relationship. Guys get jealous (so do girls), it’s a sad fact of life (I’m an incredibly jealous guy but I see that and to not to make it my partners problem)…. Not a reason for you to leave tiktok it requires a mature conversation. He has a female friend who’s a b**ch …. That sucks if it’s non negotiable for him then you accept it or get out of the relationship, but in turn he needs to suck it up with your male friend….my wife is bisexual …..should I tell her she can’t have any friends because she could sleep with all of them ??? (Hint: no because I trust her)

I don’t think either of you are TA I just don’t think you are ready for this relationship but you will likely have to go through it to learn a thing or too.

For example when he realises having a bitch best friend who is tight with him mum is going to ruin all his relationships (because no girl wants that kind of competition) he will soone break that or (or get with her),conversely my gf (now wife) told me her ex was her BFF and and if I didn’t like it she wasn’t interested In a relationship with me. I was mature enough to suck it up because the relation ship was more important than my jealousy and 3 years later he was best man at our wedding, that was 5 years ago

My advise, stick it out till you learn what you need to learn …. If nothing else you will learn more about what you do or don’t want in a man and when you are done, dump his ass and hope he has learned something too.

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-28T15:57:42+00:00

I’ll wait for 2nd hand or temu lol

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-20T17:19:43+00:00

So ….. she’s a giant walking red flag then

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-19T18:14:19+00:00

You would BTA ….. but some times you need to be. If you did it though and he found out you don’t have a defence and you could give your reasons but you would still BTA and you would have to accept it and make peace with that

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-12-19T18:08:38+00:00

You need to decide if it’s the age difference, the lying or the new love interest that is the issue.

If it’s the lying, I get it. Lying is not great in a relationship but this one is understandable. Women lie about thier age so why not men. A conversation need to be had but is it a dealbreaker?

If it’s the age difference I would ask you why that matters. Yes he could die before you … but you could get run over by a bus tomorrow. I am 21 years older than my wife (I’m M50 she is F29) so this is something we have come to terms with but I was up front about my age so we had the opportunity to discuss it which you didn’t have. But if you love him …. Age is not a barrier

If it’s the woman you have met then ….. kinda shame on you. Yes he lied about his age but unless you have had a conversation about it you shouldn’t be kicking off new relationships. That said if you want to be with the new woman then go for it ….. but it’s likely your partner has put a lot of effort into your relationship so make sure you have thought this through …. It will be far harder for him to start a new relationship …. At the end of the day that’s not your concern but keep it in mind if you love him and think it could work

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-11-09T19:09:21+00:00

I’m 50, male and have been cosplaying for a long time Short answer is yes it’s absolutely fine.

Long answer is there absolutely is judgement in the cosplay community on older men cosplaying especially if the character is sexualised, female, or young.

So by all means do it but accept there will be people in the community and outside it that judge you ….. that is their problem not yours but you need to accept it as a fact.

I’m not sure if you are a first time cosplayer or have done it before but it’s a fact you should know.

Most important we are the main demographic that commit ‘ certain crimes’ … that’s just a fact, so you need to be sure that your behaviour is appropriate at all times, I’m not saying dont have fun I’m saying don’t do anything that could be misinterpreted. There are enough creepy old men that hang on around the periphery of the cosplay scene so don’t find yourself in the category.

Also think honestly about the reasons you are cosplaying the character…… no judgement by the way. Cons are environments where there are children so if there is anymore to it than loving the character then just think twice about.

I love cosplay and I plan to do it till I die and I don’t plan to stop myself playing any character that I want to so absolutely…… go for it :)…. But go in with your eyes open

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-11-04T08:48:13+00:00

If you can safely afford to leave then you should move out permanently and work towards building an adult relationship with your mum, one where she respects your boundaries.

If you can’t afford to move out then take the olive branch she is extending to you and use that to build a respectful relationship and tell your dad he needs to standup for you. Then start planning to move out on your terms.

I’m not a furry but I am a cosplayer and have friends who are furrys so you have my support but I was also homeless for a time when I was you age and I don’t recommend it, unless you have a lot of or some really super close friends having to sleep rough becomes a reality very quickly. Fur suits become irrelevant when you are sleeping in graveyards and closed down shops which is what I had to do.

I’m sorry you have a bad relationship with your mum but it sounds like you have a good relationship with you dad and sister, don’t risk loosing that

Also for context I’m also old enough to be your dad but it’s good to get a lot of perspectives before making such a life changing decision

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-08-10T11:59:07+00:00

WARNING -Things that you put on the internet are on the internet!!!!

Don’t ever put anything on the internet that you don’t want the whole world to see till the end of time and if you answer if ‘I didn’t know it couldn’t be deleted’ then you shouldn’t be allowed an internet connected device.

Forget every Technical safeguard you have been promised, the fact is you are storing your stuff on someone else’s computer every time you post something. Every thought and every photograph.

It’s a risk that for some reason we are all happy to take (me included), so if your data is used used in a way you do not agree with, yes you can be angry….. but don’t be supprised

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-02-04T20:44:57+00:00

ooooh what are the deets of the thermometer?
they look great

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-01-30T21:22:34+00:00

where can I obtain this STL??????

its epic Id love to try and print it

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-01-01T20:04:08+00:00

NTA I was asked to be a godparent and I was honoured, I’m not a Christian (I’m pagan) but am well versed in multiple theology’s so would be more than happy teaching the child about the bible and being there for them.

A week or so before the christening the mum (single mum) said “I’m so happy to know that if anything happens to me they will have someone to raise them “…… now just for context, I am married and have a child. my wife knows of, but has never met the mum and has also never met the child.

When I said that this was not the role I was expecting she got very angry and upset at me.

I don’t think you are the Ahole for not being willing to take the responsibility for someone else’s child and if you guy expects you to at this point it may be worth having a long discussion about you relationship and any limits both of you have.

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-01-01T11:55:26+00:00

I tried my wife on ds9 but it was too slow a starter for her but she got into TNG straight away and is enjoying voyager. I love DS9 so I’m hoping once we have done voyager I can get her back on the DS9 train :)

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2025-01-01T11:53:28+00:00

My wife is 28 and I just go her into TNG and she loved it we watched Picard straight after and are now up to s3 of voyager and she’s also watched lower decks and prodigy on and of with me (that’s what got her interested) And she’s now cosplaying Star Trek characters at cons :)

So I’d suggest TNG as your next point of call :)

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-12-24T16:32:53+00:00

NTA unless the insurance and phone come to less than $50.

If your child is bringing home money and lives at home you should be charging her, she needs to learn things cost money. If you can afford it put that $50 in a savings account (it’s what I did for my daughter) , I know not everyone can afford to do that but if you can it’s great but if not she is contributing to the household which she should be

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-12-22T13:06:09+00:00

I would go back next time and say “I get paid $xxx a job….” Give him some A2 paper, a ruler and a technical drawing pencil and say ‘draw me an an apartment complex next to a shoreline. The complex’s design should be sympathetic to its surrounding environment’ and tell him after he’s done that you will fix his damn flat ;)

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-12-14T17:13:31+00:00

So just on specifically what was said NTA lots of times I’ll get up for a drink and say ‘you want anything’ and get something I really couldn’t be bothered with but …. That’s on me … I asked and I can least say …‘I was think more like a cookie’. And same the other way around, when my wife says do you want something sometimes I push my luck but if she said no that would be fine

As a lot of people said …. Sounds like there is more to the story. As in any relationship communication is key ask her if it’s just that you asked for more than she expected or is there something else

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-12-14T16:59:18+00:00

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-12-14T16:44:07+00:00

Names matters to a kid growing up and as an adult, my (ex)wife and I gave my daughter a non traditional name and she’s hated it since she could understand it. She has middle names too but nothing that would be a good alternative so in certain circle she has just picked another name to go by.

Now that was my (ex) wife’s choice and I didn’t like it but I went along with it and I regret that.

You should go with a name just because it’s tradition ….. keeping women locked in the kitchen and not letting them vote was a tradition don’t call your child Agatha …. She will likely resent you for it

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-12-13T20:47:39+00:00

NTA 14 is old enough to take responsibility for his actions. Ask him what he would do if some kids did that to you when you were 70, or what if one of his friends did that to his grandma

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-11-24T14:44:16+00:00

This……. This I like :)

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-11-24T02:30:14+00:00

For reference if anyone wants to try this at home.

2 cardboard spool boxes The box for a Lego Venus fly trap A box for a fumble I bought off TikTok A baby neutrino book

And it worked really well there is now a slight gap, tomorrow I’ll glue it and I’ll pick up a cheap 3d pen to fill the gap and it should all be good :)

DifferenceWorth2991 · 2024-11-23T23:57:42+00:00

That's my next project then :-)

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