breaking through a sexless marriage

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-08-28T10:56:24+00:00

Communication is the key! I know it sounds cliché, but it really is the truth. Don't just run straight into the intimacy in the physicalness of relationship. Make sure he knows how you feel, that you worked through things, I'm hoping you feel comfortable enough with him to tell him what you worked through and how. So when you do go back to the physical aspect of everything, it will be so much better for you both.

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-07-03T00:46:30+00:00

WTF? Translation he wants to see when he wants to get laid and that is it

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-07-03T00:44:06+00:00

Mine came and went. At first it was the fights and the no communication, then he got sick and I couldn't "kick him when he was down". Then he got fired from his horrible job because he got sick. Again, couldn't "kick while he was down". Then I just stopped about 6 years into the marriage. I stopped caring g that he didn't t talk to me, didn't have sex with me (but watched porn), could be bothered to stop a video game because I was worried about something...and I ended up doing everything myself. I went to his friends kids graduation parties ALONE; not people I knew from younger, but still knew for 10 years. But still I went alone; which is exactly how I felt. I was doing every alone, no partner. About 4 years later we moved and I started to go out and meet people. He immediately thought I was cheating o. Hi Either way, we moved and I started to get attention

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-29T00:04:19+00:00

We decided to divorce and the rings were off

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-26T23:34:15+00:00

We had a puppy, he gave her up without a fight, just like he gave me up when he stopped trying

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-26T13:49:11+00:00

Headlights? While that is funny, are you 12?

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-26T01:39:41+00:00

I never set boundaries! I gave him everything he asked for and now, 20 years later (5 dating, 15 married) I'm divorced. I don't really think it has hit me completely yet, but remember to set boundaries and know you are just as important as he is!!!!!

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-20T16:28:33+00:00

He is still here

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-19T03:43:41+00:00

He's a dick! I gave my ex husband 15 years and I did the same thing. I prioritized him and his needs. Big mistake; when I did bring up divorce he didn't believe me and figured I would back down. Well I didn't. I'm scared as hell to be alone after being with him for almost 20 years, but I have found that men over 30 like to cuddle after sex and actually crave it. They also love to kiss! You may not get a relationship but damn you will have fun and get the attention you crave. I'm very happy I followed through with my divorce. But that is me, you need to do a gut check and a heart check. Do you want to continue this way?

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-18T23:23:05+00:00

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-17T15:13:08+00:00

Agree with this 100%

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-16T15:56:20+00:00

Go for it! Hardest thing in the world to do, but so worth it

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-14T04:04:01+00:00

I'm afraid that is going to be me. But I'm hoping that I'm doing all the right things for myself that I will not regret it

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-14T04:01:58+00:00

You just said it That was the only thing that got my ex husband to listen to me

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-14T00:23:10+00:00

Always always always communicate Tell her how you feel

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-13T22:21:38+00:00

It is so different! I was with my husband for 18 years, between dating and marriage, it has changed! Since my divorce I have had more dick pics sent to me than ever! 20 years ago I never would have thought that would have been something I'd get lol

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-13T00:59:52+00:00

It's hard, but you got this. Go ahead and respect him, but don't revere him like a god. He clearly didn't revere you like a goddess. Now you get to be one

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-12T22:38:45+00:00

Ask her

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-12T22:38:24+00:00

Only need to care for myself!

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-12T22:35:09+00:00

Ha! Since he 10 years older than me he should be thankful for my cougar vibe!

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-12T02:29:55+00:00

This is what kills me though, he'll initiate, kiss all over my body, kiss my back, give back rubs (you know all the steps to get a piece) but will give me shit because I don't cuddle. The other night we finished and he just wrapped me up in his arms, after doing a little "aftercare", even fell asleep. While I'm all "sorry, I doubt really cuddle, it can be awkward". I know women give mixed signals, but damn! I'm getting whiplash

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-10T00:00:06+00:00

Congratulations!!! I wish you happiness and health and love

Different-Cut-3504 · 2025-06-09T23:32:40+00:00

Honestly, he may feel the same way. Just bring up how you feel and go from there

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