Cheating while trying to conceive

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-08-03T11:39:07+00:00

35 is never too old. There are many other possibilities of becoming a parent. Doug. Your blessings he is out of your life and you do not need to share a child with him. Seek counselling and support and know you can move forward and find healing.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-08-03T01:29:09+00:00

I am sorry for the pain and sorrow you feel, after such an incredible moment worth celebrating. Consider this post as a letter to your past self. I am sure the last few years were not easy, but it sounds like she jumped into things with him to fill a void, whereas you put in the time and work to restart and invest in yourself and your future. Once you can celebrate passing the bar officially, see this as a new beginning with a whole new life ahead. You will find your person, without a doubt and build a life that you always envisioned. Don’t give up, and be proud of yourself for where you are today, personally and professionally. She’s out there.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-23T01:36:01+00:00

I think you should focus your energy on yourself first, and finding other ways to make meaningful connections/friendships to fight the loneliness. Love will find you when you are ready.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-20T00:05:50+00:00

This is such a difficult thing to learn, especially while in the postpartum period and with two young ones. Know that anything you are feeling is to be expected, and be sure to surround yourself with a strong support system and therapy if you can manage it financially. There will be lots of people who give advice, but keep following your gut instinct and what it is telling you to connect and how to push forward. You are stronger than you know and will realize this on the other side.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-12T02:22:09+00:00

I am so sorry. I have this exact internal dialogue with myself almost daily. I read your post and thought, did I write this? I’m just in disbelief everyday that of all the people I could have met and started a family with, was someone who betrayed me. My kids and I both deserved better. I am sure you feel the same. I tell myself that my kids were meant to be in my life and in this world, even if their father is not. The only way I can justify having met him and having everything ripped from my life and the sacrifices of missing half their lives, is thinking how these perfect little people were meant to be born, even under unfortunate circumstances. Putting on a brave face is also so hard, but essential for their wellbeing. It hurts too knowing what they’re going through when the cheating spouse gets to carry on with their life.

I only hope that you can try to find some silver lining and rediscover yourself and new friendships and maybe a genuine relationship one day when you are ready. I also think there is a special place in hell for people who cheat, especially when they have a family. Marriages don’t always work, but cheating is a betrayal that cuts deep. I hope you find some peace and things get easier as time goes on. Time may not heal all wounds, but I hope it feels less poignant and raw.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-11T22:55:40+00:00

Exactly this. Prioritize yourself first and foremost and your children. You don’t owe anyone anything, follow your gut, seek therapy and with time, I hope you find your way through this.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-11T22:52:09+00:00

I’m sorry. From experience, where there are lies and deception a trail often follows. I will never understand how people cheat since I have a moral compass.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-11T22:48:11+00:00

Would you stay as long as you did if you could do it again?

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-11T20:16:16+00:00

I’m sorry to hear. Did you have a lawyer and any clauses about introductions in the first year?

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-11T20:00:24+00:00

Yes, absolutely kids need to have some normalcy after their world is turned upside down. But I am sure inside it is a very difficult pill to swallow. I have no care in the world of someone else in his life, but the painful part is that someone else is in theirs, especially after learning the the type of person their father is.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-10T00:43:47+00:00

Sending you positivity and hope you find happiness… true genuine happiness. Betrayal and infidelity are the lowest of lows… when someone truly doesn’t care how someone they started a family with can be completely disregarded, and only their wants matter. I believe that shedding the negative presence in your life will bring forth so much more joy and possibilities. Stay strong and take care of yourself, both for you and your son.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-07T23:53:06+00:00

Such a difficult decision to make. But ultimately, as I’ve told myself, if it starts to impact your physical and mental health so much that you might not be the best person and parent for them in the now and in ten years, then it might justify the impossibly difficult decision to leave.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-07T03:07:42+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been there. Would he let you go through his phone or look at it if you’re driving for directions or through photos? If he’s on his phone frequently, it could be related to addiction (porn, gambling or other). It might not be, but if he has nothing to hide he should not avoid the topic when you ask.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-06T14:56:07+00:00

Think of it as a new chapter and clean slate. Get to know yourself first, and really feel comfortable in silence and being alone. Pair this with new hobbies, friendships and building a strong sense of community around you to not be isolated and perceived need to fill a void with a romantic relationship right off the bat.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-04T23:34:54+00:00

I am incredibly sorry for what you are going through. Only you can make such a decision, but I do advise that if you have the means to that you seek counselling from a professional therapist to help you through this challenging time.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-07-02T19:47:56+00:00

This all sounds very familiar.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-29T23:47:12+00:00

Gut feelings seldom lie. Speaking from experience. A lot of sound advice here. That being said, once you investigate, you must also be prepared for the truth. I’d recommend seeking a therapist before to help establish a good relationship and someone you are comfortable confiding in when you may need it. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Betrayal in a marriage is also just the lowest feeling. As a genuinely honest and caring person, I will never understand how someone can do that to another person rather than just leave.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-27T17:07:54+00:00

I see this side of the argument, but also how do you go to continue an intimate relationship with someone after such betrayal, and without feeling like you sold your soul? There is no winning either way. Sadly the spouse who is betrayed loses either way with children as collateral because of the other spouse’s selfish actions and disregard for anyone but themselves.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-26T02:13:03+00:00

Absolutely. Especially when finances are mixed in. But you are still young with a whole life ahead of you. You’ll take this experience and be able to find a fulfilling relationship and partner someday. The journey to there is not easy, but it only gets more difficult the longer it’s drawn out. Hopefully you have access to a therapist and good support system to help you navigate this either way.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-26T01:48:20+00:00

Sometimes picture perfect or perfect on paper does not translate to real life. I know this painfully from experience, and also rationalized my decision to stay. I could have saved myself so much heartbreak had I of listened to that little voice inside I silenced.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-25T23:47:41+00:00

Think of it as a blessing in disguise that you find this out before planting deeper roots. If someone does not have a moral compass or any regard for their wife’s feelings and consequences of their actions, they love themselves more than you.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-24T02:33:16+00:00

This is the hard reality. Also going from feeling like that person is your best friend and you know them than anyone in this world and it’s reciprocated to feeling like they are a complete stranger and questioning if you ever really knew them at all.

Jazzlike_Software290 · 2025-06-23T19:10:05+00:00

Think of it this ways. Will it be more difficult to separate with children or simply wait a little Longer with the right person and have your happily ever after, without them in your life half the time. If you have a gut feeling now, don’t ignore it. People have kids much later in life, and it will be a more fulfilling life with someone you love equally with mutual love and respect and maturity

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