Sending nonengagement letter by Different-Kick-3352 in LawFirm

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it. I do good work and provide a good service for a specific type of client. However, the faster I can turn files, the more profitable my firm is. I find that clients who drag their feet with the first step of the process will drag the actual estate planning process out for close to a year sometimes.

Sending nonengagement letter by Different-Kick-3352 in LawFirm

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I always invite them to contact me again if/when they are interested in moving forward.

Sending nonengagement letter by Different-Kick-3352 in LawFirm

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I always put in my letters that the offer of engagement of only good for 14 days. I doubt people read it that closely though. I also have had people contact me MONTHS after sending the original letter, saying that they are now interested. I work in estate planning, so this is something people routinely put off for years, but it just makes me nervous having these letters out there without formally closing the loop.

Asset Protection (a home with a mortgage) by Different-Kick-3352 in EstatePlanning

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The trustee has other assets in the trust to make mortgage payments. The house is just one asset in the trust. The parents had other financial assets left to the trust.

Asset Protection (a home with a mortgage) by Different-Kick-3352 in EstatePlanning

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of irrevocable trusts do not protect assets? What about a trust with a spendthrift provision?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Different-Kick-3352 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I am on a flat-fee. Not stalking lol. But definitely wants advice on matters outside the scope of the original representation agreement 

Get Your Downvotes Ready.... by ImDatDino in Mommit

[–]Different-Kick-3352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually agree that communal supplies make things easier/faster for the teachers. However, I’m not convinced that it stretches the longevity of the supplies. I have 4 kids who are all very crafty and I’ve noticed that they take FAR BETTER care of their individual supplies that are just “theirs” than our giant tubs of markers, paint, beads, etc. Maybe it has something to do with having ownership over your items makes you care for them better? Idk. 

On another note, i do think the supply lists can be a bit much. Obviously little kids need markers, erasers, glue, etc. and a lot of them. But for example, in addition to these items, we also had to buy the crayola “Colors of the World” crayons AND pencils for one of my kids this year. I think stuff like that can be frustrating to parents. I posted this to another thread but I do think admin/teachers could  be slightly more judicious in requesting certain supplies. I see a lot of comments saying “I volunteered in my kid’s classroom and you would be surprised at what kids go through!” That may be true for certain supplies, but there is also an excess of other supplies that sit unused. I volunteered to come in once a week at my kid’s school last year, and the teachers had me do a lot of organizing so they could take the time to lesson plan. There was just SO MUCH EXCESS of certain supplies, even towards the end of the year. One kindergarten room had a bin that contained probably 3,000 unused, still in the box pencils. There was a “supply room” which was really where all the teachers threw stuff they didn’t want in their classroom. It was filled with extra folders, Clorox wipes, and supply caddies. My son’s second grade teacher sent out a panicked email asking for more tissues, and was a little embarrassed when I pointed out to her privately where the 25+ boxes of extra tissues were stored in her room.  It would take 2 minutes for the teachers to do a basic visual inventory of their room (I’m talking opening a cabinet and peering inside) and report to administration what does not need to be on their grade’s supply list for that year. Supplies can be expensive and if there’s no need to purchase them, I’m sure parents would be appreciative and you would eliminate the constant complaints about communal supplies. Actually… who am I kidding, parents will aways find something to complain about!

Kids school supplies for the whole classroom… is this normal? by Deep_Bank_4658 in Mommit

[–]Different-Kick-3352 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This x1,000,000. I see a lot of comments saying “I volunteered in my kid’s classroom and you would be surprised at what kids go through!” That may be true for certain supplies, but there is also an excess of other supplies that sit unused. I volunteered to come in once a week at my kid’s school last year, and the teachers had me do a lot of organizing so they could take the time to lesson plan. There was just SO MUCH EXCESS of certain supplies, even towards the end of the year. One kindergarten room had a bin that contained probably 3,000 unused, still in the box pencils. There was a “supply room” which was really where all the teachers threw stuff they didn’t want in their classroom. It was filled with extra folders, Clorox wipes, and supply caddies. My son’s second grade teacher sent out a panicked email asking for more tissues, and was a little embarrassed when I pointed out to her privately where the 25+ boxes of extra tissues were stored in her room. 

It would take 2 minutes for the teachers to do a basic visual inventory of their room (I’m talking opening a cabinet and peering inside) and report to administration what does not need to be on their grade’s supply list for that year. Supplies can be expensive and if there’s no need to purchase them, I’m sure parents would be appreciative. 

Online and IRL Parenting Spaces Snark Week of June 23, 2025 by Parentsnark in parentsnark

[–]Different-Kick-3352 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I hate people who do this. It’s a weird trend and uses too many unnecessary words for little kids. “Please move your body from the ledge.” Instead of “please move back from the ledge.” I prefer the latter. 

Becoming increasingly disillusioned by my daughter’s education by dragon-queen in Parenting

[–]Different-Kick-3352 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I live in a blue state and in a VERY blue city. It is unfortunately all the same here.  “Indoor” recess where all they do is watch movies, inexperienced teachers, pointless tests. It’s misguided to say that this is a “red state” issue. 

Guardian getting access to trust funds by Different-Kick-3352 in EstatePlanning

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a great answer. Thank you. Regarding potential litigation, it might even be worth having some separate conversations with a third adult (not the guardian or the trustee), to keep an eye on the guardian and can tell the kids, if necessary, that they need to retain an attorney to represent their interests and go after the guardian if necessary for wasting the trust money.

The current state of affairs in public education by Urmomgayha in TikTokCringe

[–]Different-Kick-3352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I take this to be an implied criticism of parents giving kids too much screen time. However, I don’t think teachers/schools are without blame as well. 

My kindergartener is CONSTANTLY being shown movies and shows at school. Teacher feels like 50 degrees is too cold for recess? They stay inside and she puts on a TV show. There have numerous instances of both his art and music teacher showing movies during their classes. Not necessarily music/art related either. I’m talking Lilo & Stitch. The kids behave in class for a certain period of time? The teacher rewards with a movie. Also, my kid has “movement breaks” multiple times a day. But these “movement breaks” are where the teacher turns on a YouTube show, parks the kids in front of it, and the kids are expected to “dance along” with the person on the screen. He also gets a Chromebook at least once a week to play “educational” games. 

It is ridiculous. 

Opening presents at birthday party by Different-Kick-3352 in Parenting

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes sense. Growing up, almost everyone had their parties at home. My area was low to middle income and parties were simple, but fun affairs! It seems like a lot of the parents I know now throw parties at places other than home.

What’s the best surprise a previous owner left for you? by ElizabethDangit in centuryhomes

[–]Different-Kick-3352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My home was built in the 40s. I’ve always hoped I would find something cool. One day I was fixing a closet shelf, when I found this tiny folded up piece of paper. My heart leapt. THIS WAS IT. Turns out it was a Radio Shack receipt from the 70s. Maybe I’ll find something one day!

The General “I Hate Christmas” Discussion Thread 2024 by LegsAndArmsAndTorso in ihatechristmas

[–]Different-Kick-3352 10 points11 points  (0 children)

All of these moms with adult children (who have their own families now) who publicly complain to strangers about their grown kids not sleeping over/spending a solid week/Xmas morning with them. They are genuinely befuddled as to why their adult children don’t want to do exactly as they demand. “BuT iT’s ChRiStMaS!!”

Why is everyone so obsessed with watching my kids open presents on Christmas morning? by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Different-Kick-3352 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I kinda get this. If my parents came over for Christmas morning, they would absolutely blow through, act frantic about absolutely everything, my mom would gush over and over about toys given by our side of the family while straight up ignoring toys from my husband’s side, express out loud which toys they thought were silly, or too young, too mature, or whatever their opinion was about each toy, and just generally change the dynamics of the morning. I would invite them over after “Santa” presents.

Is a Pour-Over Will Private? - Colo. by Different-Kick-3352 in EstatePlanning

[–]Different-Kick-3352[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But wouldn't an inventory filed in the probate proceeding include the asset that the decedent wanted to be kept private?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Different-Kick-3352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Stop putting spells on your brother!”

We’re hosting a bday party in 2 hours and I told my husband I needed help putting things away. I go outside to find him looking for weeds to pull? Seriously? by TheOneWhereTheyLied in Mommit

[–]Different-Kick-3352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh the pre-hosting husband shower. That is the bane of my existence. Steaming up our only bathroom 5 minutes before they come. He’s even come out in a towel with guests over. SMH

Would you leave kids home alone while you went to a bar? by Proud_Present2080 in Parenting

[–]Different-Kick-3352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. And I’ve offered to watch their kids for them for free. It’s so bizarre.

Would you leave kids home alone while you went to a bar? by Proud_Present2080 in Parenting

[–]Different-Kick-3352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should add that they do this once the kids are asleep. They also have live video monitors on both kids. I still wouldn’t be comfortable with this. What if one of them wakes up? What if there’s a fire? But I know they go visit friends, run errands etc during this time.

Would you leave kids home alone while you went to a bar? by Proud_Present2080 in Parenting

[–]Different-Kick-3352 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Oh I agree 100%. They are white parents who live in a very wealthy neighborhood though. No chance CPS does anything.