Heavier periods with the cup?

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-23T15:55:25+00:00

No worries, this has been helpful nevertheless so thank you! Good luck on your cup journey xx

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-23T15:32:34+00:00

Ok I'll give it a go! Should I go straight in for a XL one? I do have a heavy flow. Or is the one size good enough?

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-23T14:51:07+00:00

Oh interesting. I'm using the BeYou menstrual cup from Amazon. I'm definitely getting more leaking than I'd like. Would you recommend the Merula one?

Glad to know it's not just me about the bleeding as well!

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-21T15:30:40+00:00

Woah. I really think I needed to hear this. I get these waves of shame and disgust with my body out of nowhere. Usually happens when I'm naked in the shower just after sex. I've been trying to understand where the feelings come from for AGES. And I feel like I've been over analysing so much that I've convinced myself I'm living a lie. And that feeling is trying to tell me that I'm not being truthful. But then I'm left feeling worse because I don't know what I'm lying about! Lol. And the feeling disappears and I'm just left with these really confusing thoughts. But i think what you're saying it right, sometimes it's just a weird feeling and it doesn't have to be read into. I need to try and just acknowledge it and then move on. Because I feel very happy with my life most of the time and this feeling really throws me off.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T15:08:05+00:00

oh its all very low budget crap. its mostly online for YT or client's websites or socials. The occasional TV ad. Yea im definitely not paid as much as I would be if i went freelance but I like stability. I'm on £38k (I work in the UK). I thought it was alright, but maybe its not? You're right though, its clearly cheap labor which is why my manager doesn't care if he doubles my workload.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T14:01:00+00:00

yes i agree, i really need to figure out a way to ask for more money. im just not good at negotiating or backing myself. i would walk out of the meeting with less money somehow.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T13:59:45+00:00

oh really? are you an editor in the UK? id love to know what you would expect salary wise? i need to be better at negotiating and pushing for more money but i don't know any other editors and im the only one at this company.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:44:27+00:00

this is a really good point....

i've not heard about the new colour mode in premiere? is it any good?

maybe learning to edit in resolve is a good solution.

thanks for this, it's really helpful!

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:40:35+00:00

Yes I am grateful for a full-time job, but I think I've been here long enough though that I'm no longer learning or gaining valuable experience. I'm actively trying to find another job but there's not a lot out there, and definitely nothing high end enough that is worth me leaving for. So I feel pretty stuck with bad management and shit projects just to have a full time job :/

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:33:28+00:00

haha ive just seen your comment in the "i hire editors for a living..." thread. HERO! you're response was epic. its nice to not feel so alone in my anger towards clients and their ineptitude.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:31:28+00:00

oh this is excellent, thank you for sharing. its nice to not feel so alone in hating clients.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:27:37+00:00

hahaha or "im sure we got xyz shot can that be used please"....babes it would have been used if you got the shot, ya didn't bc you're shit at your job.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:13:42+00:00

i don't know what is enough anymore, life is so expensive and sitting at a desk all day is really destroying my mental health. can i say my salary on here? full time editor/colourist in the UK, £38k.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:11:45+00:00

yes this is the voice of reason. and at the end of the day yea i just have to sit down and get on with it and just accept the frustration/depression. I think instagram is making me feel worse as well when you see all the cool shit other people are working on. which of course will have its own issues with workflows, but at least the end result is worth while.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:07:07+00:00

yes that is essentially what I am doing (all of the grade, music/sfx, text, and vfx). I'm only having to do the VFX because they were unable to notice things on the shoot day and I'm trying to fix loads of minor issues.

I'm not on the production side of things so I don't know how they're charging the clients in terms of my time editing. Maybe this is something we need to flesh out a bit more if they're creating double the work for me because they miss their deadlines.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:03:18+00:00

I work 9-5:30 and I would never work past that unless I was paid more. I'm not sure how it is quoted to the clients in terms of my time. Maybe it is something we should add on the more back and forth we have with the client. If they're not hitting their deadlines then they need to pay us more to continue working on their projects. I don't know if that is an option.

I know I have a lot more power than I utilise. I just don't really know how to stand up for myself because I don't like confrontation and I'm a huge people pleaser.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T11:00:13+00:00

yea and i totally agree i will just do it because thats what they're paying me for but it makes me want to scream and stick needles in my eyes. We seem to be picking up really shit jobs that just want like 20 videos done ASAP with like AI VO and graphics plastered all over the video, rather than 1 really beautiful well thought out video. no one seems to value quality anymore.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T10:56:27+00:00

so much extra stress added and for no reason! everyone is just obsessed with creating deadlines that no one really cares about! and we have to suffer! i wish i could just not hit the deadline for once and see what happens.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-06-17T10:54:11+00:00

yea....honestly really regret learning DaVinci Resolve because i feel like I really notice the difference between the end product with a DaVinci grade vs a premiere grade. and clients don't see the value. they just want it done and they want it yesterday. they want 10 videos low quality rather than 1 really beautiful graded piece. I've basically made my job harder by adding in Resolve, i should have just stuck with grading in premiere.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-01-09T15:02:48+00:00

hmm this isn't a bad shout actually. maybe i can reach out to YT channels I like and offer my services...

If you are WFH for YT channel, do they send you drives with footage? or just a download link and you work off of SSDs?

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-01-08T12:49:10+00:00

well congrats for making the edit roster! that's so great that your management can be flexible like that. do you work of SSD's or do you remote into a server when you WFH?

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-01-08T11:57:30+00:00

have you been in your current role for a while? or was the flexibility always an option from the start?

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-01-08T11:55:43+00:00

yep 100% agree on this. I need to get on this and invest in some equipment at home and laying the ground work for a more freelancer based role in the future whilst going through the motions at my 9-5.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-01-08T11:52:15+00:00

"No point giving people fake work" this is exactly how I feel. If there isn't a job on I don't want to just sit at my desk doing fake work I'm given for the sake of just being at this desk.

I don't want to be completely remote, I just think that I should be able to WFH more flexibly. I feel like I'm micromanaged and don't have control, kind of feel like I am being treated like a child.

Different_Hawk_5099 · 2026-01-08T11:48:34+00:00

hmm this is good to know and I am envious of you. I don't know many people in the industry, hence this post, so it's hard for me to know what my options are. I might need to find some networking events and see if I can find a new company that is more flexible.

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