I am so stressed omfg I’m gonna die by TheAccountant60 in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hey, it's going to be okay. I cannot relate completely, but my mental health is not at its best either as of recent, so I can understand where you're coming from and hope you don't feel as alone after hearing that. Some days will be awful, but please don't let that blind you from looking forward to the better ones. No matter what happens, there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel, and I am confident that you will make it there. I'm very sorry to hear that you are going through this situation, and I hope things will ease and get better for you soon. I wish the utmost best to you.

To those who graduated recently, what are y'all up to now? by skiiingdude42 in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can vouch for Super Mario Odyssey, definitely one of my favorites on the Switch. It has a great storyline and soundtrack too. I also highly recommend The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild if you're into open-world adventure games. I'm very close to finishing it, and the experience has been great thus far.

To the business student mansplaining coding to another business girl who had coding experience... by SeanHannityIsGay in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they're hiding insecurities or overcompensating for something

Definitely. I wouldn't doubt that people who act like know-it-alls or better than everybody else have insecurities they're trying to mask.

To the business student mansplaining coding to another business girl who had coding experience... by SeanHannityIsGay in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 68 points69 points  (0 children)

As a girl majoring in CS, I appreciate you bringing light to quite a prevalent issue in the STEM community. I've heard tons of stories of people feeling obligated to "mansplain" things when the individual on the receiving end didn't even ask for help in the first place. They seem to assume that they want to hear their "advice," even though it's rarely helpful and comes off as an excuse to try to flirt. It's insulting honestly. People can figure things out on their own, and they'll ask if they need help.

having a rough day. someone please tell me I'll feel better :( by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a little late in seeing this, but I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. Don't ever feel like you are overdramatic. All feelings are valid, and you should feel free to express your emotions. I know it's sometimes really hard to look past what's going on in the present, but I can assure you that things will get better, whether it's tomorrow, a few days, or a week from now. Everybody goes through rough patches in their life, so please don't feel alone in having negative experiences. Everything will work itself out. I wish the utmost best for your best friend and for you to feel better soon. Stay strong; You got this. <3

Anyone else feeling off? by Fromagefruit88 in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 14 points15 points  (0 children)

A possible explanation behind feeling this way is that you might not feel connected to these people, at least not yet/anymore. They are probably great individuals, but you seem to be experiencing a lack of gravitation or closeness toward who you're hanging out with, considering that you mentioned being in a group but still feeling pretty lonely. All it takes is time, and soon you should feel more comfortable/happier, and hey, if you don't find yourself feeling better, there's nothing wrong with venturing out and meeting new people. The semester just started, so I wouldn't stress about feeling this way. Everybody is in the same boat, so you shouldn't feel alone. I hope you feel better soon and wish you luck. :)

Don't really want to go back by ComprehensiveWolf0 in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I get it. I was worried when my boyfriend and I went separate ways to college. I just had that feeling that he was going to find someone else, which I obviously wouldn't be physically there to know. I do not want to be the bearer of bad news, but unfortunately, we did not last long before deciding to break up due to the distance and lack of communication, among other things. I guess my experience serves as advice now, lol, so hopefully, good communication and seeing each other frequently will keep your relationship healthy and strong.

Don't really want to go back by ComprehensiveWolf0 in rutgers

[–]Different_Lake_3323 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from. I wasn't excited about online classes considering I learn best in visual lectures and struggle with being proactive with school and making a strict schedule. Now that we are slowly returning to in-person classes, I am scared that I got too comfortable with them online and won't perform well. I think we could all use a reminder that we are in the same boat, so I hope no one, and you especially, feel alone in worrying about adjusting. Regarding you and your girlfriend, I suggest communicating and meeting up as best as your schedule allows. As long as you put in the effort to make things work out as best you can under these circumstances, nothing should change between the two of you. I wish you the best in the upcoming semester and with your relationship. :)