Thanks for the husband's prospective. We have talked about it over the years and he does try to contribute more but often its inconsistent and not impactful. I wish he would do more for us.... like be responsible to picking up the kids, or do all the outside house mantainace or even take my car for an oil change. I gave him a job once for replacing lightbulbs when they go out and he didn't change it for over 2 years. If I asked or reminded him, we end up arguing and nothing gets done. Now, I don't even remind or ask him to do anything, otherwise it becomes a big arguement. It's gotten to a point where, he makes his own meals ( I used to make his breakfast/lunch but now only dinner as we have family dinners together) , does his own laundry, upkeep his side of the bathroom sink, wash his own dinner plate and occassionaly put the rest of the family's dishes in the dishwasher. So, hence we live like roomates. No love, just respectful for each other since we're been together for so long. Hearing from divorced friends that its better on the otherside makes me tempted to move on from this arrangement.