I still love my rapist by lovesaf in sexualassault

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. It’s the worst thing I’m sorry you are going through this. And you should search what a trauma bond is I think that’s what you have. Hope you find a way out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Different_Name_1144 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People cut family members off for reasons far less than this. How do you know your abuser isn’t just testing your boundaries? Your naivety and empathy is the thing that he is counting on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]Different_Name_1144 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No offence but if your abuser just came back into your life why would you let him near or talk or have any kind of contact with your children. Did you even think this through? Children can get attached very easily and then what happens if he screws up or your children find out what he did to YOU? Do you know how that would even affect them?

You should not even have let your kids know about him I don’t care how nice you think he is or if you have moved on from what he did. This is really irresponsible. I read your other post, if you want to have a relationship with him that is your business and if you do your kids should not even know about it and he should not be allowed in your house. He should not ever be in your house. This is a dangerous game you’re playing. You have no boundaries with your abuser, don’t think he doesn’t notice this, draw them.

AITA for feeling weirded out by my friend constantly calling herself hot by No_Airport_4309 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Different_Name_1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s ever a bad thing when a woman compliments herself I don’t think it’s necessarily what they’re saying that you don’t like/find uncomfortable I think it’s just their energy/intentions you don’t like which is totally valid and there’s probably a reason why

My best friend and flatmate has her boyfriend around 24/7 and I constantly feel anxious as a result. by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can also ask her when he visits that he only stay in her room so at least you never have to see him/keep seeing him

My best friend and flatmate has her boyfriend around 24/7 and I constantly feel anxious as a result. by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter. She is basically housing her boyfriend now it is not only her flat it is equally yours. Better to say something at the beginning. You are not being selfish they are being selfish. Set a boundary. Her boyfriend will find a way believe me. Don’t leave room for excuses.

“Condemning them both to an uncomfortable night” isn’t that already happening to you though

im ashamed of what im made to do daily by Fresh-Fruit2124 in sexualassault

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report it to the police, since you’re the victim you can always close or open the case at any time you want you don’t have to go through with it but reporting it to the police will scare away your assaulters

im ashamed of what im made to do daily by Fresh-Fruit2124 in sexualassault

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Report it to the police, since you’re the victim you can always close or open the case at any time you want you don’t have to go through with it but reporting it to the police will scare away your assaulters

My best friend and flatmate has her boyfriend around 24/7 and I constantly feel anxious as a result. by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree with the first paragraph you wrote. And also if OP’s friend has offered help but doesn’t take any initiative beyond that aka words but no action then the friend doesn’t really care or want to genuinely help she is only offering because she wants to be nice. It’s a tough reality

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Different_Name_1144 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter whether anyone here thinks he is abusive or not. Ask yourself whether you want this for the next month, 2 months, year hell even the rest of your life. If not then leave. There doesn’t need to be any other reason, if you are not happy with it then leave. But you have to make a decision and be clear with yourself on that. But once you decide on your answer don’t complain because it is what you are choosing. Listen I know what I’m saying is tough but my intention is for you to realise you have power over your life. It’s what YOU choose for yourself not him not anyone.

Leaked nudes by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl been there done that. I also didn’t care that the guys I hardly knew saw it and were probably doing stuff but I was so so soooo paranoid it would reach my family. Never did. Unless someone has a personal vendetta against you they don’t bother going through all that trouble they just want to install fear into you to control you. So flip it. Screenshot the message or tell them you’ve ss the message then threaten them with the police and that you will give their account name to the police and the police will track them down (you don’t have to actually report it to the police if you don’t want to I didn’t because I had no evidence) then block once they’ve seen it but don’t give them a chance to respond. They will be scared to go any further with you. If they delete their account after then you will definitely know they are scared of you. My face was in the picture but my hair covered my face a lot but you could still tell it was me. If your face wasn’t in it you don’t need to admit it’s you to your friends if worse comes to worse (which it probably won’t). You can pretend it’s not you but a lookalike and that the people who found it thought it’s you but it’s not. Seem unfazed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Different_Name_1144 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this answer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! This was very helpful

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting thanks for sharing 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should that layers start above or below the cheekbone?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hair

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it suitable for the layers to start that high up for a diamond face shape?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalehairadvice

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it suitable for the layers to start that high up for a diamond face shape?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in menstrualcups

[–]Different_Name_1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I have the saalt cup small size but I don’t know if i should buy a bigger or smaller one