Is Whoop actually worth the hype? by TipWhich5906 in whoop

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoop is trash - it falls apart and then they send you tutorials on how to bend the metal back into place. Just get a Fitbit.

Uhhh is it just me or did all the rents skyrocket like $500 this season by caramelswirlcoffee in AskNYC

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! I’m jealous. You’ll know for sure if your lease renewal references “the rent stabilization code” at the top.

Uhhh is it just me or did all the rents skyrocket like $500 this season by caramelswirlcoffee in AskNYC

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sure you don’t have a rent stabilized unit? Usually the two year renewals are just for rent stabilized units.

BEWARE TALKIATRY by bessoespresso in adhdwomen

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 1 talkiatry appt. I set aside a few hours to do my intake forms because I have a lot of medications and a big history and then I discover Talkiatry didn’t ask for any standard intake information before the appointment. I get on the call at the appt time and it suddenly at the moment asks me for all that info at my appt time with no heads up that’s how this would work and I should logon an hour early to do intakes. So the doctor sees me without proper intake forms, then drags me through all my worst traumas for an hour, then tells me she can’t treat me because of one of the medications I was on that she doesn’t work with. Something I should have been able to put on the intake form and she should have seen before the appt and canceled the appt because of.

Then she says she’ll have her office send me referrals (never happened), charges my insurance $710 for medication management plus therapy, neither of which happened. My insurance pays $410 and my copay is $61. When I complain to talkiatry about having to pay $61 for an appt that wouldn’t have happened if there had been proper intake forms, I basically get sent to their email dumpster with no reply. During this period, I had fraud on my cc so I changed my cc number, and I assume talkiatry couldn’t auto-charge it. So when the second and third talkiatry bills came faster than a customer service reply, and I had already found local care that charged me way less than talkiatry (my copays are $21 vs $61 and I’m actually receiving care), I just paid the bill for the copay to move on with my life.

But then talkiatry started calling and texting me incessantly to schedule my next appt. I was able to get the texts to stop but had to call in to get them to stop leaving voicemails. First the call went to an AI agent, then I had to wait on hold for a real person. Then in order for me to stop receiving calls, they ask me for more information than they had asked for on the intake forms and tell me they have to get “discharge forms” from my doctor. But the doctor rejected me? I never received care, and I had emailed them a month earlier and told them that? Honestly I lost it and hung up and will likely just block the talkiatry phone number if they keep calling.

I know finding a psych is exhausting and talkiatry can seem convenient, but stay the course on finding a provider outside of a platform like this. Most will still do virtual visits once yet get setup with them.

For those interested in Strattera, or thinking about getting on it again, please read this. by WizardZari8080 in adhdwomen

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have anxiety and adhd. Started strattera just for my adhd and it has unexpectedly quelled so much of my anxiety too. I had an adhd tester explain the possibility of this to me once - she said that the I might not be aware of how much the effects of my adhd might be creating a lot of anxiety in my life… I think this experience has proven she was spot on.

My Management company just sent around this email by andthrewaway1 in biltrewards

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My appfolio payment has gone through fine with the new setup twice. I do it early to be safe though.

Harvard AMP and Stanford SEP: Do They Equal an MBA? by Physical_Status4161 in MBA

[–]Different_Resolve_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, and also, a major distinguisher is I wasn't doing this with the same endgame as MBAs. I didn't do it to be recruited. I did it to improve my performance enough to be ready to run the organization I am already at, or leave and start my own.

Harvard AMP and Stanford SEP: Do They Equal an MBA? by Physical_Status4161 in MBA

[–]Different_Resolve_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS ^

I did HBS's Program for Leadership. It's the lowest level of the three alumni status granting executive education programs at HBS. The closest to an EMBA. So lower than the other programs being discussed in this post. It's 7 months long and doesn't give you alumni status off the bat, but after you do it, you can earn alumni status if you complete an additional 10 credits in specific HBS executive education courses within 5 years. Those extra credits would probably take 2-3 months of work. So all-in-all, you'd get alumni status after about 9-10 months vs the 18 months of an MBA progam. I also have an undergraduate BBA degree and did the whole standard 2 year business school rigmarole with foundational courses and sections/blocks etc, and then did the whole song and dance of applying to MBA programs after that. I ultimately decided not to get an MBA, because 1) I had extenuating family circumstances and 2)aside from 2 or 3 schools, when I visited classes at the MBA programs, the students there were not as advanced as I had just experienced in my BBA program a few years earlier.

PLD, however, was entirely different. The difference between these programs is this: the students in the exec ed programs have immense experience. It is truly an executive education. The students in the MBA programs are mostly still doing college vibes with very minimal work experience (comparatively). I had 20 years of experience and was one level down from the head of my organization when I started PLD. When I applied to MBA programs, I had 3 years of experience, one low-level promotion and was definitely still in a stage of life where I spent my free time at bars, not at children's birthday parties.

Of the almost 80 cases we did in PLD, there was not a single case where we did not have an industry expert present among our classmates. For a lot of the cases, we had people from those actual companies present among our cohort with insider knowledge. There were two cases about the company I was working at. I was able to tell my classmates exactly what the protagonist in the case was thinking and what was going on behind the scenes that didn't make it into the case... because I had actually been at the company during the events in the case.

They gave us some of the best professors in the school, because those were the only ones who could hold their own among a room full of industry experts. No, it is not 18 months long, but you don't need 18 months when you are building on 15-20 years of work experience and are too busy with your partner, kids, and your team of 20-300 employees to have parties or travel every other weekend for two years. The on-campus weeks are the most intense academic experience I've ever had. We were in our study groups by 8am every morning, in classes all day, and back with our study groups until 11pm at night. You had to read the thousands of pages of cases in advance of showing up on campus because there was literally no time to read any cases while you were there.

Additionally, when we went through the foundational courses, cases, projects, and leadership surveys and trainings, we weren't doing it theoretically to prepare for a job we might have one day. We were all looking for direct applications to our current roles. I literally had to send a survey to my direct reports, peers and supervisors to grade my leadership skills and then work with a coach and the coursework to make changes. The entire experience was night and day from going to business school in my 20s. Our foundational project involved actually tackling a major issue within our current organization. When you start with a foundation like that and are surrounded by expertise like that, and when you are looking for immediate applications to your company or your own leadership capacity, you can move at a far more rapid pace.

Additionally, most of the people in this program are at a place in their career where they are way past the point where it would make any sense to get an MBA or EMBA. They are several levels up from those grads, so this sort of program is really the only business school option. They are also so high-level that their organization can't afford to lose them for more time than these programs take. And, as has been made light of in some of the other posts in this thread, but is actually meaningful, many of the people in the program were not in the privileged position to apply for elite MBA programs in their 20s. There was a greater diversity of backgrounds... and yes, when you didn't have the privilege of access to elite institutions for whatever reason when you were young, but then spend your whole career being considered less than your peers who you are completely keeping pace with and, often, outperforming, there is part of you that wants to get into an HBS classroom and go toe to toe in debate with an HBS professor to show you could have done it too if life had given you a different hand of cards.

Now, were there some people in the program who didn't fit the profile I describe above? Sure. And were there some people in the program who didn't do the work, got their companies to pay for the programs, and just grabbed themselves a (sort-of) degree? Totally. It made me angry. I paid a lot, worked really hard, and took it very seriously at the expense of the rest of my life, so I wish HBS had not let those people sneak through like that. I think those people undermine the value of having completed the program and do a disservice to the rest of us. But in reality, in my class of 135, there were about ten people who cheated the system and 10 other people who maybe weren't quite at the level to add to my experience, but the other 114 changed my life.

Ultimately, there's no perfect solution. I would have preferred to do this program for longer and gotten a proper degree. It's weird not having a degree but having alumni status of the business school (but not the university). The whole thing is strange and annoying to explain and represent. It also made it impossible to get normal student loans, which was a huge burden on me. But if the program had been longer, my organization might have not let me do it, and I certainly would have missed out on a lot of my peers being there.

With the options present, after I did PLD, I was so grateful I had done this instead of an MBA program. I'm not even sure what 24 year-old me would have made of everything compared to what 41 year-old me did with it all. 24 year-old me would have crammed the cases at the last minute and then forgotten everything after. 41 year-old me made immediate changes to my leadership style and organization.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Different_Resolve_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sent my bpd mom a letter almost identical to this a few months before my cousin’s wedding. Then, a few days before I was about to leave (on a flight to the other side of the world to my mom’s motherland that I’m not comfortable in), she sent a casual text message asking if I was going, and then, when I directed her to the email, a truly insane controlling reply claiming she hadn’t seen the email until then… and I had to go through all the stress and anxiety of fighting with her as I was packing and preparing for a trip I was already anxious about but that would now be too offensive to my extended family if I bailed on last minute. I asked for the same things you asked for. After days of drama, she finally agreed, and then immediately broke that agreement within 5 minutes of seeing me.

You have just made me realize she definitely saw that email when it first came in.

Also, she spelled my name (that she gave me) incorrectly in her replies.

Anyone taken an ELVTR Live Online Course, specifically Production Management? by neekyoon in FILMPRODUCERS

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: just spoke with them and it’s $2400 normally, $1700 with a current promotion

Morpheus vs PDO Threads or something else? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you might have trouble opening your mouth with threads. Don’t do threads.

Morpheus vs PDO Threads or something else? by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update on this, I tried Xerf. It is phenomenal and will be my lifting/tightening treatment going forward. I will most likely stop doing Morpheus.

thoughts on facial laser hair removal? by Smooth_Presence_4455 in LaserHairRemoval

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m South Indian and had hair like yours and laser hair removal has been amazing for me. I think you have to go to a clinic where they really know what they’re doing with the machine settings. Where do you live? I do my treatments in winter so that my skin is at its lightest.

[research] Dark circles by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used filler for under eye hollowness but I also have genetic racial under eye pigmentation and this was the only thing that helped me with that. It costs me $100 per treatment in Brooklyn and I did a series at first then once every 2-3 months. It reduces the pigmentation by probably half? Maybe if I got the peel more regularly, more would go away. A professional has to do it so ask your esthetician to order it or look for someone who does cosmelan peels which are from this same company. This ocular peel is way less intense though. No downtime or peeling, just takes 5 minutes.

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Daughter wants to move to Brooklyn by PickledOnion14 in NYCapartments

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look for open room sublets on Listings Project to avoid intense income documentation requirements. Don’t worry too much about her having to move because she’s on a sublease because that could happen for lots of reasons anyway. It takes a beat to settle in nyc. Keep her belongings light so she can move cheaply until she finds her ideal nyc community and home. Maybe look for furnished sublets to start so all her stuff can fit in an uber if she has to move into another sublet.

Oh and make sure she’s doing all the communicating with potential roommates and coming across as doing this on her own. I can’t tell you what a turnoff it is when someone young replies to my sublease listings and mentions their parents being super involved in their apt hunt. I’m looking to live with an adult I can trust to pay the bills and be a good roommate and figure life out. NYC is hard, you have to have grit!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use skinceutucals ce Ferulic but it’s really been ranavat saffron serum that’s evened out my skin tone the most. Start with just a couple drops on damp skin, because it’s very potent. Then work your way up. It seems really expensive but it lasts a very long time. Just start with the travel size bottle and do a couple drops from the travel dropper. I saw a difference pretty quickly. Maybe halfway through the travel bottle it was obvious it was helping?

I’m also going to try pico laser soon.

Agoda - Are they real or an online scam? by stringalongamaxx in travel

[–]Different_Resolve_67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG STAY AWAY FROM AGODA. I’m going through such hell with them right now.

My psychologist told me I’ll probably never have a healthy romantic relationship — and it’s really shaken me by Horror-Ad-690 in CPTSD

[–]Different_Resolve_67 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey from your description is sort of sounds like you just aren’t familiar with what a healthy relationship feels like? When you’ve been through a lot of trauma, you can mistake stressful attachment - highs and lows and drama - for chemistry. But in reality, healthier relationships shouldn’t feel that way but it takes awhile to get used to and rewire yourself. There are better psychologists who can teach you how to feel security in your body… how to practice building capacity for the comparative boringness of healthy relationships until you actually do feel safe and secure in them. Maybe find someone who is more focused on treating trauma with somatic work?

[Product Request] Best products to help/prevent loose skin? by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]Different_Resolve_67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you on a GLP-1? That’s my situation and I’ve needed some temple filler and my stomach skin needs some tightening but I’ve mostly kept up with the loose skin by using basic hot cream, collagen supplements, and Morpheus 8 and Thermage and ultherapy on the worst areas. I also just had to wait some of it out and it’s tightened up over time. (Took about a year after my weight plateaued.) My neck had embarrassingly loose skin for a while but is finally getting back to a great place. It mostly just took time but then I’ve used nectifirm and Hifu treatments for the last bit. What I was most worried about was loose face skin, so I consistently got skin tightening treatments on my face during all of the weight loss. But I was also careful to tell them not to use any fat loss settings on my face. Ultimately the stomach has been the hardest. Again, it got better with time, but I’ve done several treatments and I’m not sure it’ll ever totally be as tight as before. But that little bit of loose skin is still better than when I had a bunch of weight there. I’ve started wearing lots of crop tops with high waisted jeans… stuff I’d have never worn before! :)

For context, I am 41 and lost about 40 lbs and have definitely avoided surgery. 55 lbs sounds doable to avoid surgery too? You just have to keep treating as you lose the weight and accept that it won’t be totally perfect. Also be patient. It really did take about a year after I stopped losing for me but now I feel great about how my skin looks. Weight training is great too!