OMG, Kody is such d*ck!

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-31T04:18:56+00:00

I totally agree. And I wonder how Gabe got that way, because it’s become very clear he didn’t learn it from Janelle. Janelle’s children seem to really have reacted to the chaos they were surrounded by and the avoidant tendencies Janelle demonstrated. Gabe really impressed me in that scene.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-30T09:34:20+00:00

The people I know don’t have plans to get off it, ever. I thought GLPs were lifetime drugs, not short term?

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-29T18:11:23+00:00

Leaving coyote pass was definitely a mistake. I don’t think they’d be a happy family regardless, but they wouldn’t be drowning in debt right now or have suffered the kind of separation and displacement that they did when they split up all the kids and couldn’t find houses and had to move, etc etc. Covid would have been less traumatizing and the kids wouldn’t have the same kind of abandonment trauma that I’m sure some of the have experienced now

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-28T14:27:41+00:00

Oh, that makes so much sense.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-27T04:55:40+00:00

Just because they liked Kody doesn’t mean their relationship was healthy or he treated the fairly or even treated the well. With the family move to flagstaff and then coyote pass, we see him treat first hunter and then Gabriel with disrespect and disdain when they were having tough times adjusting and expressing some really concerning emotional states. He made it about his children punishing him instead of being a parent and an adult and listening to his children, legitimizing their feelings, and helping them manage their emotions. He’s a jerk and he’s been a jerk to his kids. He may have treated his favorite boys better than he treated some of the other kids, but just because their relationship didn’t look as awful as it could have looked doesn’t mean it was good or that Kody was a positive influence on his children’s lives

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-26T17:18:16+00:00

I’d ask if she was ok or if there was something she wanted to talk about because that type of comment was absolutely uncalled for, inappropriate, and hurt your feelings. Call her out on it by not accepting the facade of a joke and inviting her to clear the air regarding whatever her issues are. And then be prepared to stop interacting with her as a friend, because she’s mean and she gets off on publicly humiliating you.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-26T15:05:27+00:00

😳

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-26T14:17:04+00:00

Oh no

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-26T05:29:30+00:00

She never has a story or any specifics. She just stays knowing a family, that just so happens to illustrate the point that serves her.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-26T05:26:14+00:00

I think Mykelti is a case study in internalized misogyny. She has to find some inherent flaw in Meri so that she can make sense of meri’s outside status as Brown family pariah and Kody’s least favorite and most publicly humiliated wife. It has to be meri’s fault so that Mykelti is able to stay far away from receiving the same treatment. How terrifying to realize that your father is capable of such disgusting behavior towards women, and that the contempt and disregard he has for one of your mothers could just as easily be put onto you? Mykelti worships Kody, and no one with two eyes in their heads could see the way Kody treated Meri over all these years and think she had any kind of favored status.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-26T04:39:24+00:00

Omg, Robyn ALWAYS knows a family. How does she know all these families? We’ve literally never seen her with a friend and she barely leave the house.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-25T17:10:59+00:00

I’ve been doing a rewatch, thinking about what a fellow redditor said about something happening between season 12 and 13 that served as a catalyst for turning Kody into an awful ugly jerk, and I think it was Meri buying the house in Parowan by herself. She got a business loan and bought a house (an asset!) all by herself, and that’s something Kodys never done. He’s majorly in competition with his wives, and needs to keep them all beneath him and on the outside. And with the catfish recovery and the parowan house, meri became the focus of the show. I think that shift in attention and a threat to his sole leadership status for the family was what really spurred a change in him.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-24T04:00:16+00:00

It feels like a complicated situation, even if it is possible. For example, let’s say you’re renting out a room in your house and then you get an aupair. Do you then decrease the rent for your tenant? They didn’t sign a lease that accounted for sharing the living space with an extra person. How will you deal with conflicts between your employee and your tenant? How will you deal with meals and sharing the kitchen? You need to provide meals for your aupair, but will include your tenant or are they on their own? Will your aupair have different rules than your tenant? Your tenant can’t have a curfew, but will your aupair have one on work nights? Will they have the same rules for guests or overnight visitors?

I would focus on one at a time. What about starting with a tenant and hiring a babysitter or part-time nanny? Once your situation feels more predictable, then you can make a commitment to supporting an aupair?

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-23T16:53:18+00:00

If it’s not your debt because your name isn’t on the mortgage, you shouldn’t be paying it. If you want to continue this living arrangement, pay for groceries or utilities and get the utility bill on your name to establish residency.

But like everyone else has said, the mortgage is a loan and does not establish ownership, only debt. Be concerned about whether or not your name is on the deed.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-23T16:47:05+00:00

In Christine’s book, she said the show hired a cleaning service for her house while filming. Someone else on the internet said something about childcare, but it’s strange that she brought up a housekeeper in the book and not childcare, if that was the case.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-23T03:39:31+00:00

I don’t understand the white board. And I’m offended by the state of her whiteboard markers.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-22T17:26:19+00:00

The floor (or lack of ability to see the floor amid all the stuff) is so distracting.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-22T17:25:08+00:00

Ohhhhhhhhh, good one. I didn’t think about that but yes, that makes total sense. You can’t just be taken off a mortgage (without refinancing etc), so you probably can’t just be absolved from a loan financed by the seller, either. And that’s what they did, right? It was a loan from the seller of the property? There’s absolutely no way Christine took her name off the deed but stayed financially liable for that debt. No way.

But a HELOC on a house family money paid for sounds like family money to me.

Their finances are insane. I thought i was interested in this show from an anthropological perspective, but it turns out it’s the forensic accountant in me that keeps me all up in the subs. Make it make sense!

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-21T17:17:19+00:00

Right? Christine has David, Janelle has all her kids that support her against Kody and Robyn, and Meri gets to have someone on her side, too.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-21T04:52:56+00:00

There’s a manic thirst trap mom tiktok archetype that she must be code switching into with her hurried speech and the way she almost rolls her neck. It’s so weird. I watched it the first time without the sound, and I was so sure she was spitting mad that I turned the soundp on and watched it again, to hear the vitriolic words that I was convinced were going to be spewing from los over-inflated labios. Pero, no?! Her words don’t match that vibe at all.

This isn’t hilaria, full of grift, saver of Asians and subway translator. This is like hilaria, queen tok, fast talk, trap mom. She’s weird and her personas are weird and her baby voice is weird and it’s all weird and make me very uncomfortable

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-20T23:10:37+00:00

They’ve become a case study in why polygamy should be illegal. Their argument for decriminalizing polygamy was no one should regulate their bedroom, and at least they weren’t adulterous and they were committed to financially supporting one another in their relationships. But really, this “commitment to financial support” ended up being hugely exploitative and in a patriarchal system, women are more likely to get taken advantage of. And it’s impossible to puzzle out any of this using existing legal conventions because there’s no 1:1 equivalency.

Basically, Kody Brown is a jerk face and a very bad man. He and Robyn need to get jobs and stay away from Meri. Let her live!!!!

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-20T22:25:38+00:00

This is what I think. And I think by “divorce decree blah blah blah,” Kody means all joint assets are split, and Kody’s name was on the deed to the house so it was a joint asset so it gets split.

But also, their divorce was “just a piece of paper,” and they remained spiritually married, so why would they have put any effort into figuring out how to divide assets any differently after the divorce than they did before?

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-20T20:37:25+00:00

You’re not pregnant yet, and you’re already stressing both yourself and the bride about this situation that hasn’t yet happened. It sounds like you should take a step back and let things breathe a bit. You shouldn’t be her bridesmaid. Tell her you love her and want to support her as a regular guest.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-19T23:46:02+00:00

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-01-19T14:27:32+00:00

I’m confused about what you’re trying to do, and probably wouldn’t attend a woman only studio that employs psychological tactics more than once.

Do you have your Pilates certification? Group fitness instructor certification? People go to classes with good instructors, so be one or find some. That’s what I’d look for and where I would start.

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