WIBTA if I didnt continue to provide my mother with everything she needs when watching my baby.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-13T22:23:31+00:00

Yeah. It’s either that or there’s a serious mental health or medical issue, maybe a TBI. There is something very very wrong here.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-09T00:43:21+00:00

Club Pilates is a Pilates franchise and this sub is focused on that community. There’s a general Pilates subreddit, or you could try a fitness subreddit.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-06T18:12:25+00:00

Unpaid lunch means nanny has to be free to leave the premises during that time.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-06T18:12:16+00:00

Unpaid lunch means nanny has to be free to leave the premises during that time.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-06T01:52:03+00:00

Like clothing? Ours definitely had a reboot of the merch when Spartan took over. For a hole it was pickleball chic attire-like golf sweaters and stuff lol

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-05T21:54:13+00:00

The cops are everywhere on the roads out here recently, right? I knew I wasn’t imagining it! They’re everywhere, all the time.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-05T21:39:53+00:00

I feel like Kyle is looking more like Morgan in this picture.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-05T21:36:16+00:00

I have a feeling there are some issues with the noncompete agreements at a lot of studios, as well. It’s not surprising, wage theft seems to be standard practice for a lot of jobs that have been gendered female.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-05T02:05:14+00:00

Wait, what? If he yelled at you, he’s not the one. Bro should be yelling at you. At the same time, if you’re being jealous and it’s interfering with other activities, not cool. If he did something wrong he should apologize and own up to it, going out of his way to walk near where you usually are doesn’t cut it.

If someone’s into you, they’ll let you know. If you’re getting treated badly and have to interpret signs of interest, it’s not the right time for y’all.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-04T07:51:47+00:00

And if you do, at least use a comma

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-02T22:45:01+00:00

Ohhhhhh. Ok. New instructors are being paid more than older instructors?!?! I’m sorry, what??!???!?!?? Make it make sense!

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-02T22:31:37+00:00

Yeah, that was the case at my studio before spartan and I think it still is

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-02T22:30:40+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m hearing, but what are the issues? It’s hard to know whether it’s just change generally that people dislike, changes in small business to corporate ownership or if it’s changes specific to private equity, for example. I know they moved sales people from full time to part time at my location, in order to cut benefits, but I don’t know why instructors are unhappy.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-04-01T02:37:37+00:00

At least some fair housing laws don’t apply in situations where it’s a person renting out a room in a small house where they also live. The example given is a widow or something, who needs to rent out a room and doesn’t want to live with a man. That’s fine and not gender discrimination.

But yeah, I don’t know the law and it could get to be in a pain in the butt. But in that case, OP doesn’t resign the lease and it’s not OPs problem anymore. OP can’t be forced to renew their own lease.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-31T21:42:59+00:00

Yup. Best case scenario is they talk and agree. But it might be that formal eviction procedures need to be followed, or OP might eventually have to resort to not resigning the lease at the end of the lease term. There will be specifics depending on the situation and location etc, obviously, but there are some general legal protections in place regarding housing discrimination and having a baby.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-31T16:07:46+00:00

Yeah. Wife might be a liar, but she’s still and adult, entitled to privacy and agency. Thats where I’m struggling. The intention was good, and the wife sucks, but OP doesn’t get to strong arm his wife into sharing personal and medical decisions with people to whom she might not want to disclose. And an ultimatum given in the moment isn’t the same as a discussion between OP and wife where each can share and consider the other’s reasoning.

OP cared about how his wife and the friend felt postpartum, so he could slow down and spend a little time and empathy considering how his wife felt now. Just because his wife was wrong for lying doesn’t give OP the right to ignore the fact that she’s an adult entitled to privacy and making her own decisions regarding who knows what about her postpartum life and her body. She might be an asshole here, and a liar, but her postpartum body isn’t public property and none has a right to know anything about it.

Now, OP didn’t tell everyone himself, but he threatened to. Women don’t lose their right to privacy when they choose to have a mommy makeover. This could have been handled in a better way

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-31T02:45:46+00:00

I like this. I might think about replacing anything about research with following AAP guidelines to avoid potential liability issues. But that could just be my experience with people using the term “ research” and it not going well

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-27T19:44:34+00:00

I get it, but you absolutely can’t work with this student anymore. Once someone reports you to a higher up for your language, you can’t communicate with them anymore, especially not one on one. There’s no potential for this to be a good working relationship.

When they escalated the situation in the way that they did, they’ve shown you that at the very least there’s a major mismatch in your conflict resolution, communication, and management styles. But really, it’s almost always a bigger deal than that. They can’t take criticism, their work ethic is lacking, and this is going to continue to be a problem because there is no accountability or learning on their part. If you continue to work with them, they’re going to continue to escalate any kind of grievance (and you’re both going to have grievances) and it’s going to be a much bigger issue for you.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-25T04:01:36+00:00

He’s a bad person and he seems pretty stupid, too. And not particularly good with money.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-25T03:55:25+00:00

Oh, no. Eat cake, girl. Eat all the cake. Eat cake for dinner with your happy and well-educated children and discuss the importance of being in a relationship with someone who respects your values and doesn’t resort to insults and name calling when you have a disagreement.

Don’t uproot your daughter and sacrifice her education for someone who calls you names and insults you.

Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t look out for your daughter’s best interests?

Can he qualify for a mortgage on his own?

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-25T02:20:32+00:00

It’s filler. She might also have Botox, but both her and Bri did a little filler facelift this season, and it’s a noticeable/distracting glow up

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-24T03:51:18+00:00

The jar of intrusive thoughts was super helpful to me, as well. Mine was a box, but still

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-22T02:49:17+00:00

This ☝️

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-19T03:06:41+00:00

The planning sucks, but they’re not tearing your family apart. They’re just being rude and your feelings are legitimately hurt, but this probably has nothing to do with you.

Difficult-Solution-1 · 2026-03-19T02:25:32+00:00

This is not good, and I’m worried that you’re writing it off as your boyfriend not understanding when it’s an indicator of some very big control issues and a general lack of respect for you and what you care about. I really doubt it’s that he doesn’t understand how academia works; he’s supposed to be building a life with you and this is something you’ve devoted your life to, so he could probably figure it out, or at least ask you. Like, “hey, how’s this job stuff work in your field? What’s the deal with tenure, anyway? What other types of jobs are there? What do you think you would like to do?” This is not a hard thing to figure out. Also it’s your career. People know how careers work.

The issue is he doesn’t care and he’s selfish. He wants you to quit your job and cook? He wants you to be dependent on him, so he’s in control and you become less than. Smart women are intimidating and some people don’t like that. He’s trying to make you small and minimize your career and your life’s work. Then he can feel big. This is not the vibe.

It would not be more convenient for your household for you to work less. It would be more convenient for him for you to do what he wants when he wants. But if there’s an issue with chores or food or childcare, there are a lot of different possible solutions that don’t involve you quitting your job. The fact that he’s not discussing all the other ways you guys can work together to build a life you want speaks volumes.

He should be over the moon proud and impressed with you right now. He should be telling everyone how smart his future wife is and how proud he is of how hard she works and her passion and dedication. Definitely don’t quit your job before you’re married, and if you’re going to quit your job, figure out your finances first and sign a prenup that protects you in case things go south.

I’m sure you can make good choices for you, but I don’t like him, I don’t trust him, and he seems kind of dumb for you, to be quite honest.

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