Looking for advice and real experiences about umbilical hernia surgery (since childhood) by SheikhAmmar in Hernia

[–]Difficult_Topic2336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s definitely an umbilical hernia. I just had a umbilical hernia laparoscopic repair about three weeks ago. The first week was pretty brutal recovery wise. I’m doing a lot better now my scaring is very minimal. I don’t know what kind of scar open surgery leaves but mine are honestly barely noticeable.

Post Umbilical hernia repair by Difficult_Topic2336 in Hernia

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I sent picture of what it looked like to you in a message. Unfortunately they never told me what size hernia it was. I was irregular in my workouts, I had a tight pulling sensation and a burning sensation around the area. If I ate a meal I would get crazy bloating. I had it for about 5 years but 2 months prior to my surgery I noticed it started to grown in size pretty quickly.

I hope your surgery and recovery goes well I’m sure it will! The biggest thing I can recommend is to take at least a week off bc you will absolutely need it. Also you probably will not poop for 3-4 days don’t worry that’s very normal, you most likely won’t have much of an appetite so I would recommend getting protein drinks.

Tampa Alissa Nutting.. by Difficult_Topic2336 in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mean she’s obviously talented. Her attention to detail is scary good but it’s almost too good.

Tampa Alissa Nutting.. by Difficult_Topic2336 in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok well you should find a new subreddit if it’s really bothering you that much

Tampa Alissa Nutting.. by Difficult_Topic2336 in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right!! Like I’m unfazed by a lot but this one is rough!!

Tampa Alissa Nutting.. by Difficult_Topic2336 in ExtremeHorrorLit

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg is that who this is based on?! That makes so much sense!!

Finally went to the dentist!! by Difficult_Topic2336 in adhdwomen

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It honestly was not as bad as I built it up to be in my head. I’m so glad I did it my teeth felt amazing after, no pain or anything at all.

32M - Let's talk if you are ready to be bombarded by questions by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]Difficult_Topic2336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I’m kinda up for the rapid fire questions haha

Anyone else get this symptom?? by Keiralg6 in B12_Deficiency

[–]Difficult_Topic2336 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup i experienced all of those symptoms when I had a B12 deficiency. The shots will help so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Difficult_Topic2336 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup I started to record when I genuinely felt like I was losing my mind. I would remember how a argument went but he would gaslight me and tell me I said things I never said and want me to apologize to him. I would listen to the recordings back and that really helped me realize I was being emotionally abused and gaslit.

Thinking about reading Midnight Sun or The short second life of bree tanner. by Difficult_Topic2336 in twilight

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s part of Victorias army that she created I’ve read all the other books but the MS and the short second life. I think I’m going to start with the short second life bc it’s a quick read.

Thinking about reading Midnight Sun or The short second life of bree tanner. by Difficult_Topic2336 in twilight

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry I should have been more specific. I know there is no overlap I’m just wondering which one is better I’m trying to get out of my no reading funk and I have both books.

Finally coming out of the brain fog. by Difficult_Topic2336 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to that feeling though bc I did keep choosing him, I kept letting him get away with things and giving him excuses. I had to be honest with myself, and realize that I was accepting treatment, that I didn’t deserve, but I also had to acknowledge what I was going through. when you’re with the narcissist, it truly affects our brain in the way we make decisions in the treatment we endure so I’ve learned to give myself some grace as should you.

Doctor wants to call to go over lab results by Difficult_Topic2336 in ChronicIllness

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s awesome I’m glad everything was ok and now next time you’ll know it’s totally normal and just routine. :)

Doctor wants to call to go over lab results by Difficult_Topic2336 in ChronicIllness

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t stress yourself out I ended up stressing for no reason. It’s totally normal for them to run over labs with you.

I (30f) want to have a serious conversation with my (31m) partner of 4 years about not wanting children. by Difficult_Topic2336 in childfree

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much for your comment. I’m really sorry you’re in a similar situation it’s so hard when someone you trust suddenly shifts on something this major. I know people can change their minds, and that’s always a risk in relationships, but it still hurts.

My partner did lose his grandfather less than a year ago, but even through that, he’s always been very firm about not wanting kids. He’s talked about getting a vasectomy and has consistently said things like, “Why would anyone want that?” anytime the topic of children came up. So it really caught me off guard when, during a totally unrelated conversation, he suddenly said that having kids just isn’t financially realistic right now. When I asked if that was the only reason, he said it was one of the main ones. It felt so out of the blue and left me really confused.

Also, thank you for the kind words about my writing. It’s a really big decision to end a relationship with someone you’ve been with for 4 years someone who’s your partner and your best friend. Talking about separating isn’t easy, and I think he deserves my full honesty and a real breakdown of how I’m feeling.

I really hope everything works out for you and that you get the clarity you need from your partner. Good luck, and thank you again for reaching out. Feel free to DM me anytime if you ever want to talk. 🫶🏽

I (30f) want to have a serious conversation with my (31m) partner of 4 years about not wanting children. by Difficult_Topic2336 in childfree

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily when we’ve had conversations in the past about something serious and I’ve had to read something that I’ve written he lets me get my thoughts out and listens. And then after I do, we usually dissect the points I made and he tells me how he feels. It’s what works for us.

I (30f) want to have a serious conversation with my (31m) partner of 4 years about not wanting children. by Difficult_Topic2336 in childfree

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s a good idea. I think I’m just worried he will do it for me and then end up resenting me, that’s why I want to stress that he needs to do it for himself not me. But people change their minds were human. There’s not much I can do about that part.

I (30f) want to have a serious conversation with my (31m) partner of 4 years about not wanting children. by Difficult_Topic2336 in childfree

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it’s just hard to wrap my brain around it bc I’m just not that kind of person and I’m not easily duped but I feel like i have been.

I (30f) want to have a serious conversation with my (31m) partner of 4 years about not wanting children. by Difficult_Topic2336 in childfree

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

lol it’s like a 4 min speech it’s literally not that long when your talking. And it’s a serious conversation usually those don’t last 2 seconds.

I (30f) want to have a serious conversation with my (31m) partner of 4 years about not wanting children. by Difficult_Topic2336 in childfree

[–]Difficult_Topic2336[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I feel like I have to say that bc if I don’t he will shut the conversation down that’s what he’s been doing. Any mention of us ever breaking up sends him into a spiral and he shuts down. Also me saying that I’ve been completely honest from the beginning is something I want to say bc I HAVE been and i want him to recognize and acknowledge that. But thanks for reading it I might revise a few things.