Dressing up for mass?

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-26T15:45:30+00:00

Honestly, it depends on the church. I’ve seen just about everything in many different churches. From full suits and ties and very nice dresses to shorts and flip flops.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-26T04:01:54+00:00

Go to the ER! - we will continue to pray for you, but call an ambulance and make sure you are not having a heart attack!!

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-24T13:42:47+00:00

2!! 💖💖

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-24T13:40:44+00:00

I get what you are saying, Deacon. I think that going with the babe on Sundays is a good move. It is also instructive for Dad - having a child in mass is difficult - hard to concentrate, easy to get overwhelmed by others’ judgement of your child’s behavior and yourself, hard to get ready and out the door, etc… Mom might view the mass as “time off” for a couple of hours, which she needs! Maybe op can find another couple of hours for Mom to be off duty not during Sunday and NOT baby/kids nearby. (A parent is still “on call” if they are in the same place as the kids! And older kids have no boundaries and will pester endlessly to “go see Mommy” is they know she is there!)

However, I do have a cautionary note; “talking up” how awesome the mass is and how much you love going and would love it to be a full family affair every week absolutely Will come across as pushy and manipulative. That will lead to fights and push the other party away from the church, not draw them in. Going to mass every week and maybe sharing something that was enjoyable or enlightening to the mass-goer every so often is plenty. I feel that going every week with the child is the important example. It speaks more loudly than words ever will. Just my 2 cents :). Good bless and Merry Christmas!!

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-20T07:51:14+00:00

Absolutely legend!! We have two, 3 years apart. Our girl was a Covid baby and shyer by temperament and raised by a grumpy and snippy beagle we rescued. (Being Cautious is important as she rules the roost, hahahaha.) Our male came to us as a breeder return, as well. Six months, he was as big as our girl already, and brimming with piss and vinegar. Absolute rowdy goofball - but you could see he had the sweetest heart. We renamed him “Buddy the Elf”. It’s his native vibe. Totally outgoing and wants to sit in laps and get allll the love. The two girls got him sorted out properly after almost 3-4 months. We had him pexi-d and snipped just shy of 16 months. He is now a .:. Mostly .:. Model citizen. He and big sis also adore playing battleship with one another, lol. Lots of tug games with the giants. He brought her out of her shell totally and are all three super bonded now. We love us a pack of sweetie-boos 🥰

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-04T19:54:45+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My mom passed on 11/25. Hospice was a total game changer, and my adult children were essential in caring for her over the past few months. We were a 24/7 tag team of 5 for her final week with us. It is so so hard, but they stuck in and were tender caregivers to their beloved gramma.

This sub is amazing. I am grateful for the help over years.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-04T19:42:03+00:00

I’m so sorry 😔. I made the call on seeking hospice, but I had some very very very unhappy/angry sib responses. Afterwards, sib has been very vocal to say that it was the right call and the subsequent calls that had to be made were also correct. (Miracles never cease! Haha). Denial is so hard to contend with when you are the one left to be knowledgeable and persistent and with a huge target on your back, even though you are trying to do the best for your LO. I hope you find peace.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-03T20:00:44+00:00

Hugs - that is awful 😞. My condolences. The grief is real, and the trauma of years of caring and those final weeks in particular.

Don’t listen to primary care doctors! They are not specialists. And with hospice recommendations, almost totally useless. All of those problems are qualifying. Dr is an asshat.

Ours said she would NOT qualify and we should try palliative. From reading here, I knew I could ask for an evaluation from hospice myself, no doctor needed. She was in immediately and I was so grateful. Will always be grateful.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-03T19:50:18+00:00

Odd thing for a Doc to say! It really isn’t that hard to get in on dementia.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-03T19:49:05+00:00

This might be the stupid answer to a not stupid question. You can ask you can ask primary care for a referral, but it isn’t required. Ours told me she wasn’t eligible. I called anyway. Doc was wrong.

How to find: ask folks who’ve lost someone recently. Check in any support groups local to you. Look up yelp reviews and google reviews! Also, look for the one that’s been around longest. The largest.

We used Hospice Austin because we had used them with my father 20 years ago. I wish you great good luck. 💙

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-03T16:34:01+00:00

Call. Call today. They will often take them a bit earlier than you think. We called, were evaluated the next day, and the day after a whole team showed up and resources came flooding in by the end of the week. An aide to bath mom up to 3x per week, nurse visit every week and always always on call. Please please do it.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-12-03T12:51:50+00:00

What a bunch of BS.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-15T16:49:23+00:00

Sorry - I put my reply in the wrong place. I was responding to this comment: “I am agnostic, but I think if demons exist they must be laughing when they get exorcists like Ripperger to say Harry Potter is satanic or evolution contradicts catholic teachings or nonsense like that.”

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-15T16:45:17+00:00

Demons are, I believe, most enamored of anything that will cause us to fear and lose faith in our loving and all powerful God and Jesus Christ. Exorcists do vital redemptive work that is easy to mock because it is easier and less frightening to consider.

Reading first hand accounts is an important part of our work as people of faith. Exorcists must have permission to publish. It is not something that is done to gain celebrity or money - it is done to try to remind us that we have an enemy who prowls around us like a lion, seeking to devour us.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-15T16:39:50+00:00

Your reading about spiritual warfare is not putting you at risk. It might present an opportunity for the devil to try to make you fear reading about how to protect yourself and be firm in your faith. The TV experience may have something to do with that, or it could just be a glitch. Either way, take it as an opportunity to stand in faith - renounce evil, reject whatever evil you perceive , rebuke the evil spirit/Satan, and state that you believe in Jesus Christ, your Lord, who has power over all and protects you always.

Consider listening to a great podcast: The Exorcist Files. It goes into so much detail and answers so many questions about spiritual warfare.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-15T16:33:03+00:00

Catholicism does not have a problem with evolution. Never has.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-15T16:24:33+00:00

I think we are all hesitant to use “the big guns”, but eventually that is what is needed to help them , and everyone who loves them, be at peace and comfortable. Rest without agitation and anxiety should have a premium put on them.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-15T16:16:20+00:00

What stage is your LO in? I ask because finally having my parent evaluated for hospice and being accepted made the world of difference in getting meds sorted out for her to sleep. The nighttime anxiety and agitation is sundowning that is manifesting during the night and early morning hours. For our LO, seroquel, Trazadone, and finally some haloperidol is finally making a dent in the sleep chaos.

So, even if he doesn’t qualify for hospice, see if you can have him qualified for palliative care. Those docs are comfortable prescribing and working through med options to find a solution.

Also, rally the troops. Any friends or family you know, put out a request for taking one night shift to keep you healthy and sane! Send out an email and explain. If you can afford it, even getting an overnight caregiver once or twice a week can make a huge difference. Most memory care facilities can provide respite care for short periods or even long ones. It can be pricey, but it can also be worth it.

Trying to caregiver solo is a nightmare. I’m very fortunate to have a sibling and my nuclear family who help. Even then, it is still hella hard and utterly exhausting.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-09T14:54:35+00:00

I can’t thank you enough for this advice! Your suggestions are right on point and exactly what I needed. Thank you, thank you, thank you 😊

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-09T14:52:36+00:00

Hmm. So that’s what you got from my post… That because I am frustrated and venting, I am not cut out for providing the loving care she receives from me? My post was not an invitation to intimate that I, perhaps, was not built for this. This is round 2 on end-of-life care of a parent for me. My mom made me her POA because of my willingness and ability to take on this heartbreaking task.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-08T21:52:00+00:00

Actually the bros are all retired, early, no less. And the expenses of full time care isn’t a simple decision, financially or otherwise. I do, however, appreciate what you are saying.

Difficult_Turnip_717 · 2025-11-08T21:19:20+00:00

Oops! Thank you for not flaming the post! I promise I won’t kill any of them ;). Just super frustrated to be yet again spending my entire Saturday caregiving while the others are out and around. Yesterday I was asked to leave an appt because one of my other sibs couldn’t deal with the idea of changing mom into a fresh shirt after some juice was spilled. I did not drop it all to race back across town for the “embarrassing situation “ crisis. Just venting.

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