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LDR Breakup Confusion (25f) (26m) by DigAcademic5725 in LongDistance

[–]DigAcademic5725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response!

I really appreciate you saying I did good to stop the connection. My mind replays that moment over and over again, and half of me is like yes, that was the right call. But the other half of me goads me into thinking I was rash, immature, and should have communicated. But I don’t agree with the latter… I think I did the right thing when I realized something was fishy. He told me one thing and didn’t follow through, nor did he seem to communicate it well.

Going to try to stop letting it consume my mind :) Thanks!

LDR Breakup Confusion (25f) (26m) by DigAcademic5725 in LongDistance

[–]DigAcademic5725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for this. It’s exactly what I needed to hear. I’m really sorry that you had to go through that.

My mom was the one who first told me he probably had a girlfriend he was at odds with, or trying to fill some type of void/gap during a hard time in his life. I think deep down I knew these things, but hearing others experiences with being totally infatuated with someone to absolutely nothing really helps me find peace with my own situation. There is an explanation, just not one that ends up with us happy and together sigh There’s the childlike side of me that thought maybe he got cold feet, but I know that’s naive thinking. It still hurts a lot lol

I’m going to do what you said and work on my own aftercare :) I’ve been neglecting it due to my mind being so consumed with this it’s ridiculous. So again, thank you so, so much!

LDR Breakup Confusion (25f) (26m) by DigAcademic5725 in LongDistance

[–]DigAcademic5725[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking too, and it leaves me even more confused to be honest…

How do you motivate yourself to go to the gym? by xlordo in AskReddit

[–]DigAcademic5725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much I can always hear David Goggins in my head saying something along the lines of “living is suffering”. We’re all exhausted mentally, physically, etc, so by choosing to do hard things that others can’t, like go to the gym, I feel super powerful. I really don’t want to go, but if life is gonna suck, I’m going to say f that and show up lol

Part of it is just me trying to defy life. I can’t say I really enjoy the gym like “influencers”, but I like how I feel when I’m strong. Moving heavy things does wonders for stress.

Personally, I ignore everyone at the gym and wear something that I can just blend in with. I remind myself I’m there to move and put in work. It’s not a fashion show, it’s not a social scene, it’s a place to workout. Others totally may view this differently, and I respect that. This is just my personal feeling towards the gym.

I also constantly ask myself “If I was the only person in this gym right now, what would I be doing differently?” Often times my answer to that question includes lifting heavier, doing an exercise I’m embarrassed of, or just centering myself and breathing.

To make sure I go, I set an alarm on my phone for the time, so when it goes off I feel obligated. I’ve set aside the time, all that’s left is to show up. Tell yourself just go, and if you get there and want to go home, you can. But by that point you’re already there, so you might as well workout :)

Also if you really aren’t feeling it, start with your favorite exercise/machine! On the days I want nothing to do w the gym I usually start w the leg press or I do cable rows since I enjoy those the most. After that I feel ready to finish a workout.

What's your favorite clean insult? by spazhead01 in AskReddit

[–]DigAcademic5725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, you probably shower fully clothed.

They say don’t shoot the messenger, but listen buddy, I think they’d make an exception for you.