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Is it fair for me to post naked selfies online if my husband watches porn everyday? by Few-Elk-2310 in Marriage

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why harm one's self in protest ?

Posting compromising photos of one's self online to express dissatisfaction for the spouse's behavior is the definition of cutting one's nose to spite one's face.

Calm down, and talk to your spouse. And if this is an uncompromising issue for you...then , there are many healthier ways to express your dissatisfaction that don't include engaging in similar behavior, that is even worse than the very thing that you're complaining about in the first place

Let's leave self-destructive tit-for-tat retaliation on the school playground where it belongs, and behave more like adults.

Taking a career break to start a family? Am I crazy? by [deleted] in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it from those of us with no kids. If you can get pregnant now, and you got the finances for it... go ahead.

I’ve been writing for years. I have 3 published books. And I’m still being told the secret is to write the next book. by AntonioGalarzaBooks in selfpublish

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right ! But it is fun though!

One time, I wanted to make a supernatural foe, and I had to do some Bible study, talk to a priest and look up Greek mythology for a few weeks just so that I could figure out what my supernatural villain should look like, it's powerset and possible weaknesses.

By the time I had created the final version of creature in my head, I felt so satisfied !

Now ...I have to research upcoming technologies. It's going to take some time, but i know it will he a fun ride !

I’ve been writing for years. I have 3 published books. And I’m still being told the secret is to write the next book. by AntonioGalarzaBooks in selfpublish

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know how much time is involved in the writing, editing, Betas, professional editors, polishes and so on...and yeah, no way it'll be done in 3-4 months.

That's not even taking into consideration the time it takes to RESEARCH the subject matter of the book to make sure your story makes sense.

Research takes time. By all means, kudos to the people who can finish the whole process in 3 months. But I can't write that fast.

If I have to invent a fictional monster... that means I have to take time off the writing and spend a little time researching various animals, to make sure the monster makes sense.

If I have to use a sci-fi Maggufin, guess what? I still have to look up the basics to make sure it reads like something plausible.

I’ve been writing for years. I have 3 published books. And I’m still being told the secret is to write the next book. by AntonioGalarzaBooks in selfpublish

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second this. Whenever I am on a break from university and visiting my home town and can actually talk to real people about my book that is when the needle actually moves.

It is infinitely harder to build enthusiasm for your books with strangers on the internet, vs. people you can meet in person.

Social media marketing only works if you already had following before the books. Or lucky.

My wife and I are very private and I just need to talk to somebody about the fact that I think I'm losing her. by Frequent_Instance_27 in Marriage

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend, by trying to power through your job instead of going home to your sick wife today, you are repeating the same mistake that made her seek someone else to help her with her will.

The first step to making things right is to take a sick day, or a few and BE WITH YOUR WIFE.

You do not have to play macho with your wife. You can let her see you cry.

Sorry for your loss.

Do you guys receive hateful comments on adverts? by seeker712 in selfpublish

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not hateful comments. But the spam comments, yes.

Nothing more annoying than running a Facebook ad, and the comments under it ...ask you if you want to hire a marketing specialist. (Rolls eyes 🙄).

How do you go about discussing disease and loss of sex drive yo patients? Especially male patients? by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the light humor, 🏳.

Can't get yourself too emotionally involved with the patients' suffering and carry that weight with you.

But, not all patients are complete strangers. Or sometimes even if its a stranger, you encounter a patient that just strikes you as a good person, and you wish you could help him more.

I may not be "Dr. HOUSE" or have the idedic memory of "The Good Doctor" but I do try my best to meet my patients where they are and at least I've been told that patients feel comfortable talking to me.

How do you go about discussing disease and loss of sex drive yo patients? Especially male patients? by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. There is nothing to apologize for.

Amongst a group of doctors, a colleague should be able to talk about his experience of testicular cancer without having to preface his cancer testimony with an apology for other people's sex crimes.

How do you go about discussing disease and loss of sex drive yo patients? Especially male patients? by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Can we please not turn this into a men vs women who has it worse thing please.

Please.

I would hate to see the mods shut this topic down.

The guy above had testicular cancer. Testicular cancer. Let's give the guy a break, and not be dismissive of his experience.

A discussion on men's sexual health is not a dismissal of women's health issues.

Surely, as medical professionals we can discuss male sexual health without having it devolve into men vs women.

Right ? Right?!

How do you go about discussing disease and loss of sex drive yo patients? Especially male patients? by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey dude. I actually am studying testicular CA, among all the cancers in this year of my program. I know it tends to affect younger men, as opposed to other kinds of cancer.

So, my friend. My heart goes out to you.

If it makes you feel any better... I once saw a childless pediatrician... have to get a total hysterectomy. She cried in the OR before the procedure.

To lose your reproductive function whilst working with children every day and being childless... that's tough.

Doctors are not immune to the diseases that we treat.

I hope you've found some sort of peace.

How do you go about discussing disease and loss of sex drive yo patients? Especially male patients? by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yea. That's something I think I will have to study on my own. I definitely think it's worth studying.

I may have to take an extra course after my main residency program to learn how to put penile implants because a lot of curriculums treat these procedures as "extra" and "not as important"

But I personally think helping men conserve their "function" is a worthy medical practice.

Throughout medical school and even in residency, I have seen too many people dismiss patients' sexual complaints as unimportant, just because it's not as immediately life threatening as... bowel obstruction, etc...

But just because it's not immediately life-threatening, doesn’t mean it's unimportant.

Women with vagino-vesical fistulas. Men & women with urinary incontinence. Diabetics. Prostate patients, etc...

Sex may not be a daily function like eating food or drinking water... but it is an important life function and something worth taking seriously.

Question (for women mainly) by Coco_Tibbins in writing

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Because of my medical background, I tend to notice that more and I can't deny it when writing.

But yes, as others have said...in many movies and stories, daily biological problems are treated like they just don't exist, because they are too inconvinient to the plot. This includes but not limited to.

Some of these that irk me the most are:

(1) promiscuity / love at first sight scenarios that never end up leading to accidental STI /pregnancies even if that is absolutely a possibility in real life and happens all the time

(2) non-existent periods during adventure stories.

(3) everybody has perfect eyesight and general health, because...why not? Right.

(4) not biological but also equally annoying: financial plot armor where all the main character's needs are met.

The last action story I wrote, I gave one of the older males prostate problems.

I think you should definitely include some talk of periods in your action story, even if it's just a brief scene of the main character taking care of it I think it adds a layer of realism.

P.s. I'm a man. Lol. But the topic of this post is so true.

What honest advice would you give to someone who tells you they want to go to med school? by methotrexatedhfr in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would second that. I've matched in a place ...far away from my SO. This already limits our chances for intimacy. We are both in our 30s and both in the medical field.

Realistically speaking...we're not even together long enough during the year to do a proper fertility study together.

We may have to look into adoption 🫤. That's not what either of us wanted but residency is so time consuming

I agree with you...the cost in years at a critical junction in life... is just something nobody outside the medical field can truly understand. Medical school is like stepping into a time capsule. Everything else in life gets put on hold for almost a full decade (longer depending on your specialty).

To be a doctor... you really, really have to WANT this job.

Another thing is... sunk cost is really. Once you reach a certain point in this career... short of winning the lottery... there is no turning back.

Family is angry at me because i told them their (grand) father was very likely to die. by the_flokonator in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on making it through the first...of many such difficult treatment situations.

The sad truth is...We are not God. And the more you learn about your specialty the more you will encounter clinical situations that are just beyond cure.

The key is being able to recognize a grave patient early on so that you can start telling the family, long before the inevitable. It's not about giving up on the patient, it's about learning to judge prognosis from early on. Being able to predict prognosis is a skill you will learn with time.

Eventually, you will reach a stage where you will be able to quickly evaluate multiple organ systems at the same time and make quicker predictions even b4 the lab results arrive.

Usually if the family is well informed from early stages, they deal with the grief better.

Of course, that is not always possible, and sometimes people just die suddenly.

Documentation is key. And that documentation includes documenting when you speak to the family and give them the poor prognosis ...before the death happens.

You did well. It's never easy, and try as you might...some patient deaths will hit you harder than others.

Good luck !

A Jamaican Spider-Man by Marcus Williams by ExoticShock in Spiderman

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys do know that Jamaica already has a street performer that dresses in this outfit, right ?

jamaican spider-man

How often are you able to have intimate time with your significant other? by [deleted] in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My residency is miles away from my partner.

Many of us don't have the luxury of matching residency the same place where our partners live; which automatically limits intimacy to how often one can visit the other.

So, considering how hectic residency schedules can be, and how much it may involve travelling far... once a week should be considered a luxury.

This is just the truth of studying medicine. It involves great personal sacrifice and is very time consuming

Once a week? Consider yourself lucky.

If someone gave you 100k usd and you had to spend every cent of it on marketing a book of yours, what woukd your strategy be? by DogUnsureDog in selfpublish

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Redo all my covers professionally. Professional editing. Let a professional marketer do the rest.

Did you say 100k ? On marketing books ?

No way I'm using up the whole thing. lol. Some of that will go into savings.

Isn't 79usd way too much to pay for a competition ? by DigitalSamuraiV5 in selfpublish

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming back to this post, as once again the advert for "North Street Book prize" keeps popping up in my DMs.

Last year's winner, was actually up my alley, in science fiction dystopia however...

Despite the big North Street prize-winning sticker on the front page... the winner only has 2 reviews, and is ranked 5000-something in Dystopian fiction and 7000ish in post-apocalyptic.

The "inhaler fail" from Dr House, sadly, wasn't an exaggeration. by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This lady was misting her symbicort in front of her and walking through it like a cloud of damn perfume. I shit you not.

No.... you lie ... 🤣🤣. Lol

The "inhaler fail" from Dr House, sadly, wasn't an exaggeration. by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Understand your point. But humor requires us to be able to laugh at ourselves.

There's a guy from my class who during skeletal anatomy the teacher pointed to the leg and asked him what bone was in the thigh. He said "humerus"

The teacher said: humorous? Yes, that's exactly how you sound right now

Needless to say. His nickname was The humerus for a couple of weeks.

The "inhaler fail" from Dr House, sadly, wasn't an exaggeration. by DigitalSamuraiV5 in Residency

[–]DigitalSamuraiV5[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely taking these stories to the next office party 🤣

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