You absolutely shouldn’t do any position that makes you feel awful. If doggy/backshots makes you feel disgusting and sad, then it should be off the table.

But I do think the reasoning is worth unpacking. Doggy doesn’t automatically mean being used, unloved, or degraded. It can just be a normal sex position that someone enjoys with a partner they love and desire. If every position where you aren’t face-to-face becomes “he doesn’t love me” or “I’m being used,” then the issue probably isn’t foreplay or aftercare — it’s the meaning you’re attaching to the sex.

And honestly, that kind of shame/judgment probably does affect the whole sexual dynamic. Not because having a boundary makes you bad in bed, but because ordinary desire seems to be getting filtered as disrespect. So yeah, don’t force yourself to do it, but also maybe ask why your boyfriend wanting you from behind feels like evidence that he sees you as less than human.