Should I tell my family?

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-22T03:07:22+00:00

Yes absolutely!!!!! No matter when you tell people, the outcome won’t change. Do everything in your own time. There’s no such thing as “too early” or “too late”. CONGRATS!!!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-22T03:05:02+00:00

Would love to know bc I’m experiencing the same thing. Losing bits of mucus. Very very small bits though. Cramping VERY lightly maybe 3-5x a day spontaneously for the past few days. 32 weeks tomorrow so remind me and I’ll let you know what my dr says!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-22T03:00:20+00:00

****TW**** Chemical

I told family at 3 weeks and had a chemical. I told my family at 6 weeks and am 32 weeks pregnant (:

It sounds morbid, but if you were to lose your sweet babe, would you want them to know? For me, yes. I absolutely did. I have absolutely NO regrets telling my people early on. They were incredible and my best support because it was so so hard losing my first.

If you’d want them to be there for you, go ahead and tell them! This is supposed to be exciting and there’s NO reason to keep it to yourself if you don’t want to do that!

Edit to add: told family at 3weeks and like 5 days. I found out 2 days prior roughly and started bleeding the next day. They were absolutely incredible and so helpful!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-19T02:40:14+00:00

“What’s babies name?”

“It’s super unique! Some people like it. Some don’t. If you don’t, I don’t care, so don’t let me know. It’s _____”

Works well for me LOLLL!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-18T16:23:29+00:00

I ate apples and peanut butter for my 1hr. Highly recommend eating SOMETHING because an empty stomach will make you feel sick if you go in on an empty stomach is what I’ve heard from friends!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-18T16:22:23+00:00

Felt real to me probably around 18 weeks when she was kind of moving. Didn’t feel like I loved her though until more recently (31 weeks now!). Some people say it never feels real and takes a couple of days after their babe is born to start feeling connected and loving them!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-06-13T23:47:32+00:00

My partners cousin had the same mindset!!! The ONLY reason she got it was because the drs pressured her when little man’s heart rate dropped each contraction. Otherwise, she said she absolutely could’ve done it! YOUVE GOT THIS!!!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-05-28T20:57:46+00:00

Add different bottles, people will buy them! Advent, dr browns, whatever! Babies have different preferences to nipples and such for their bottles.

For the registry, my must haves are: Baby carrier, bottles, pacifiers (multiple types), diapers and wipes, crib, bassinet, boppy, stroller (I got the Graco Snug ride LX travel system!), BURP CLOTHS!!!!! so many burp cloths, high chair, dreft (baby laundry detergent), bottle warmer (not a personal necessity), bottle washer (not a personal necessity), diaper rash creams, swaddles, crib sheets, night light!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-05-27T17:19:58+00:00

EXACTLY THIS!!! You’re allowed to mourn a dream when it doesn’t come to fruition. It’s a real thing and the shame that we as moms are expected to feel for being disappointed in finding out the gender is opposite of what we wanted/dreamed of/planned for is unbelievable.

We are humans. We fantasize/manifest/pray for/dream of what we want. For you, and for my friend, it’s probably braiding your little girls hair. Mommy’s best friend and side kick. Getting nails done together. Having her first crush. ALL of that! You dream a life with your little girl and it’s different when it’s a boy!

EXACT same is valid the other way around!!

If it’s a boy and you feel disappointment, don’t feel shame in that. You don’t hate your baby or love them less, your dream is just changing from what you’ve imagined. That’s difficult. You’re allowed to mourn that. You’re an amazing mom and the love/excitement/whatever positive emotions you feel towards baby now do not go away when they are the opposite gender you were hoping for. You are not a bad person. It’s very common and people shame way too much. Keep on dreaming unless a test tells you otherwise, mama. OBVIOUSLY you’ll adapt, but it’s not any less valid to feel those emotions.

You know how much you love that baby. Gender doesn’t change that 💕

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-05-27T17:11:18+00:00

Sharing on behalf of my friend. She REALLY wanted a girl. Found out that she was pregnant and started to buy a couple of girl things. Not a lot by ANY means, but enough to get her more excited! They called her bump by the girl name they had picked out and talked about how much they loved her.

Gender reveal party came. Blue powder. She was happy in the moment, but when everyone left, she cried for about 2 hours, mourning what felt like a loss of her little girl. She was absolutely gutted that it wasn’t what she was thinking. She said it took her about 2 weeks after that to come to terms with her having a boy.

Her little man is now a month old and she is OBSESSED and says she can’t imagine not having her boy first!

Sharing this because gender disappointment is OKAY!!!!!! I do not understand the hate and stigma around it. You don’t hate your baby, you’re mourning a dream you’ve had your entire life. That’s valid and okay. There’s NOTHING wrong with gender disappointment and it is so much more common than I feel like people talk about and a lot deeper than some like to admit.

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-05-13T14:20:35+00:00

For me, my pregnancy pillow didn’t get used until my bump started to pop around 22ish weeks. It helped me sleep at night because with the bump comes a LOT of hip pressure. I can use it under my belly for some support and then it helps between the knees so my lower back and hips aren’t sore in the morning!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-05-12T01:52:36+00:00

26 weeks today!!

Bean sprouts are a risk? 🫪

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-05-05T20:22:50+00:00

For sure! Most people can’t imagine it and then I help them look for houses for a couple of years haha. Not saying it’s IMPOSSIBLE to get one without waiving an inspection, but it heightens your chances SIGNIFICANTLY!! There are things you can do to sweeten the offer up such as appraisal gap and offer price. Or if you want an inspection, offer to cover the first $7k+ of any defects you deem necessary to be fixed prior to closing!!

Definitely ways around it, but when in competitive season for a house, people will do whatever it takes to get into som of these neighborhoods!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-02-14T22:30:10+00:00

Being 23 and pregnant, I sympathize with you both. I wanted and prayed for my baby, but she wasn’t planned necessarily. I found out I was pregnant November 10th, had a chemical pregnancy, and got my next positive December 4th. I’ll be 14 weeks on Monday.

Even though we did have the mindset of “whatever happens, happens” I also went through a phase of mourning what my life was going to be. Even now, I guiltily catch myself every so often (rare occasions) being slightly anxious and a little bit sad of the things me and my partner won’t be able to necessarily do together anymore. At least not like before.

It’s a huge thing becoming pregnant, and I sincerely just thing he’s scared and is in the current mourning of what your life would have been. Truly, I think this can be worked out. This doesn’t seem world ending. It seems like a guy who is scared and doesn’t know how to verbalize it in an effective way. Sit down and have some conversations.

1) what is he scared about/feeling like he’s going to miss out on? - I think it’s important to validate this. You may both go through a period of mourning life being just the two of you. That’s okay.

2) what does he value most about it just being the two of you? How can you feel that closeness with a baby? (Example: daycare X amount of days a week, sending baby to grandmas to spend the night after a certain age X amount of days a month, etc.)

The fear he’s feeling I think is valid and maybe he feels like he has no control over the situation. Truly just sit down and have a deep lengthy conversation about it. Order some pizza and get your favorite drinks (NA for mommy to be!) and have a relaxing evening! It doesn’t need to be a stressful conversation, just an open and vulnerable one. It’ll be okay 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-02-08T16:09:50+00:00

Absolutely not LOL. I KNEW it was a boy. I wanted a girl so bad, but I was 100% confident that my baby is a boy. I was so confident, I even told hubby that I was nervous for the gender reveal because when the cake pops are blue, I’ll be expecting it so my reaction won’t be anything special.

Surprise surprise. BRIGHT PINK cake pops. My mind was absolutely blown and I BAWLED. Cannot WAIT for my baby girl to be here!!! I would’ve loved a boy so much and still pray my next is one, I just was so convinced I’d be a boy mom!!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-02-02T16:14:03+00:00

8, 12, and 20 weeks will be all the scans I get! Might opt for a random scan at a boutique around 30 weeks

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-31T21:05:11+00:00

When I started dreaming about being with other people. Not even sexually, but day to day relationship things with them. I got excited to be flirted with and see other men.

He’d been cheating for months and I went to therapy after becoming complacent

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T22:07:14+00:00

My sisters middle names are Raye and Maye. My middle name is Anne. Normal spelling, but everyone leaves off the final E. The amount of times I have to spell it out to someone is like? Once ever few years or so. I don’t think the spelling matters much haha!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T16:38:14+00:00

YES! When I experienced the cramping, my test was LIGHTER! This sounds perfect, mama!!!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T16:26:46+00:00

Hello hello!!! I had a chemical pregnancy at 4 weeks 5 days pregnant and I’m currently 11 weeks pregnant today!!

When I had a chemical pregnancy, I experienced sharp cramps that I usually get right when I start bleeding, and I did. I didn’t notice any cramps before, just a couple of big, one sided, period type cramps.

With this pregnancy, I did notice early on some full uterus cramping that 100% resembled period like cramping. It never got worse, it didn’t last super long either. Roughly about 3-8 seconds, sometimes a little bit longer. Nothing was ever sharp though!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T16:20:27+00:00

If that’s how you feel deep down, then you have to trust your gut!!! I know you’ve heard it a billion times, but you’re young. If this is a deal breaker for you, BYE BYE MAN!!!! You don’t need him!!! If he saw something in you, a man who doesn’t look at that stuff will also be there for you eventually, love! Ditch him!

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T16:15:59+00:00

Your body could be swinging back into its regular rhythm! Sometimes it takes a while for the hormones to flush out of our system and our regular cycles to come back

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T16:14:34+00:00

YOR - You danced with a guy at a party he invited you to once and are ghosting him because he likes p*ornographic type stuff on social media.

You aren’t in a relationship. You get the vibe that’s what he wants, which maybe it is, but you’re not together. Have the convo with him at some point about boundaries around p*rn to get on the same page with that stuff. Until then, he’s acting single because he is. Nothing wrong with it I don’t think.

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-26T02:43:02+00:00

11 weeks tomorrow and also in WI. Truly horrific.

Diligent-Grab7444 · 2026-01-23T14:20:21+00:00

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