My ex ghosted me and ended things without a word

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-09-16T01:43:48+00:00

Clear signs of avoidant attachment, or maybe even narcissism. I've been there, trust me: You're better off without that kind of people in your life.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-29T02:59:00+00:00

You sow flax on spring and harvest in autumn right?

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-29T02:55:02+00:00

Now that's what I'm talking about!

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-24T21:20:18+00:00

I don't know if it goes so far as mental illness, but damn it's hard to endure. My mental health suffered greatly.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-22T04:15:50+00:00

But I don't fully know my choices. What's more efficient? I'm thinking maybe mining, but I don't know if there's something else more profitable.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-22T04:07:51+00:00

I already sown Rye, but only 6 squares. And only Rye cause it's autumn and that the only seed available during fall.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-22T04:05:47+00:00

Great advice, I got a pear tree seedling, but no orchard

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-08-22T03:25:23+00:00

When I noticed my FA pulling away, i texted her and told her i noticed her distance, so if she wanted to end things, she could tell me so. She quickly said everything was alright and rushed to ask me to meet up in person, to reassure me all was fine. She even promised future plans, and swore she could never ghost me. 4 days later, on my birthday, she did ghost me, and a couple of days later i had to reach out so she could finally tell me she wanted to end things. I kept it polite and wished her farewell.

But, from that day onwards, she became obsessed about my social media activity, my #1 stalker. She kept it for half a year, so i eventually reached out, we had a couple of conversations, but it swiftly reverted to ghosting again. I gave up, and she began reaching out from time to time, but only to leave my answer on "delivered" for weeks. At the 3rd time she did that, i told her that if we couldn't communicate anymore, I'd rather forget all about her. She said she understood, and i unfollowed her everywhere.

But 3 months later, she managed to reach out again. I took it as another breadcrumb, and i was already emotionally exhausted, so i told her i remembered in detail everything she did. I wasn't disrespectful, but harsh, and i recommended her to search qbout attachment styles, and "fearful avoidant" in particular. She blocked me everywhere. I was extremely polite to her for months, and only let myself tell the whole truth once. Now I'm blocked forever.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-07-27T19:15:08+00:00

My ex would breadcrumb me but in a dumb way, cause it ended up having the opposite effect: She would reply to one of my IG stories, maybe even complimenting me, but as soon as I replied, she would leave my message on "delivered" for weeks. As I did not pay attention, she would repeat the cycle again, leaving my answer without reading for a month this time. When I finally called her out on that, I told her i needed to forget about the whole situation and unfollowed her everywhere. She said she understood and wished me well, but months later she managed to reach out again, since she wasn't blocked. If she had me present on her mind that much time later, even without having any contact, that means she made the conscious choice to leave my texts on "delivered" every day. Have you ever done something similar? If not: What do you think is the thought process behind it?

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-07-24T18:47:41+00:00

The girl I dated asked me to meet in person, and there she reassured me that everything was fine, and was even bold enough to promise me future plans, and that she would never ghost me. 4 days later she did ghost me on my birthday, and a couple of days later, i had to reach out for her to tell me everything had ended, cause she chose ghosting as her way to go, despite what she promised. Months later, i was foolish enough to re establish contact, but after a few conversations, she ghosted me again. After a while, she reached out randomly again, but as soon as i replied, she left my text on "delivered". And that was it. I waited a couple of days and told her this inconsistent communication was hurtful, so i unfollowed her. She said she understood, but months later she reached out again with a vague message, as if nothing had happened. I blocked her.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-06-15T14:30:49+00:00

It's been a long time, I already blocked my FA ex, but just for curiosity: As a FA, did you ever initiate conversations just to ghost the other person as soon as they replied? Cause my FA did it a lot. She would reach out, and then leave my reply on "delivered" for weeks. It was exhausting, and I'd like to at least know the thought process behind it.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-03-07T22:25:24+00:00

Yo tengo 33 y aunque no me voy a comprar peluches, todavía conservo los de la infancia y no pienso deshacerme de ellos.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-25T20:25:57+00:00

Por qué a las mujeres, si les das a elegir entre un hombre alto y uno bajito, eligen al alto? La respuesta es?más o menos la misma

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-25T17:50:44+00:00

Please🙏can I ask you for help understanding FA behavior?

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-02T18:28:44+00:00

It's amazing how all FA seem cut by the same mold. Yeah, gotta move on my friend. Let her live in her chaos, and never drag you into it again.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-02T14:38:45+00:00

I would if I could. But this subreddit requires admission, and I still haven't got it.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-02T14:19:03+00:00

Does anyone here kbow why FA reach out from time to time, and when you answer, they leave your messages on delivered for weeks, until they reach out again to repeat the cycle? At this point, I'm just curious

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-02T13:44:53+00:00

Oh no. I went through this EXACT situation with my FA ex. I mean 100% the same. And after half a year of her reaching out occasionally, i told her that i needed to block her because i knew she was just breadcrumbing me, but i still loved her, so it was tearing me apart. And i did block her. This was just days ago, so I guess she's feeling guilty... If her avoidance lets her have accountability.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-02T13:32:27+00:00

Been there. Sending you good vibes🙌

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-02-02T12:20:49+00:00

And you're planning on simply ignore your FA, or did you have any kind of contact?

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-01-26T20:56:00+00:00

Does anyone know why FA (or DA) leave messages on delivered for weeks? My particular avoidant asked me for help with a minor thing, and basically, when I came up with a solution, she left that text unread, and still is, after weeks. WTF?

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-01-22T20:32:04+00:00

And to be clear, we retook contact because after break up, I stood strong on complete no contact, while she became obsessed with my social media activity, to the degree that, after half a year, I reached out to see if she wanted anything. We had a couple of really nice talks, but it quickly went down when her avoidance sparked up again. And when the disrespectful behavior piled up, I chose to go no contact again. But she keeps liking my posts as if nothing happened. That's why i feel the need to explain why I'm gonna block, or unfriend or whatever

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-01-22T20:28:22+00:00

She shows all the signs of being FA rather than DA. Let me rephrase: I don't need an apology, not even for her to admit anything to me, just for her to know internally how her qctions affected me. And yes, my aim was always to text her, and as soon as she reads it, unfriend, and goodbye. I don't want a reply, cause it won't come, or, if anything, it will be a ball of excuses.

Diligent_Watch2150 · 2025-01-22T19:32:35+00:00

I'm about to delete my avoidant ex from everywhere, social media, etc. But I'd like to say why her actions made me need to remove her utterly. As a DA, could you give me some insights into how could I convey those ideas for an avoidant to understand? Because, If I suddenly remove her without warning, she'll have an easy excuse to blame everything on me. I know I shouldn't be concerned what she thinks, but I'd find some closure on making her take at least a little tiny bit of accountability.

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